What's the most WTF assumption you've heard about yourself.

[Motorwayview]

Mine is a hum dinger.
DH is significantly older than me - he is retired and I work PT. We have planned carefully so we were able to retire somewhere sunny. During our 35 years together he was a medium earner and I was the higher earner - his job was flexible for school drop offs/ pick ups ect. We have 2 adult DC and grandchildren.
He has joined a hobby group and last night they had a social evening so I went along.
Random woman - who was the wife of the organiser I found out later- " Well, you've landed on your feet - HIS children and ex wife must hate you " said very loudly in front of a group of people I don't really know.
I did put her straight , but WTF !

Last place we lived that I was a childminder and this they could leave their kids with me when I was out with my then young DC in public - even though they were not employing me.

Also had comments there from randoms that people like us shouldn't have kids - married well educated professionals working mortgage stable and together for years - no idea what the fuck assumptions were behind that one.

When I first moved to the village I live in now, I loved it so much being able to walk for 2 miles and not see another person as it's a lovely rural area, so I started going for lots of lovely walks (still do actually.) Sometimes though I would see people (when walking around the village roads and not outside the village/around the woodlands/by the canal,) and this one lady who lived 1 mile away - around my age - (around late 40s at the time,) used to notice me petting her horses, and would sometimes come over and chat for 2-5 minutes.

This went on for some 6-8 months, and I saw her/had a quick 2-5 minute chat about 10 times in that time. This one time I was in town at Morrisons with DH and one of my DC who was visiting from University, and saw this woman at the next checkout. I smiled and waved, and she waved back, but she looked a bit like

I saw her again a week later (whilst on a walk) and she said 'who was that man and young woman you were with?' I said 'my husband and daughter.' 'She said 'Oh my God, I didn't know you were married with children, I thought you were a lonely loner, that's one of the reasons I came to chat when I saw you on the 15th or so walk I'd seen you on as I felt a bit sorry for you all alone.' I was a bit embarrassed, and said 'oh my gosh no I'm not a lonely loner, I just like to walk a lot and my husband isn't keen. He does come occasionally though...' She said 'oh no, I mean I like talking to you, but that was the original reason I started speaking you as I felt a bit sorry for you.' 😬

LOL!

Also, another story... DH and I rented a house privately for a couple of years (some 15-ish years ago,) while we decided if we wanted to stay roughly where we were, or if we wanted to leave town, and we rented as long as we did because our DC were still at the secondary school nearby... After about 4 months, a woman who hadn't spoke to us up til then - not ignored us, just always seemed too busy - started to chat one day. I asked her in as I was in the middle of taking the shopping in. Long story short, when we mentioned our 'landlord' she realised we were renting, and was shocked as she thought we had bought the house, as we 'didn't seem like renters.' 😂 We kept the garden nice and neat, and the house was quite tidy, and we 'didn't look like renters.' I was like and then ...😆 ... I thought 'what do renters look like?

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I grew up in an African country. I started a job in the UK and there was surprise from my colleagues that I knew how to use a computer...

I was gay for a year but they forgot to tell me! (Working on a summer camp in the States, I have short hair, I'm not exactly a waif and I LOVE Doc Marten Boots, I'm a walking cliché! I became good friends with a girl and we travelled together afterwards which meant we were a couple apparently! The next year she wasn't there but I became friends with another woman so we were having an affair! Eventually someone told me I was going to have a great summer and a very confusing discussion ensued where I was clicking through every male in my head and it came up about this other woman, apparently I was quite the harlot! I don't care that everyone thought I was gay it was just nobody thought to check in with me! The third summer got v exciting, woman 1 was back, woman 2 was back and that was the summer I met my husband! Woman 2 is my best mate and is god mother to both our children 😂)

My mobile phone provider refused to give me a PAC to change providers, because despite having passed all the security questions the operator thought my voice sounded too young and he wasn’t going to give a code to someone who’s “clearly a child” (I was in my forties). I had to go to a physical shop with my ID. I told them the operator said I was a child so I had my ID to prove I’m an adult. They laughed in my face at the notion that anyone might assume that. Clearly my phone voice is much younger than my actual face.

Same for me.

oh god that's absolutely got me. How lovely. I'm so pleased, and sad, for you both.

That I am nationalist/republican and desperate to escape from under the jackboot of the oppressor and get out of the hellhole that is Northern Ireland.

I like it here, I like being from here and both sides of my family are from "the other side" to the incorrect assumption.

