Ladies, do you ever got to a bar alone?

[SnowwDr0p]

You know like in the movies, they've had a terrible day so just head into a bar and order a drink then sit and play with it wistfully! Usually before a handsome stranger approaches bu that aside, I wondered, do people ever do that in real life? I certainly don't see lone women drinking in my town but wondered if it's maybe a city thing or is it just generally a movie thing?!

No, I used to go to cafes or restaurants alone, but not bars unless I was waiting for someone, or early for something and it was the only available place.

I would prob be OK going to a hotel bar alone. But don't think I'd fancy the pub by myself.

I used to go to the pub alone in my village, I don't do that these days.

I have done, if I am waiting for my DH to finish work I’ll get a glass of wine and read on my Kindle alone in a bar. Never been hit on by anyone whilst doing so either

Yes, wouldn't think twice about it. But I'm not a "lady".

Yes on a couple of occasions when away for work, I've taken myself and a good book to a bar or pub and had a drink by myself.

Hotel bars sure. I’ve been on business trips and then wanted to just sit and have a glass of wine, stare off wistfully while pondering my life choices. Sadly no handsome stranger has ever come and sat next to me. Yet.

I did on my birthday this year. I worked a morning shift and was meeting a friend at 17. Feeling unwell too. One of my very dear friends recently really turned on me, it has been so unpleasant. I had a prosecco alone with my book, send good thoughts her way, won’t deny cried a bit, then went on my way.

Yes I have and still would if I didn’t have a baby to prevent any alone time now😂

Yes, done it since my twenties, seventyseven now !

The problem with a lot of films is that they're written by men and they just get women to act like blokes.

I'll happily to a pub or bar (or restaurant or cinema etc) alone, but not in hopes of picking up a stranger. My own company is enough and I'd find it annoying if a guy started chatting to me in that situation. It's fine in movies but quite presumptuous IRL.

Yes, I often pop to the pub for one on the way home. Don't see why I shouldn't just because I'm alone.

Quite often over the years. More often abroad than here.

And I don't "act like a bloke" - whatever that means.

I probably could now but I remember too well being in my early 20s in a bar waiting for friends and having to get rid of three blokes all of whom ‘just want to buy you a drink’. Urgh! And one wasn’t keen on a ‘no’ until my first (male) friend showed up. So I wouldn’t…learned behaviour.

I have popped in for a glass of red or a pint on my own but not on a Friday or Saturday after a certain time of night normally (partly because places are packed and people are in night out mode) but I don’t play wistfully or get chatting to strange men like the movies!

I did in my late teens and twenties. Usually if I needed to kill some time.

I'm my forties now and generally just want to be at home when I'm not at work. Wouldn't think twice about it though.

No I never have and wouldn't but then I also wouldn't go to a restaurant or cinema alone

I wonder what you’re hoping to learn about ‘ladies’, @SnowwDr0p?

Yeah, pint & a bowl of chips please!

Yep, one of my favourite things to do in London (and anywhere). Being hit on by random blokes (including bar staff) is an annoyance though, as I like sitting alone and people watching.

Yes, on business trips or the odd short weekend away on my own.

Mix of hotel bar or just staying at a restaurant for another drink after a meal.

I normally have my kindle or a book with me, the only thing which happened was a lively discussion with a waiter about a book.

I think in theory I'd like to do it but then the reality is I'd probably rather be at home with my wine! I've never done it and think it's something to try but could feel quite vulnerable to be seen drinking alcohol alone! I'm married so wouldn't be waiting for a handsome stranger to turn up but definitely get the feeling if a woman was drinking in a bar alone she would be the centre of a lot of male gaze.

But again I'm basing that on my locality and it may be more expected in other areas. Equally, if I had a local pub and knew there was always going to be peoole in there that I would know then I would happily go alone but it would be different yo walk into a random bar somewhere just like Tv/Films.

Yes, do it all the time quite happily and always have done. Also happy to go to the cinema alone. I like the peace of not having to speak to anyone.

Well I'm not interested in answers from men because they absolutely do go in bars alone, so their answers I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️ Why not just write "I suspect OP might be a man" instead if skirting around it?