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Nothing like a teenage daughter to keep you humbled…

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JamieOliverPetrolStation · 19/07/2026 20:45

I leaned into the culottes and polka dot trend this season and was delighted with this bargain in Sainsburys last week. I thought I looked great. Effortless and summery chic etc etc. Until 14yo DD looked up at me with withering disdain and asked why was I dressed like a Tombliboo.

We had a similar situation last year when I bought a striped teeshirt and they called me Bagpuss for the whole summer.

OP posts:
honeylulu · Today 10:07

It's definitely banter in our house and our kids get teased right back. For example our son has shoulder length dark hair, an earring, very skinny and always wears black - his dad calls him Pound Shop Damien Hurley.

We all find it funny. If someone didn't then it would stop. It's nice to have a household where we can all have a laugh together.

user67392097643 · Today 10:13

Having a wardrobe clear out and came across my favourite denim jacket of my teens/20’s. Showed DD 20 I could still get it on, albeit a bit snug at 50 - “yeah, isn’t it supposed to do up though?”

I’m very glad we have a jokey fun relationship - much like I had with my mother many years ago! Some of you complaining about a fun thread sound like your families are incredibly dull!

PensionPTake · Today 10:13

Mines autistic so pretty blunt but I love that I know I'll get an honest opinion on stuff. She's been complimenting the garden recently and I know it must look good otherwise she would never ever say so

Deboragh · Today 10:16

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fudgesmummy · Today 10:17

I remember trying on a lovely red coat years ago and my teenage DD said I looked like a double decker bus!
I didn’t buy the red coat 😆

Deboragh · Today 10:23

Additup · Yesterday 21:13

I was at school/young adult in the 1980s/90s and definitely don't remember being taught to respect any elder (well no more than anyone else). I'm laughing because you made that time sound like something from Victorian times and I know it wasn't.

My kids are adults now and they are lovely, funny people with a good sense of humour.

I was taught that respect was earned. Anything else was was just bullying enforced by inadequate people.

Sooose · Today 10:27

Since when do we take style advice from our kids?!

Wear whatever makes you happy, that's what I say. It will make someone else happy too, I feel sure....

SkalengeckOrSiegbarste · Today 10:28

babybythesea · 19/07/2026 21:26

I have just remembered a conversation with DD1 aged 14 which went:

Me: Do you like this tshirt?
Her: No. Its rank. Wait, do you mean for me or you?
Me: Well I was thinking for me but if it’s that bad…
Her: It’ll be fine for you though.

Thanks. I didn’t get it.

I get this all the time from my teen & tweens! The horrified “for me?!” Followed by “oh yeah, it’s fine for you!” Said in a patronising yet charitable tone!

LittleArithmetics · Today 10:31

Gwenhwyfar · Yesterday 19:22

When I was a teenager in the 90s my DM asked my opinion on her clothes all the time. Yes, there were generational differences, but of course I saw my mother as a person who dressed up nicely. She wasn't invisible to me. I do remember that I didn't always tell the truth...

Fair enough. In our case, I don't think my mum would have wanted any advice from someone who was wearing purple stripy tights, army boots, and an essentially see-through skirt with tiny bells sown into it.

Gwenhwyfar · Today 10:34

LittleArithmetics · Today 10:31

Fair enough. In our case, I don't think my mum would have wanted any advice from someone who was wearing purple stripy tights, army boots, and an essentially see-through skirt with tiny bells sown into it.

I was the only other female in the house so it might have been desperation on my mum's part.
Also, while I didn't look in my teen years, I wasn't a complete fashion victim either and could give advice from a teenager's view of classic dressing.

TIAHead · Today 10:37

Isn’t that the point though - when my teen says somethings horrible but means for her not me I’m totally ok with that because I wouldn’t wear what she wears!!

agree that some on here are just rude but comparing people to a thing or person can be funny. Especially funny from young children who are just saying what they see

my mum was always very chic and well put together and I used to get embarrassed sometimes because she was always dressed smartly but she passed onto me an attitude of ‘I’ll wear what I like and what I am comfortable in and not just follow the fashions’ - she of course despairs of me in my jeans and trainers but that’s what I like!

disturbia · Today 10:57

JamieOliverPetrolStation · 19/07/2026 20:45

I leaned into the culottes and polka dot trend this season and was delighted with this bargain in Sainsburys last week. I thought I looked great. Effortless and summery chic etc etc. Until 14yo DD looked up at me with withering disdain and asked why was I dressed like a Tombliboo.

