Ladies, do you ever got to a bar alone?

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You know like in the movies, they've had a terrible day so just head into a bar and order a drink then sit and play with it wistfully! Usually before a handsome stranger approaches bu that aside, I wondered, do people ever do that in real life? I certainly don't see lone women drinking in my town but wondered if it's maybe a city thing or is it just generally a movie thing?!

There are 8 billion people crowded onto this planet. No one cares why you’re sitting in The Stuffed Trout with a glass of rosé. Truly.

Very true. I met two of my best friends (on different occasions, in different bars, in different towns) from going to a bar alone and getting chatting.

I've done it all my life and I'm mid 60s. Why wouldn't you?

I was thinking about this. I already posted that I'm very comfortable doing things on my own (restaurants, cafes, gigs, museums etc) but that I never go to a bar because I wouldn't know what to do with myself. I'd just be sitting there.
Then I saw lots of women saying they often sit in a bar with a book and a glass of wine. That sounds lovely but I think it very much depends on the type of bars you have near you. I live in a studenty area and all the pubs near us are part of a famous pub crawl. They are usually absolutely heaving with large crowds of rowdy drinkers. It wouldn't be a pleasant t place to sit and read a book.

Yes frequently

Rarely....if I've been waiting for a train or for something to start. Or a couple of times when I've been away for work.

Though I did when I was having some medical treatment in Liverpool recently and was staying in a hotel with a bar on the top floor, great views, I couldn't walk far because of the treatment and spent a couple of happy afternoons up there with a pint and a book. But I left when it started to get busy.

I used to drop into my village pub on the way home on a Friday night, but it was full of my neighbours so nothing special. No handsome strangers, just people I'd known for years.

One g&t, a chat about who was up to what that weekend, then home to frozen pizza and salad.

Yes I have if waiting for someone or a train. The last time I was in a bar in euston waiting for my train and a guy approached me and would not leave me alone. The Manager offered to throw him out but I said it was OK and left very quickly. I honestly think men think if u are at the bar on your own you are up for it!

If your only experience of going to a bar alone is Euston Station (urgh!) you’ve missed a major pleasure in life!

I don't, because I don't drink and don't want to be around drinkers. I go everywhere I want to alone, it's never bothered me.

That’s interesting @Catsmere. As an enthusiastic wine drinker I despise the idea of alcohol-free wine, but I enjoy the atmosphere of a glamorous cocktail bar so much that I’m quite willing to consume alcohol-free cocktails if the occasion demands.

I don’t really think much about ‘being around drinkers’. A gang of drunken men (whether office workers or football fans) on a train is a woeful and appalling thing to be trapped with; and in fact drunk men are generally best avoided - but I find the buzzy atmosphere of a bar at any performance venue utterly charming and … embracing.

I really wouldn’t generalise on the basis of a single man in a railway station. They’re hardly known for genteel behaviour.

If a book feels too public why don’t you stick in a pair of headphones and listen to music/podcast/book?

Iv got bone phones so I can listen but still hear what’s going on around me. They are always in my bag whereas I might not always have a book depending on the day.

also there will be days when it’s quieter or try a hotel bar inside of a pub maybe?

Hahahaha.. I did this. I was out with friends and wasn't feeling it so I ditched them and went to a bar alone.

I sat there with a drink on my own. Just playing about on my phone. A handsome man did come up to me and sit down.

Yes I did bang him.. twice.

Good times.

Ah, I don't go to performances, of any sort, so wouldn't be at bars there. I dislike alcohol; I don't like feeling it change my mood or behaviour, and I'm only talking a glass or two of wine, I never had anything else (beer smell and flavour = 🤮). I enjoy going to cafes to have lunch, and normally do it alone.

I don't go to performances, of any sort

Please forgive my curiosity - but I cannot imagine this. Is there a specific reason? You never, ever go to a play, or concert, or opera or discussion or lecture? