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CoventryCity · Today 10:04

Frenemies · Today 10:01

Yes, fortunately I never had to test my AirTags to find out how effective they were.

I do know how easy it is to lose a child though, even a NT one. I once lost my DD age 2/3 for a few minutes in IKEA marketplace when she trotted off down an isle and I followed but when I got to the end she had vanished! I was frantic. Also briefly lost a 5 year old DS at baggage reclaim when he went to join his father (who was only a couple of metres away) and I stayed with the baby and pushchair but he somehow managed to get lost in a passing crowd on the way! Cue frantic search and he was found in tears a few moments later but it felt like a lifetime.

It was after these that I started using the AirTags!

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We used reins - a little fluffy monkey rucksack (fitted very small important toddler toys) with tail to hold. Was fantastic, no worries then. Even with an air tag I'd panic, that can be lost too. Better than nothing tho.

Frenemies · Today 10:04

peppy23 · Today 10:00

How sad that at this time he feels he has to come on and debunk people’s weird theories/ideas. I can’t imagine what it’s like having people point the finger at your own family.

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Indeed. Some people seem to have had empathy bypasses.

bafta16 · Today 10:05

BeMellowAquaSquid · Today 09:59

What a pointless comment.

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Yes and no.

theotherfossilsister · Today 10:08

My child is awaiting assessment for autism and is a flight risk. Things like this are appalling. I hope the little boy is hiding somewhere and found alive today.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · Today 10:08

I cannot go another night knowing he’s out there alone, please don’t give up on him guys,

💔

cloudbabies · Today 10:09

theotherfossilsister · Today 10:08

My child is awaiting assessment for autism and is a flight risk. Things like this are appalling. I hope the little boy is hiding somewhere and found alive today.

Same. I’ve got some reins, wasn’t a fan of them but if they help keep my dd next to me then I’ll use them !

cloudbabies · Today 10:10

BeMellowAquaSquid · Today 09:59

What a pointless comment.

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It is true though. Most likely it isn’t the case, but if it is, it will majorly kick off.

R105 · Today 10:13

DoNotIron · Today 08:33

Wee soul. Hope he’s OK.

Years ago, my youngest went missing in a huge forest park which surrounds a lake. He was about five or six. One minute he was running around in front of us with his friend and the next the pair of them were gone. After my friend and I searched for them for about half an hour, we called the police as it was getting dark. They took it extremely seriously and the whole situation was utterly terrifying and surreal. Eventually a woman out walking found them sitting on a bench. She was one of many wonderful people who took my number in case they found them. The policewoman I spoke to said they had already put in a request for a helicopter. People talk about their blood running cold - it really did feel like that. I know just a tiny bit of what the family is going through and that tiny bit is horrendous.

Yes i lost my 3 year old for 30 mins abroad when he bolted off into a crowd in a packed park and disappeared. We called the police within 5 minutes as we couldn’t speak the language and he was still missing for 25 minutes. It was without a doubt the worst experience of my life. My bowels instantly turned to liquid and I was just constantly running through all of the scenarios that might have happened to him, such as road traffic accident or drowning and the horror stories of kidnapping and murder that we’re all aware of. I was pleading and bargaining with a god I’m not sure whether I even believe in for that 30 mins. Thankfully my boy was found safe and well.

My heart is breaking for this family who are living through this never ending nightmare. I am praying for them like I did for my own son that day.

nomas · Today 10:15

cloudbabies · Today 10:10

It is true though. Most likely it isn’t the case, but if it is, it will majorly kick off.

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I think people need to stop normalising violence as a foregone outcome in the extremely unlikely event an asylum seeker is involved.

Hoping this little boy is hiding somewhere and found soon.

Fairyyqueen · Today 10:17

Forgive my ignorance but if he is mildly autistic like his dad described does that mean he isn’t non-verbal like was reported?

it is interesting that they are now searching further afield, I’m not an expert (obviously) but I’d usually assume in cases like this that they actually haven’t gone that far and are closer than we think, but there must be a reason they are searching further.

Runrum · Today 10:22

I have a child the same age and normally I'm a fairly calm natured person, but this is absolutely getting me today. I'm in tears every time I think about the poor little guy and his family.

Please please please, let him be ok.

bafta16 · Today 10:23

Can they use heat seeking tech?

Marcipex · Today 10:24

I don’t understand why the search dogs can’t track him.

MyPurpleHeart · Today 10:24

Runrum · Today 10:22

I have a child the same age and normally I'm a fairly calm natured person, but this is absolutely getting me today. I'm in tears every time I think about the poor little guy and his family.

Please please please, let him be ok.

I have a 3 year old and I feel absolutely sick to my stomach with worry for this boy. I cant settle. I cant even imagine how his family are feeling.

I hope with all of my might that he is found today

bafta16 · Today 10:25

Marcipex · Today 10:24

I don’t understand why the search dogs can’t track him.

He's been taken?

I don't know.

Awful situation.