We had a similar situation last year when I bought a striped teeshirt and they called me Bagpuss for the whole summer.

I am with your daughter on that one! What an unflattering garment no wonder it was reduced.

EmeraldShamrock000 · Today 10:59

This thread is hilarious.

Frenzi · Today 10:59

Daughter was talking about getting leg tattoo's and I commented that they won't age well.

She just said it didn't matter as by then she will be wearing old lady clothes like me so no one would see them.

Gee, thanks.

Rachelsthorns · Today 11:08

My beautiful floral dress that I loved so much?
“What are we doing for curtains while you’re wearing them?”

BlackeyedSusan · Today 11:29

Rondayvu · 19/07/2026 21:21

No matter how many times I read this is does not make sense at all!

I am glad to hear you have an extraordinary bush though ;)

Clearly never been subjected to 'In The Night Garden' at least not while not excessively sleep deprived!

LittleArithmetics · Today 11:49

I know I'm in a minority, but I'm struggling with the idea that:

  • someone buys a new item and is excited to wear it
  • they get compared to a cartoon character, an inanimate object or other hilarious comparison, or they get called fat
  • the item goes straight to the charity shop (mentioned many times on this thread)
And that isn't a bit cruel?
IsThistheMiddleofNowhere · Today 11:59

I'm returning a polka dot dress that I purchased online because it looks like an old lady dress on me - luckily, I could see it myself and didn't need my teenage daughters to tell me. Thing is, I am an old lady, but it made me look even more of an old lady!

BauhausOfEliott · Today 12:01

I remember in the early 90s when my friends and I were about 15 or 16 there were trends for waistcoats, baker boy caps, Dr Martens and those floppy Paddington-style hats with the brim that folded back.

One day four or five of us were out in London and we went somewhere for lunch (probably Pizza Hut, at best) and there were mirror panels on one wall, and one of my friends looked at our reflection and said 'Fucking hell, we look like we're about to go out picking pockets for Fagin'.

NCembarassed · Today 13:01

This morning I explained to DC(age13) that the crunchy & snapping sounds from my knee & hip is called crepitus. She shot back with "is that what they call it, because you're decrepit?". To be fair to her, I do have multiple disabilities and do, indeed, qualify as decrepit.

EmeraldShamrock000 · Today 13:09

LittleArithmetics · Today 11:49

I know I'm in a minority, but I'm struggling with the idea that:

  • someone buys a new item and is excited to wear it
  • they get compared to a cartoon character, an inanimate object or other hilarious comparison, or they get called fat
  • the item goes straight to the charity shop (mentioned many times on this thread)
And that isn't a bit cruel?

That’s where unconditional love comes into play.
Your children get a pass they are born to make us laugh without feeling offended when they mock us.

CharlotteStreetW1 · Today 13:36

Given the state of many teenage girls that I've seen out and about lately, I would be completely disregarding their sartorial opinion.

Startthecar · Today 14:16

Oh just wear your outfits OP, I'm sure you look great in them!

Two summers ago, I picked up a nicely fitted t-shirt; white with pretty dark blue stripes, on the diagonal; flattering, I thought, that is until my DS did a double-take and announced that I looked like "a Russian sailor" of all things!

I continued to wear the shirt ( I liked it on me) but thought of it every time I put it on, and wondered if anyone else who saw me out and about thought that too!

LittleArithmetics · Today 15:03

@Startthecar it seems unlikely - what does a Russian sailor even look like?

LadyWhistledownsSocietyPapers · Today 15:38

TerfOnATrain · Today 08:04

It must be really dull to be part of a family where having a bit of family banter is seen as rude or poor form.

I, myself, have a love of boho style jackets and coats with a shag or wool trim and have come to expect the “oh look, mums come as a sheep again”.

Or that they're spiteful bullies!

My (absolutely lovely, non spiteful defender of anyone actually being bullied) daughter told me I looked like Beetlejuice when I wore a stripey top.