to think dd is too young for a 'adjoining' room

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In a big chain hotel abroad. She's 2. She has her own room at home, but surely she's too little for her own hotel room. Makes me feel v queasy. Am I being pfb?

Sing we were all together in an airport hotel for the last night of our holiday, two double beds so me and DH were together and DS8 had his own bed. The door couldn't be deadlocked and around 1am, DS decided to start sleepwalking and simply got out of bed and disappeared down the corridor.

DH thankfully woke up right away and was able to chase him and catch him thankfully DH had his pants on but we all got a real fright, DS could easily have wandered out of the hotel and while I don't necessarily think there's a bad person round every corner, he would have got the fright of his life if he'd woken up lost in a corridor.

I will definitely get a lifelock if we are in a hotel again, thanks Blameit for the the link.

How did people manage before socket covers? I never had anything like that when my 3 were little. They were all told not to touch,and why, in no uncertain terms.
And anyway you have to be sticking two items in a plughole at the same time to get an electric shock ( admittedly that is in the UK - I don't know about abroad) which is precisely why socket covers are more dangerous than not having them!

You can minimise danger,but if children are not taught about it or able to take risks they will never gain the"common sense" they need for when they are older.

Having said all that ,I think 2 years old is too young for an adjoining room. Obviously your DH had big hopes for this holiday!!

Gosh, I'm feeling guilty.
We always had interconnecting rooms for DCs. Who wants a toddler in their room when you're on holiday?
We used to bolt their room door and have the interconnecting door wide open.
Failing that, a suite can often work out cheaper than two rooms.

Have you considered an apart hotel? 1 bed apartment but with all the amenities of a hotel. Only one entrance and a lounge are for you to hang out in when you put your LO to bed.

I think you should stay at home. The risk of poisoning/falling from a height/abduction by paedophiles disguised as hotel workers is too high.

Shit, forgot electrocution.

Door wedges. Basic rubber ones that are around 4 for £2. Hammer three under the door from their room to the corridor with a shoe and no-one will be able to get in through that door and they on't be able to shift them to get out.

"peeping how do these dangerous adults get in to a locked room to which they don't have a key?"

They don't. If they do have a key, on the other hand...

Minute chance of it happening, consequences awful.

So I'm not keen on my small child being alone in a room to which dozens of complete strangers (hotel staff) have a passkey, which would let someone reach my child with me being none the wiser, fast asleep next door.

The likelihood of one of the people with a passkey having malign intentions is miniscule but not zero and for that reason I wouldn't be happy if I couldn't properly lock the door from the inside. If I can properly lock it, job done, no need to think about it any more.

I use them after housekeeping let themselves in at a very inopportune moment in a hotel that had no deadlocks on the doors.

A door to which many people have a passkey is effectively an unlocked door. If you're fine with that (presumably you think that even if there did happen to be a dangerous adult nearby, they'd have to be a guest and couldn't possibly be a staff member?) then I think you're quite unusual.

Door wedges sound like a good plan, a single one is very handy for slowing down children coming into a room that hasn't got a lock on a door.

Good God. Some people worry about things I have never considered. Shampoos, for example. And ALL hotels I have ever stayed in have an internal lock. What a load of scaremongering.

All hotels I have stayed in have an internal lock, including those with passkeys.

Have done interconnecting rooms even when little. Have locked the dc room with chain so no one can come in and have door between rooms open. However wouldn't have paid for room when it was just one two year old, although annoying as have to tiptoe around etc.

YANBU.
Unless you can deadbolt from the inside.
But you can get little portable door alarms. Like a teeny grenade that makes a loud noise when the pin is released by the door opening IYSWIM.
You should do what you feel comfortable with.
Do it in the shower

And you could leave the adjoining door open. Which seems self- defeating but it still gives you more space and privacy than one room.
If you still don't feel happy and dh is insisting on his "privacy" then tell him to stump up the extra money for an apartment/ villa holiday.

Wow, just wow. on list for next time someone asks for Most Bonkers thread

En suites in your own house = fine. In a hotel where you have no control over the temp of water and a 2 YO would have unsupervised access to it = not fine.

Same with kettle, trouser press, shampoos etc. in your own house you dont put all these things in your 2YO bedroom. You supervise dc in bathroom using shampoo and handwash and yes i keep mine out of reach of toddlers. The kettle i dont let toddlers use.

I've stayed in more than one hotel room without a deadlock, or with a deadlock that didn't work - not just the one sleeping ds escaped from.

But wouldn't you move the kettle, trouser press and lethal shampoos out of reach? Hotel doors have chains, and there is always the old tipped up Chair under the door handle trick.

In your own house the 2 yo could get out of the bedroom and get up to all sorts! Ds was never locked in his room at 2. But in an actual adjoining room, with the door ajar, you would presumably hear it?

Yes blu that's what i said in my first post. You'd have to remove them and some others asked what the issues with them was so i was just replying.

Also, my 2 YO did used to sneak out of his room and get into things he shouldnt so i had to get a stairgate for his room and make sure everything was well out of reach. Less risky in my own house with external doors and windows locked than a hotel where they may find and escape path you weren't aware of.

ds (4) let himself out of our hotel room in Turkey last year whilst dh and i were sitting outside on the balcony. My heart stopped when i went to check on him to find he had disappeared. Another guest found him wandering down the corridor crying, he must have only be gone a matter of minutes but it felt like a lifetime. Reception told us that the doors couldn't be deadlocked from the inside because of the fire hazard. It was a truly shit hotel in many more respects but no way would I have the children in a room other than mine now.

Of the hotel is a decent one and has kettle/shampoo etc you can asks them to remove it you know!
Most decent hotels have a lock on the inside of the door and if you tell staff not to enter they won't, you can also out a do not enter sign on and put something in front of the door.

Use a baby monitor and also leave your door ajar - baby will be fine!

I nannied for a 18 month old in a hotel and parents had adjoining rooms to child and I was in a room opposite the child's room. I left my door open so I could see/hear anyone walking past and had a baby monitor on, child was fine!

I thought you were talking about a 10 year old or thereabouts! A 2 year old. .I really wonder about some people, how would you even consider having your child that age in a separate room!! Have quiet sex like everyone else if you value your "privacy" so much. Doesn't matter if its an adjoining room or not..a definite no no.