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AIBU?

to ask DH NOT to take a piss in the morning

153 replies

BurntToastSmell · 09/10/2012 20:22

Details:

we live in a tiny 2 bedroom flat (DH shows no interest in leaving it despite my pleading).
I've got a 2yr old DD & 9 mth old DS.
DH leaves early for work in the morning. The bathroom is right next to the kids' bedroom. When he has his morning piss he manages to wake me (I'm not bothered about this) and wake the kids (I am bothered about this).
I'm at home all day alone with the kids, and I'm not being precious when I say, it is physically exhausting. I'm on pills for anxiety and depression and often find it difficult to cope.
When DH doesn't get up early for work, the kids sleep for at least another 2 hours. This definitely helps me to cope better with the rest of the day.

I reached the conclusion that it must be DH having a piss before work that wakes the kids up. So I suggested to him that he not piss before leaving for work (anytime up till 5am is fine). And he completely blew up at me. He got very angry.

I didn't think I was being overly unreasonable with my suggestion, as I've been preventing myself from pissing after 5am for months now. (Yup, it can be uncomfortable at times - but getting up at that hour and having the kids all day on your own is even "more^ uncomfortable).

AIBU?

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AitchTwoOhOneTwo · 09/10/2012 20:29

ah, i see i x-posted with Nice People.

AitchTwoOhOneTwo · 09/10/2012 20:30

erk. and then again with some not so nice.

i really feel for the OP. TWO HOURS!

50smellsofshite · 09/10/2012 20:31

He can sit and piss can't he? His arse will cover the pan and muffle the sound.

I agree that the sound of a pint of hot piss from 3 foot up directly on to water is VERY loud in a small flat.

It won't work if he's got a skinny little ass, if he has a bit of meat your laughing.

OHforDUCKScake · 09/10/2012 20:31

MrsDeVere I know that one. When I was pregnant with DC2 I could smell from my living room if someone had done a wee and not flushed. DC1 being the main culprit. But anyone who opened the door before flushing and Id be able to smell it. For a while I thought there was something wrong with DC1! Then I realised it was my nose.

deleted203 · 09/10/2012 20:32

You are storing up kidney troubles for yourself, girl! YABVU expecting anyone to not have a pee first thing in the morning.

HecateLarpo · 09/10/2012 20:32

He has to empty his bladder. You know you are being unreasonable on that

However, I agree that he can be quiet. He can close the door, he can put loo roll down, he can not flush the chain. He can tiptoe.

But he cannot be expected to not void a full bladder.

EnjoyVampirebloodResponsibly · 09/10/2012 20:33

I can see why he lost it.

Begin again. Calmly state your case.

Ask him if he could sit down, not flush, just leave the lid down so you can flush it as soon as you get up.

Being tired totally blows. I sympathise

50smellsofshite · 09/10/2012 20:33

Obviously he needs to push his cock backwards, that won't work either if he's got a very small cock.

If he's got a very small cock and a very small ass my plan won't work, sorry.

If he's hung like a donkey and has a flabby butt your problems are over.

No problem. You're welcome.

Redbindy · 09/10/2012 20:33

Is the kitchen away from the kids bedroom? If so perhaps he could piss in the sink. Mind you it's a bit tricky if he fancys a No2 at the same time.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 09/10/2012 20:33

Aitch I love how your post about cross posting with nice people cross posted with a post saying the OP is insane.

(my eyes have gone all funny reading that back...)

agedknees · 09/10/2012 20:33

Get thyself a potty and put it under th'bed.

MrsDeVere · 09/10/2012 20:34

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

lubeybooby · 09/10/2012 20:34

Can't you just leave the light on so that doesn't wake anyone up, or have a nightlight, and get him to be quieter?

MerylStrop · 09/10/2012 20:35

First of all you could ask him to make sure that he shuts the bathroom door, and puts the seat down before flushing.

He's gonna have to pee

Though I bet it is just them waking up when they wake up.

ConstantCraving · 09/10/2012 20:36

We have the same issue. DH is very good - gets up 5.30, does use the loo but sits sown and doessn't flush (puts lid down), creeps around avoiding the creaky boards and generally is very considerate. I feel for you OP - early starts are hell.

austenozzy · 09/10/2012 20:36

Massively U. Is it just having a wee that does it? Not the flush, or moving about the flat? Does he shower? Not sure what the options are, short of pissing in a bottle and lobbing it out the car window on the way to work like a trucker!

austenozzy · 09/10/2012 20:38

50smells seems like the sort of person that would be good fun in the pub!

flower2009 · 09/10/2012 20:39

This made me crack up. I used to get up for a wee about 5am and it would wake my DD for the day, not fun!! So I started to put loo roll down and wee really slowly (sorry if tmi!). Some days my DH gets up for a wee and wees so loud it wakes my DD up!! It is annoying when you are so tired, but you can't ask him not to go, just ask him to wee quietly, if he puts some loo roll down the toilet first and not flush the chain that should do the trick. Bless you it sounds funny but it isn't when you have to get up at 5am every day!!

RillaBlythe · 09/10/2012 20:39

Get him to piss in the kitchen sink. Or an empty milk bottle. Then you will know if it is the morning piss or something else that is waking the kids up.

pigletmania · 09/10/2012 20:40

Yabvvvvu and you know it. What do you expect him to do, pee in the street

AKissIsNotAContract · 09/10/2012 20:41

Does he have a shower in the morning? He can piss in the shower.

forevergreek · 09/10/2012 20:41

Really? How Loud can it be? We have a one bed flat and I manage to et up and shower/ breakfast/ etc and leave without waking the whole flat.

Suppose try sitting down if it's really tsunami like

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Charliefox · 09/10/2012 20:42

never understood how men sit down to pee. In all my years, I've never seen it. All boyfriends / OH have stood up. How on earth is it done? Do they sit down like a woman and just squish their willy down the loo?

JustFabulous · 09/10/2012 20:42

In your OP do you mean you want him to leave the flat (you split up) or you want to all move to a new place together?

If you are splitting up he is not going to do anything you want if he is an arse.

If you are not splitting up then I suggest you apologise for your over reaction but explain that it would make a huge difference to his childrens day if their mum could have some more sleep and he can help make that happen by weeing on some loo paper.

Canidae · 09/10/2012 20:44

How about a large plant that he could water every morning? :)

YABU to ask him not to pee but can ask him to put down some loo roll to muffle it a bit.

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