to think dd is too young for a 'adjoining' room

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In a big chain hotel abroad. She's 2. She has her own room at home, but surely she's too little for her own hotel room. Makes me feel v queasy. Am I being pfb?

DH wants privacy/space bollocks he wants a shag.

If it's like the kids den in the Holiday Villages where there is space which has a sliding/french door so the child can sleep but you can have the light/tv on in the other bit then I don't see the issue.

If it's a seperate room next door, even if with a connecting door to your room, then I would not be happy as there's a seperate entrance, bathroom and balcony.

So really depends on what the "adjoining" means.

You could put something in front of the door from her room into the corridor - so she couldn't let herself out for a wander, and if anyone did try to get in (not that I think that is a real risk, tbh), you'd hear a racket as the door banged against the chair, or whatever.

And if you and dh need privacy, you can close the interconnecting door, and open it again once you've - erm - finished.

OP if your concern is about someone getting into her room from the corridor, you could buy one of these. I don't travel without one (I travel to some dodgy places and they really give me peace of mind).

I'm with SDT I wouldn't be that worried about hotel staff entering the room- why would they? And if they did are they likely to be a danger to a two year old?

If there is an interconnecting door to your room and no obvious hazards like open balconys etc... Then I don't see the issue.

That Lifelock looks like a great solution to this issue, BlameIt.

I also think if there's a linking door and you can secure her room so she can't get out and nobody can get in its ok.
We booked a holiday in Luxor in egypt when DSs were 5 &3.
I booked an adjoining room making sure it was linked. Then called the hotel direct several times before we went, to make sure.
When we got there we were given roons on separate floors. I must have looked as though I was about to go nuclear, as the Reception team called the hotel manager and we were upgraded to a suite overlooking the Nile within about 15 seconds.

It would depend on a few things I think. If there was definitely a door between the two I'd consider it can take a baby monitor and leave the doors open between them when you go to sleep. If it was for a night or 2 I probably wouldn't go to the expense but if it was our week or fortnight holiday I definitely would consider it as a real option. It is restrictive sitting in the dark whispering all evening for a fortnight would like the space to be able to relax myself.

I'm really not convinced hotel staff routinely sneak into locked occuppied rooms. If there is a connecting door which she can open why would she go into the corridor? Door from her room to the corridor can havea chain put on it which she will be too little to reach.

Would she have her own bathroom in her room? That would worry me. You'd need to make sure to remove the shampoos and handwashes everytime they replenished them and the kettle, trouser press.

I booked an interconnecting room in Egypt for my DD's 12&10, many years ago.

They had given the room to two pilots, when we got there and they had to have one up the corridor.

The cleaning staff were friendly (wanted good tips) so remembered to knock on our door before entering, their room.

They try to give priority to those with children, but it isn't always possible and if there is a emergency booking, worth lots of money to the hotel, disabled guest needs come first.

I have stayed in hotels were other guests have roamed at night, supposedly going into the wrong room, but we, or other guests have had stuff stolen.

So if you go ahead, I second blocking the door from being opened.

I don't see why you can't have sex in the bathroom, if needs be, or even be risky and use the balcony. I would go with either because I am a cheapskate.

Surely you won't be in a situation that you will be sitting in the room whilst your toddler sleeps? They sleep in their pushchairs on holiday.

"I wouldn't be that worried about hotel staff entering the room- why would they? And if they did are they likely to be a danger to a two year old?"

"I'm really not convinced hotel staff routinely sneak into locked occuppied rooms."

It's not people routinely sneaking in you'd be locking the door against, or hotel staff with possibly good reasons for coming in - it's the tiny tiny minority of dangerous adults whose actions are exceptional and unusual and not routine, the ones whose reason for entering a room would be precisely to be a danger to a two-year old.

There may be hardly any of those people out there but there aren't zero.

Quite possibly you won't be able to deadbolt the door from the inside though. Quite unusual these days when most hotels use passkey systems

Really? I've been in a good selection of hotels over the past few years - from tiny UK BnB's to hotels abroad, both independent and huge chains (Disney/Hilton). I've never been in one that can't be locked from the inside. It's an absolute requirement for me staying in a hotel, regardless of whether dc are with us or not. I just don't feel safe if there's no deadbolt.

Why is the bathroom such a concern? Many children have en suite bathrooms in modern houses now, don't they? (Mine never has, but I know lots of modern houses have one to each bedroom)
Kettle? Why is that a danger? or trouser press?
It seems I am extremely lucky not to have neglected DD (18) to death by not worrying about these sorts of things.
I would be OK with interconnecting rooms as you could lock external and balcony doors, and it would mean, as a PP said, that you could watch tv/listen to music/talk after your DC had gone to bed.

Why would you need to remove hand washes and shampoos? Do you really have nothing like that in reach of children at home?

How the hell are they supposed to learn to leave things alone if everywhere is so child-proofed to within an inch of its life that they never have to learn to be careful, and learn the word 'no'?

MN is like a parallel universe of paranoia.

We had adjoining rooms with our eldest DC. she was in a cot, what could go wrong? She chose this weekend to learn how to get out of it. and then become interested in the bedside lights the tv etc. so never again I am afraid for us. if there are plug sockets kids who have never done it before do stick things in them. try and get a large room or suite with a side bit so you are in with your DC. as she gets older do you want her wandering around in a room next door?

"Why would you need to remove hand washes and shampoos? Do you really have nothing like that in reach of children at home? "

Because Toddlers have a knack of picking the worst moments to swallow something or get an eye injury, they also know when they are more likely to get away with mischief.

The child may be unsettled and not sleep the same, so wakes up bored or confused, that isn't difficult to understand.

It does depend on the child and whether she is just two or nearly three.

Anti dandruff shampoo, for example is as toxic as done cleaning fluids, some children are obsessed with taps and things aren't as regulated in some countries.

Also, you don't want to spend a couple of days of your holiday getting medical advice.

Some of the deaths that I hear about involving under 5's, whilst on holiday, makes me wonder why those children were not supervised properly and I have seen some terrible accidents, that, tbh, were waiting to happen.

mummymeister don't you have plug sockets in your house then? How does your child manage in their own room at home? Or when you go to the kitchen to make a cuppa, leaving him/her in the other room? If the lights/tv go on in an adjoining room with the door ajar, wouldn't that wake you immediately?
I can sort of imagine why the OP feels a bit reluctant to do this, but the reasons that are being given why it is a bad idea are totally ludicrous!

Can you book a suite might cost less but usually the sofa in the living bit is a bed so you can have 'space and privacy' but still be all together.

Everything caribach said.

Ha ha, well now there's a whole new world of concerns I hadn't even considered!

peeping how do these dangerous adults get in to a locked room to which they don't have a key?

This is why we always did self catering when ours were younger, you get separate rooms but in your own self contained unit. Only last year when eldest was 13 did we start doing hotels where the girls were in an adjoining or separate room.

And Birdsgottafly I've never stayed in any hotel which filled its little bottles with anti dandruff shampoo and cleaning materials. Usually they are filled with stuff so bland and innocuous it might as well be water.

I would do the adjoining room, totally! Leave the door ajar or open if you feel worried, but as long as the door to the corridor is locked and/ or has a chair pushed up to it I would totally do this. I would also pack a monitor.

Even if you opt to sleep in the same room, surely the extra room lets you have some space with DH in the evening?

*do what we all do with toddlers, wait until they are asleep and have quiet sex.

actually you have to keep perfecting the quiet bit until they leave home so your dh might need to understand this*

Quiet sex I can do, but I'm not hiding under the covers from a toddler!
I would go for the adjoining rooms so that we could relax and have some fun!!