to think dd is too young for a 'adjoining' room

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In a big chain hotel abroad. She's 2. She has her own room at home, but surely she's too little for her own hotel room. Makes me feel v queasy. Am I being pfb?

Most 2 yr olds flake out by 9pm so unless you are real early birds whats wrong with waiting for a shag till 11pm or midnight

I would feel uneasy with my child in a impersonal unfamilar hotel room alone. Children exhibit different behaviours on holiday but id rather if they woke up scared they knew mummy and daddy were right by them

Funny the huge range of responses. I don't think it's ridiculous thread, or ott, or whatever one poster said.

Dd is at an age where I have to be very careful, for instance, this evening she disappeared off to her room and came back about 5 minutes later and she had changed into her pyjamas and was wearing a pull-up. The shelf the pull-ups are on is 2 metres off the ground. Cue me trying to explain why it is Dangerous... etc. Not sure I'd have ever expected that. She's not even into climbing, just has got into getting dressed by herself, do was on a bit of a mission. So, an unfamiliar hotel room...
Good advice re. door stops tho.

Ah. Actually, having read all the responses I'm even more convinced I wouldn't do it.
My home is geared towards the safety of my DCs. A hotel isn't like that.
There are too many hazards.

It's madness to describe this thread as ridiculous tbh.
I'm not going not willing to risk my child's safety for the sake of sex.
I am surprised that anyone would admit to that.

We're in the land of the two-bedroom motel unit these days (bliss), but when we were regularly travelling around Europe with DD1 (from 18 months to 4 years, at which point newborn DD2 entered the fray and the travelling slowed down a bit) we always got interconnecting rooms.

Not so much for the sleeping arrangements, as I usually ended up sleeping in next to her anyway, but for the evening. She went to bed at 7pm and was a light sleeper and there was no way I was going to bed at 7.

So we got connecting rooms, wedged the door open. After she was asleep DH and I would usually order dessert from room service, play scrabble we're complete nerds, have a glass of wine and watch a movie. All perfectly safe and within better earshot of DD than in our home. At bedtime I'd often sleep in with her, but she never once stirred anyway. The following morning, one of us would stay in the room with her, playing, watching cartoons etc, while the other got an extra bit of sleep (she's a very early riser) before we'd all head down to breakfast.

Never had a single issue with it, worked really well for us, and meant DH and I got a bit of relaxing evening time on our holiday.

That's creative thinking vviola
I guess it wouldn't work if the plan was for the grown ups to sleep with the door shut between the two rooms.

with you, not on her own.

Yep, I think the key for it working for us (and for our peace of mind, we don't see bogeymen around every corner, but we've met our fair share of real life bogeymen to know things aren't always perfect) is having the connecting door open (or at least ajar during the movie watching/dessert eating stage of the evening)

We've had an interconnect rooms for our kids, aged 5, 3 and almost 2 a the time. We locked the door to the corridor from their room so that it couldn't be opened from outside, and kept the door between our rooms open. It was fine. The rooms were pretty small, so it wasn't much different than all being in one room, but it meant that after they were asleep we could have the light on / talk etc. without disturbing them. They all ended up coming through to our bed before morning!

We are taking our toddler on holiday when she will be 20 months old and we have booked a family room with one main entrance and a sliding door to a second seperate bedroom where she will sleep and we will be in the main room. Am I being unreasonable? This seems very safe to me?!

I'd be uncomfortable with that.

Last year on our "sun" holiday we sat outside on the balcony whilst DD slept. Very chilled out and we didn't see the need to be quiet. As for "alone" time, children sleep through lots of things at that age! We had also invested the year before in ear defenders for a friend's wedding - brilliant! There has been many a late night where DD has slept in her buggy with them on and hasn't stirred!

Enjoy your hol!

Always always done interconnecting rooms with our dc from very young. Never been a problem. Don't see why it would be if the door is left open.

I have to wonder if the majority of people on this thread either don't stay in hotels, or have some super human toddlers.

Using a kettle?! You actually think a 2 year old will take the kettle out of a cupboard, take it to the bathroom and find a way of somehow using the adult-sized sink, then take it back to the room, plug it in and turn it on?

Yes, total risk there

OP, I travel a lot and have never, ever stayed in a hotel that doesn't have a security chain or deadbolt on the inside of the door.

Also, the bathroom locks are the sort that can be turned with a coin. If you don't want her in there, shut the door, use a coin to turn the lock, bingo, she won't be going in.

If she is in an adjoining room with the door to the corridor locked from the inside and the door between your and her room propped open (except during romantic moments, she is at no greater risk than if she was in your room, but you get the extra space.

Honestly, I think some posters should be writing episodes of Casualty or CSI with their overactive imaginations.

A door to which many people have a passkey is effectively an unlocked door. If you're fine with that then I think you're quite unusual.

How do people ever sleep at night in a hotel, if this kind of view is prevalent?

If the kettle is put on top shelf of wardrobe then there is no risk. That was my point- OP would need to make sure she removed it and the other electricals that heat up. All hotels ive been to dont have them in a cupboard. They are on a table and many times havent been emptied of water. As long as OP is confident she hasnt missed any hazards then no problem. I was just pointing out a few she should think about.

Im also the first to admit that my ds2 was a demon aged 2 and absoloutely would have found the one hazard i hadnt thought of. You might say thats just me being a crap parent but ds1 was an absolute dream and both were raised the same.

We have 3 kids born very close together. We've always done it, like the poster above.

I wouldn't do it with on kid - too expensive!

"How do people ever sleep at night in a hotel, if this kind of view is prevalent?"

You just accept it and deal with it, of course. It's not a 'view', it's a trivially obvious fact about hotel accommodation.

I stay in hotels (and sleep quite well thanks!) but I'm not under any illusion that I can actually completely control who comes into my room when I'm in a hotel. That would be naive.

I rely on the fact that it's enormously unlikely someone will come in, that if they do it'll most likely be for a benign reason, and on the fact that as an adult I could hopefully deal with them if they did (which is the bit a two-year old couldn't do, hence taking extra care with them).

'mn is a parallel universe of paranoia'

I'm with dh op. As long as there is a door between them. If I was remotely worried (dc getting out) I'd put something in front of the other door.

If you don't mind paying extra for the second room could you maybe have the best if both worlds - ie watch TV, cuddle, intimacy etc in one room during the evening whilst DD sleeps in the other (with the door ajar so you can hear what's going on) then one of you sleep in the room with DD.

At 2 yo I wouldn't have done this. And I am/was pretty lax with my DS when he was younger.

He had a camp bed in a hotel room with me and DH (his stepfather) until our last hotel holiday when he was 12! :)

When we go away in summer we take DSS along too - and the boys share a room, generally right next to mine and DH.

I don't think I would want to put a child under the age of 12 or so in a room on their own. At toddler age because of safety - but when a little older I think they would perhaps feel a little scared. If you have more than one DC then fine, but one on their own?

I'd do it with interconnecting doors.

I wouldn't do it no. I know all the ways my children can currently escape and or hurt themselves. I don;t have time to figure it out in a hotel and hope I get it right

But princess if you have interconnecting doors then they are within the same space as you - closer than at home very possibly! What on earth would they be scared of?

Many hotels charge very little for an interconnecting room. We have paid as little as an extra 15% on top of the cost of our room for another room the same size that interconnects.

Holy shit! How do some of you get out of bed without conducting a full risk assessment?