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AIBU?

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birthday meal

234 replies

helenenemo · 31/08/2014 20:32

I'm vegetarian. On most other birthdays we go to a local steakhouse and I have the one veggie option on the menu!!

It's my birthday next and I've chosen a lovely vegetarian/vegan place. Apparently I'm totally unreasonable and should change to somewhere with meat. I disagree so I'm turning it over to the lovely folk of MN!

Aibu?

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RubbishRobotFromTheDawnOfTime · 31/08/2014 20:34

YANBU.

Anyone who can't manage one meal without meat is probably a bit dim and definitely unhealthy.

ICanSeeTheSun · 31/08/2014 20:34

Yanbu your birthday your choice

notnowbernard · 31/08/2014 20:35

Your birthday, you choose

Janethegirl · 31/08/2014 20:36

YANBU however some people may choose not to attend your birthday bash if meat is that important to them.

PumpkinBones · 31/08/2014 20:36

Yanbu, and I speak as a meat eater!

AlfAlf · 31/08/2014 20:37

YANBU. Who else is going? Is it a family meal?

Gileswithachainsaw · 31/08/2014 20:38

Yabu

You do know that non vegetarians drop down dead if they have to eat a meal without meat don't you.

Of course Yanbu they are being selfish and ignorant and ridiculous. If they gave it a chance I'm sure they'd actually enjoy a lot of the things on the menu.

shoopshoopsong · 31/08/2014 20:38

Of course YANBU and anyone that can't go with out meat for one meal is weird and I wouldn't bother inviting anyway

LatteLoverLovesLattes · 31/08/2014 20:40

Oh... Oh... oh...o

This very conversation started the MF of all rows one year. Apparently, even on your birthday, one year out of all the many, it is selfish to go to a vegetarian restaurant Hmm

seasavage · 31/08/2014 20:40

Your birthday, your choice

AlpacaMyBags · 31/08/2014 20:40

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SueDoku · 31/08/2014 20:41

YANBU - your birthday, your choice (and anyone who can't manage a meatless meal is the fussiest of fussy eaters). I love a steak - but I'm also very happy with a pasta dish, a pizza - or any other vegetarian option if I fancy it.

CookieLady · 31/08/2014 20:41

It's your birthday, your choice. YANBU.

MrsWinnibago · 31/08/2014 20:41

Yanbu. Of course not. If they can't even IMAGINE a meal without meat could be nice then they're asshats.

We've had a lovely vegetarian cottage pie tonight. Was gorgeous. Much nicer than a meaty one...I eat meat but DH doesn't.

TheNumberfaker · 31/08/2014 20:42

Yanbu. Your birthday, your choice!

LindyHemming · 31/08/2014 20:42

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Cantbelievethisishappening · 31/08/2014 20:45

My DH is a die hard meat eater and we go to a vegan restaurant from time to time and he loves it. It's your birthday. YANBU. They are probably thinking it will just be lentils and...lentils. They should use this as an opportunity to educate themselves.

Username12345 · 31/08/2014 20:45

YANBU.

LatteLoverLovesLattes · 31/08/2014 20:46

Alpaca that's what normally happens, but you know, just for once it would be nice to go somewhere that offers something really different, where there are as many choices as meat eaters get in a regular restaurant etc

If anyone has any recommendations I'd love to hear them :) I have a couple of trips away soon and I'd be keen to follow any suggestions :)

Silverdaisy · 31/08/2014 20:51

I will disagree. People are coming to your birthday dinner, I assume at their cost? As it's your meal out you are the host (technically). I would want my friends to look forward to a meal out for my birthday.

I understand their choices were not to your liking, but two wrongs don't make a right.

ShadowStar · 31/08/2014 20:52

YANBU.

Your birthday, your choice.

One vegetarian meal is hardly going to kill them.

hamptoncourt · 31/08/2014 20:54

YANBU

But to be honest I am very "Fit in or fuck off."

Viviennemary · 31/08/2014 20:54

YABU. I like vegetarian food but lots of people aren't keen. And if money is tight and they don't go out for many meals they will want to go somewhere they can have their favourite meal. But on the other hand you don't usually get much choice so perhaps you have a point.

Cantbelievethisishappening · 31/08/2014 20:55

Silver
Do you not think the OP would like to be able to choose from more than one dish on her birthday? People can have preconceived ideas about vegan food and my guess is that none of them have ever eaten at a vegan restaurant before. It's just one meal..... surely they can stop whinging and just embrace a different dining experience for someone's birthday.

ohmychrist · 31/08/2014 20:55

YANBU! It'll do them some good to eat protein that isn't meat for once.

May I come too, please?