For several years my colleagues thought I and another colleague were dating. We got on really well but we were genuinely just friends and coworkers. When we found out we were dumbfounded because were both in long-term, serious relationships with other people and could not fathom why they thought we were together. I talked about my bf a lot and always referred to him as 'my bf' as I would with anyone who didn't know him, surely if they knew my bf I would just have used his name.

That I had 'pointed, chanted, and put a hex' on someone in a work meeting. With other people present. Who I think might have noticed somewhat.

I once had a long-term boyfriend who was a used car dealer.
It was all good quality, nearly new cars, so he turned up at my house in a variety of expensive cars - sometimes 2 or 3 different ones per week.
A neighbour accused me of being a prostitute, threatened to get the SS to remove my child & report me to the police.

Thank you x She was just one of those people that has a profound effect on your life x

DH is a bit younger than me. When I was expecting our son we went to Ikea and booked DD into the creche. The woman asked me if my son was over 18 because if so, he could pick DD up! He was in his 20s and I obviously wasn't blooming in pregnancy 😂

DH drinks diet coke & I only drink normal coke, I always get the diet coke.

Our neighbours (in their 30s like us) visited us recently. They wanted to see our study where our desks are next to each other for WFH (although we're never there on the same day). My desk has two screens and a huge pad with Excel formulas and shortcuts. DH's desk is just one screen and a plain mousepad. I'm in a more technical role and I helped DH with Excel numerous times, my skills are significantly higher. I'm also the higher earner. The female neighbour saw the desks and started talking to DH how she likes his Excel shortcut pad and that he must be really good at Excel. The surprise when I said that desk is mine

Wow, that's a nasty thing to do. Could the silly woman not see it was the same man?!

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We were in a bar one night when I was in my mid 20s. A man walked over and, in front of my colleagues, offered me a job as a stripper in his strip club. I was a university lecturer in psychology.

I live in a very small town. In a local cafe/shop 3 men were sitting at the table near the door. I knew one of them, so stopped to chat & he introduced me to the others. I bought what I needed at the counter & as I passed them on the way out I heard one say, “Yes. She’s always out & about with different men though.” I checked the next time I saw the one I knew & he confirmed it was said about me. We worked out he’d seen me with the Church Minister, the Church Treasurer, my Manager from work & my husband. I was Church Secretary at the time for the small Baptist church & happened to live half way between my Manager’s house & our workplace, so I had my supervisions with him in a cafe in town.

A similar thing happened to me. A neighbour who we didn't know well had her car bricked, my husband knocked on her door to let her know. I saw her at my workplace a day or so later and asked her if she knew who did it she said 'oh yes, but it was kind of your Dad to come and tell me? I laughed and said he isn't my Dad, he is my husband. She looked mortified but just a few days later a lady in a shop made the same assumption. There is only 5 years between but I've always been told i look young.

I come from Norfolk but have lived up North for a long time. However the amount of times I got called posh (especially when teaching in a prison) was unbelievable due to my accent. Guess what they have council estates in Norfolk and also been though the care system I can definitely say I did not have a privileged up bringing.

I also spend a 90 minute train journey with a very drink guy who spent the time telling me and everyone around me that I was definitely a Tory!

When I laughed and told her that we had been together for 35 years, I WAS the first wife and the children are mine and I wasn't aware of any hatred from them she went beetroot and scuttled off- her husband said " Please dont mind her- she only opens her mouth to change feet". He was seen later having a stern word with her.
Called my eldest DD last night and told her, she said I was the shittest golddigger ever 🤣🤣

During a conversation with someone in the park, I said I was a single parent.
I was told that I didn't look the 'type' 😂

@ToadRagein my defence she was late 20s & he was 50s

A few.

That I'm retired. Nope. Still working full-time from home and have two new, very prestigious opportunities that I'm hoping I get looming.

That I'm a boring old granny (I DO look like one 😂). Also no. I've had a very exciting life. Have lived and worked in several countries and despite no longer wanting a relationship, am bisexual and have had relationships with both sexes,

That I'm a gold digger because I had an older partner with some money. Nope. I earn all my own gold thank you. Can't think of anything worse than sponging off someone.

Conversely, that because I live in a modest house and drive a very unfancy older car, that I'm broke. Also nope. I'm careful with money. Invest it in property. I work (mostly) because I enjoy it, not because I need the money.

That I married my "older DH for his money". He's a year younger than me and was also a broke student when we met.