3 year old boy (Noah) missing in Brantham, Suffolk

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https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cr5yev2v1x29o

Oh God bless him! Every parents worse nightmare!

Have you never made an error?

One of my children was seen "going into a bedroom with a man crying" while we were in a hotel.

A simple human error on my part. He dodged out of the lift and went missing for about 5 minutes.

I think the reins came off about 3 for us too, but they were definitely off by 4 when ds could understand the consequences of bolting.
There were many times had he not been wearing reins he would have ran out into the middle of the road or we could have lost track of him.
Before we got them he had bolted a couple of times and was so fast we struggled to catch him.. I can't imagine what this poor family are going through, but if they knew he was profoundly autistic they really should have had him on some sort of leash.. I know it sounds horrid but they do really save lives.
I will be doing the same for my dd when she is toddling around, not just in case she runs but also to deter any potential kidnappers.

These things happen very quickly to the most vigilant carer. Save your judgement

The Sky News helicopter is there now. I haven't seen a post from his parents, only one where he commented on a local page and didn't reply to anyone or come back.

It’s probably worth being mindful that there’s a good chance his mum, aunties, grandparents could be mumsnet users and all this speculation and talking about other missing children is incredibly insensitive.

I’m praying he is found safe and well.

(edited, typo)

I don’t know how anyone can judge his family. For what, falling over?

That’s unfair, we have no idea of the situation.

It is not physically possible to watch someone 24/7 and it only takes a split second for a child to sneak away.

He could have climbed out the window or managed to unlock a door and within the few minutes it took to check the house and garden, he could have gone in any direction.

From maps it looks very easy for him to get out of sight as there is so much woodland right there, it will be a needle in haystack. This could happen to anyone. Poor boy

Omg the family must be distraught. I hope he found soon x

His name was Émile Soleil. His family were arrested and released two days later but there is still an ongoing criminal investigation into his death.

It is absolutely believed that he was murdered, so given there haven’t been any charges yet it’s not necessarily true to say that any speculation was untrue.

Statistically a child who disappears and is later found murdered is almost always found to have been killed by someone they knew. So while it might be unpalatable for people to speculate, it’s not unreasonable that people would jump to that conclusion.

I'm glad the father has been able to clarify this point. However, it was mainstream media reporting that first described Noah as being non verbal, deaf and that he doesn't respond to his own name thus implying that he is quite impaired with a high level of need. That seems to have been the basis for the rumours and accusations that followed. All very unhelpful at this time.

Incidentally I’ve been reading people says the reason he got away is he was with his grandparent who ran after him and fell - which meant he couldn’t catch up to him again.

This is incredibly unfair. The grandad tripped and the boy was fast. He’ll be living the worst nightmare. He doesn’t need this on top.

I don’t think anyone should be apportioning blame unless they have full picture of what happened. Even then it’s for the family to consider, not MN.

You fully blame his carers (family)?

How can you possibly say that when all the reports suggest his family member tripped and fell?

Honestly, some people's lack of empathy for a family having the VERY worst time of their life leads me speechless . . . .

Never outside home. My children were the usual ]omboy kids but I, my DH and the GP, watched them like hawks when they were tots in publlic spaces.

My nephew is severely intellectually disabled and living in Madrid. Never had a problem socially because he's always being closely watched by his family and carers.

You don't make mistakes losing a toddler with disabilites in a public outing. There is an awful lack of responsability and care, to get to this awful outcome.

Disagree totally.

Hope for a good outcome.

All the more reason why this doesn’t need to be national news at this stage.

Given that the media have presumably just made up the fact that this child is non verbal with serious disabilities, we have no idea what is true and what isn’t, including the manner in which he disappeared.

At this point the media are reporting that the grandad fell but clearly we can’t believe a word of it, and now that we’ve established he’s apparently not all that disabled the speculation will just increase.

And the only thing the media are doing at this stage is camping out at the area hoping to be the first to break the story. I mean sky news sending a helicopter? We all know how the likes of sky news operate. Tabloid TV at its very worst.

His poor grandad must be living a nightmare and blaming himself. Little ones can be so quick to dart off and think it's a game. I hope and pray he is found safe and well soon.

I don’t believe for a second that you’ve never made a mistake, or an error of judgement. There but for the grace of God.

Your comments are absolutely disgusting and you should be ashamed of yourself.

It was a witness on a local page that said grandad had fallen, she was there.

I assume the media have picked that up from reading the page.

Yep awful isn’t it

I'm hoping for a good outcome and that Noah is found but the longer it goes on the less chance there is.

Anyone blaming his grandad needs to give their head a wobble and shut up.

Interesting, so there were other people around at the time, I was imagining it just being the child and grandad and that’s why no one else saw anything

You were lucky, and now you're being a shit.