EasternStandard · Today 10:26

fashionqueen0123 · Today 09:57

His dad has posted this on FB

Hi all,

Thank every single one of you who have taken part in the search for our boy Noah,

To clear things up because people really do make up their own stories, he is only mildly autistic and has partial hearing loss, he is fully capable of every day tasks,

We still have nothing, all the emergency services and all of you have shown how strong this community is, with people coming from far and wide also,

The emergency services are very confident that the high risk areas (Decoy pond, railway lines) are all clear,

This means knowing our boy, he has gone even further, could I ask that all of you brilliant people out there today expand further if you are able to? Reference where I have outlined, and maybe even further than this,

I cannot go another night knowing he’s out there alone, please don’t give up on him guys,

He is out there somewhere and I appreciate every single one of you.

Thanks for this. Utterly heartbreaking. I really hope they find him soon.

Jellyslothbridge · Today 10:27

Trackers are not always the solution for children that won't tolerate something on their wrist or wearing clothes. Some people put them in the heel of a shoe but those can also be taken off.
Hope this boy is found soon.

User7989776 · Today 10:27

Fairyyqueen · Today 10:17

Forgive my ignorance but if he is mildly autistic like his dad described does that mean he isn’t non-verbal like was reported?

it is interesting that they are now searching further afield, I’m not an expert (obviously) but I’d usually assume in cases like this that they actually haven’t gone that far and are closer than we think, but there must be a reason they are searching further.

I was just thinking that detail very odd. The Daily Mail also uses "mildly autistic" but that doesn't seem fitting for a non-verbal child who cannot respond to their own name and has a tendency to bolt. It almost seems like they're playing down his additional needs to gain more sympathy or to avoid finger pointing that more safety measures could have been in place (eg reins).

EDIT: Just saw the statement and agree with PP that everything is a bit contradictory. He's a toddler with a fairly serious disabilities (hearing loss, autism) but can still do everyday tasks. No 3 year old is independent enough to survive on their own outside so why emphasise that point.

Marcipex · Today 10:27

bafta16 · Today 10:25

He's been taken?

I don't know.

Awful situation.

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That’s what I mean…a child on foot should be able to be tracked.
isn’t that what the dogs do?

CustardySergeant · Today 10:28

The search is made even more difficult because the family have said that the boy is unlikely to respond to his name being called, so he could be out of sight but within earshot and they wouldn't know.

Greengage1983 · Today 10:29

User7989776 · Today 10:27

I was just thinking that detail very odd. The Daily Mail also uses "mildly autistic" but that doesn't seem fitting for a non-verbal child who cannot respond to their own name and has a tendency to bolt. It almost seems like they're playing down his additional needs to gain more sympathy or to avoid finger pointing that more safety measures could have been in place (eg reins).

EDIT: Just saw the statement and agree with PP that everything is a bit contradictory. He's a toddler with a fairly serious disabilities (hearing loss, autism) but can still do everyday tasks. No 3 year old is independent enough to survive on their own outside so why emphasise that point.

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Well he's only 3... not all 3 year olds can talk that well even without being autistic, and some neurotypical 3 year olds have a tendency to bolt too... maybe he just can't talk very well yet, without necessarily being Non Verbal as a symptom of profound autism, iyswim

He can't respond to his name because he's deaf.

123new · Today 10:30

Scent disperses as time goes on and can be affected by different surfaces, temperature, weather conditions etc. By the time trained dogs would get to the location, it might be too late. Very highly trained scent dogs could follow days old scent but I imagine there's not many of them in the Uk

theotherfossilsister · Today 10:30

User7989776 · Today 10:27

I was just thinking that detail very odd. The Daily Mail also uses "mildly autistic" but that doesn't seem fitting for a non-verbal child who cannot respond to their own name and has a tendency to bolt. It almost seems like they're playing down his additional needs to gain more sympathy or to avoid finger pointing that more safety measures could have been in place (eg reins).

EDIT: Just saw the statement and agree with PP that everything is a bit contradictory. He's a toddler with a fairly serious disabilities (hearing loss, autism) but can still do everyday tasks. No 3 year old is independent enough to survive on their own outside so why emphasise that point.

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Mildly autistic and deaf could mean none verbal

my waiting on diagnosis child is probably mild autistic and is speech delayed, without deafness thrown in.

Neuronimo · Today 10:31

Fairyyqueen · Today 10:17

Forgive my ignorance but if he is mildly autistic like his dad described does that mean he isn’t non-verbal like was reported?

it is interesting that they are now searching further afield, I’m not an expert (obviously) but I’d usually assume in cases like this that they actually haven’t gone that far and are closer than we think, but there must be a reason they are searching further.

I don't know but if he has mild hearing loss it is possible he has a speech delay.

Jan24680 · Today 10:31

Fairyyqueen · Today 10:17

Forgive my ignorance but if he is mildly autistic like his dad described does that mean he isn’t non-verbal like was reported?

it is interesting that they are now searching further afield, I’m not an expert (obviously) but I’d usually assume in cases like this that they actually haven’t gone that far and are closer than we think, but there must be a reason they are searching further.

in my limited experience of autistic kids of this age they are non verbal but can communicate, many will go on to talk when they are older. You can see from the photos he's a happy engaging lad. I really hope he's found soon. I hope he's not another James Bulger or Madeline McCann.

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