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Original poster

to think dd is too young for a 'adjoining' room

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beluga425 · 16/02/2014 14:17

In a big chain hotel abroad. She's 2. She has her own room at home, but surely she's too little for her own hotel room. Makes me feel v queasy. Am I being pfb?

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juneau · 16/02/2014 14:20

So have her in with you! I wouldn't pay for a separate room for a 2-year-old.

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beluga425 · 16/02/2014 14:21

Precisely what I'm saying

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MollyHooper · 16/02/2014 14:21

No you're not being pfb,

I wouldn't be comfortable with that.

Casmama · 16/02/2014 14:22

No not pfb- I wouldn't do it with a 2 year old either.

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beluga425 · 16/02/2014 14:22

oops, posted too soon. DH wants privacy/space, but I'd prefer us all together.

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sadbodyblue · 16/02/2014 14:22

no of course that far too young. put her between you or get a family room.

MetellaEstMater · 16/02/2014 14:23

If 'adjoining' means a door which can be opened between the two then I think that's fine. If it just means next door then is also be uncomfortable.

sadbodyblue · 16/02/2014 14:23

privacy from a 2 year old?? how so and why?

phantomnamechanger · 16/02/2014 14:24

no way would I put a 2yo in their own hotel room.

Blu · 16/02/2014 14:26

In a room joined to yours by a connecting door and no way for her to get on to the outside corridor, yes. In the next room, no.

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 16/02/2014 14:26

I doubt you will find a hotel which will let you do that unless you have interconnecting rooms which is different from adjoining. Your DH is BVU.

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beluga425 · 16/02/2014 14:27

MetellaEstMater I think it's both, a link door, but I don't like the idea of another room, and the fact it would also have its own door that someone else could open.

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Blu · 16/02/2014 14:27

I mean it would be ok if it is a connected room, like a suite, but if you have to go into the corridor to get to her, no.

NatashaBee · 16/02/2014 14:29

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FannyFifer · 16/02/2014 14:34

A two year old in a separate room, make your husband sleep in the separate room if he wants privacy, ridiculous.

mummymeister · 16/02/2014 14:35

Wow, this is far too young. cant even believe you had to ask tbh. I thought you were talking about a 10 or 12 year old.

hamptoncourt · 16/02/2014 14:36

Would you be better off holidaying in an apartment rather than a hotel room OP? That way there is only one way in and out but DC can be in a separate room?

I wouldn't have my 2 year old in a separate hotel room, adjoining door or not as I would be worried someone could get in the main door without me hearing. Not much of a holiday for you OP if you are lying awake all night listening for such things.

What is DH problem with sharing with DC anyway? Surely he isn't expecting spicy bedroom shenanigans when you have a toddler in tow? I bet it's all about the bumsex

SingMoreWhenYoureWinning · 16/02/2014 14:38

Some of these examples are a little ott!

We had an adjoining room for the dc when abroad when they were 3 and 1!

Reasoning was, we wanted to be able to relax in our room in the evening without having to whisper/tip toe/keep the lights down and the TV off.

The door to their room was deadbolted from the inside. As was their window. The connecting door was open (slightly).

Overall it made for a much more stress-free holiday. It's no different to the dc sleeping in their own room at home.

SingMoreWhenYoureWinning · 16/02/2014 14:40

Also, I don't disagree with your dh wanting privacy.

Not much fun trying to have a bit of adult holiday sex romance with a nipper in the room!

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 16/02/2014 14:40

A connected room with a door between? We do this with ours - they are five and two.

We lock their door and keep the door between open - so much easier with more space etc, and you have somewhere to put them down for a nap in the afternoon if you want to be indoors, without having to whisper and sit in the dark.

peepingoutofhtetumbledrier · 16/02/2014 14:49

I think it would be OK if you can truly bolt their corridor door from the inside so no one at all can get in, even hotel staff with passkey/cards.

I still wouldn't feel all that comfortable about it though.

hamptoncourt · 16/02/2014 14:51

Quite possibly you won't be able to deadbolt the door from the inside though. Quite unusual these days when most hotels use passkey systems.

I wouldn't risk it.

Eastpoint · 16/02/2014 14:54

We've had junior suites which usually have enough room for a travel cot in a walk in wardrobe (size of a box-room usually).

sadbodyblue · 16/02/2014 14:57

I wouldn't sleep so there would be no sex anyway.

do what we all do with toddlers, wait until they are asleep and have quiet sex.

actually you have to keep perfecting the quiet bit until they leave home so your dh might need to understand this.

to be honest it's a lot easier having sex with a 2 year old in earshot than a 15 year old.

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beluga425 · 16/02/2014 14:58

hamptoncourt that is precisely my concern. (apart from the bumsex bit Shock ahem!
Not sure you can truly deadlock hotel rooms.
Thanks for all the replies.

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