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What do I eat when I’m dying?

226 replies

Okitsme · 20/08/2025 17:20

I’ve just been given weeks to live.
I’ve found it very hard to eat for the last couple of weeks and am forcing myself to eat a certain number of mouthfuls while in hospital.
If you have looked after anyone in this situation what things did they like?
I loved food and cooking

OP posts:
Ilovesandwiches · 30/08/2025 21:55

sending lots of love xxxx

Cheesyandpickled · 30/08/2025 22:04

So sorry for your loss xxx

MiddleNameDilema · 30/08/2025 22:44

Cheesyandpickled · 30/08/2025 22:04

So sorry for your loss xxx

Huh?

OP, hope you're doing as well as can be, that you are comfortable and pain free and having some lovely food xxx

Gladysknightjustwalkinmyshoes · 30/08/2025 22:46

MiddleNameDilema · 30/08/2025 22:44

Huh?

OP, hope you're doing as well as can be, that you are comfortable and pain free and having some lovely food xxx

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There was an update from op daughter.
Op is no longer with us.

ShrubRose · 30/08/2025 22:52

@SpryWriter
How kind of you to let us know.
Please accept our deepest condolences for your loss.

SquishedMallow · 30/08/2025 23:00

SpryWriter · 30/08/2025 18:53

Hello everyone,

This post was by my Mum who sadly passed away yesterday.

Thank you all for your wonderful messages, she received a lot of support from Mumsnet over the years - it was a community for her in high and low times.

If it helps anyone else reading this fruit ice lollies were the only thing she could really stomach towards the end. CBD was a massive waste of time and money.

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So sorry for your loss of your dear mum. Lovely of you to take the time to update. Take care xxx

Maddy70 · 30/08/2025 23:02

I am very very sorry X

Allisnotlost1 · 30/08/2025 23:33

I’m sorry for your loss @SpryWriter, may your mum rest in peace and your memories of her carry you through.

gingercat02 · 30/08/2025 23:35

SpryWriter · 30/08/2025 18:53

Hello everyone,

This post was by my Mum who sadly passed away yesterday.

Thank you all for your wonderful messages, she received a lot of support from Mumsnet over the years - it was a community for her in high and low times.

If it helps anyone else reading this fruit ice lollies were the only thing she could really stomach towards the end. CBD was a massive waste of time and money.

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Peridot1 · 30/08/2025 23:50

I am so sorry @SpryWriter. Your mum sounded incredibly brave. Much as you would not have wanted her to have to be. Love to you and your family. ❤️

ChessorBuckaroo · 31/08/2025 01:25

Sorry for the loss of your mum. Glad she was able to get some comfort towards the end with the ice lollies.

Sunbeam01 · 31/08/2025 02:47

Very sorry for your loss @SpryWriter.

florizel13 · 31/08/2025 07:43

lissie123 · 20/08/2025 22:19

My aunt smuggled gin and tonics into hospital for my granny. It’s All she wanted and she enjoyed them too. And I’m pleased she had them because she died slightly drunk and as well as drugged too! Nurses never knew.

In times like this us nurses used to get the doctors to prescribe it...the family would bring it in and we'd put it in the controlled drugs cabinet and give with the evening drug round x

lololola1987 · 03/09/2025 17:43

@Okitsme.
You’ve been in my thoughts so much.
please don’t feel like you have to reply.
Just sending you peace and courage.

soundsofthesixties · 03/09/2025 17:58

@okitsme.
She unfortunately died last week..

BellissimoGecko · 03/09/2025 18:12

I’m so sorry. Thinking of you.

lololola1987 · 03/09/2025 22:49

soundsofthesixties · 03/09/2025 17:58

@okitsme.
She unfortunately died last week..

Oh.
🩵 🩵🩵
I really hope she got to enjoy some lovely things.
Her post really got to me.

silkypyjamas · 04/09/2025 08:23

RIP 😇

Peridot1 · 04/09/2025 08:44

@soundsofthesixties - I am so sorry to read that. I read her initial post when she was diagnosed I think and then this one. So very sad and I too hope she got to eat some nice things and enjoyed some time with her family. RIP Okitsme.

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 04/09/2025 15:23

I'm so sorry @SpryWriter , thank you so much for posting.
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OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 04/09/2025 15:33

Oh my goodness, the Op only survived 9 days after writing her thread. how terribly sad.

@SpryWriter

I am so sorry for your loss, thank you for the sad update that was so kind of you at this very difficult time.

I believe your mum also posted on the ongoing cancer thread, tho I don't think she posted often on it / returned to it recently - Thread #6, living with incurable cancer, taking ALL the drugs, and remembering our fallen comrades.

Ilovemyshed · 04/09/2025 15:36

So sorry you are going through this.

Smoked salmon, hot smoked salmon
Lightly seared very lean filet sliced thinly with salad and a light sauce
Things like sole meuniere or veronique
Tempura veg with a dipping sauce or hollandaise
Chicken noodle soup made properly
Beef broth with tiny herbed dumplings in the Austrian style
Picky party type food
Thin, thin sliced white bread lightly butter with thinly sliced cucumber
Eggs benedict or royal or florentine
Thin bagels with cream cheese
Dips like whipped feta and some breadsticks
Linguine with crab or prawns and a little chilli
poached chicken in a lemon sauce
souffle
pannacotta
Jelly
Sorbet

ruethewhirl · 04/09/2025 15:38

SpryWriter · 30/08/2025 18:53

Hello everyone,

This post was by my Mum who sadly passed away yesterday.

Thank you all for your wonderful messages, she received a lot of support from Mumsnet over the years - it was a community for her in high and low times.

If it helps anyone else reading this fruit ice lollies were the only thing she could really stomach towards the end. CBD was a massive waste of time and money.

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Oh no, I'm so sorry for your loss @SpryWriter. I hope you're coping as well as is possible at such a sad time. 💐

typicaltuesdaynight · 04/09/2025 16:15

So sorry to hear this news op. When I worked in palliative care the patients would Often ask for custard ,ice cream and jelly. Maybe some mashed potatoes with gravy

Sortalike · 04/09/2025 16:34

So sorry to read your update, thoughts are with you all.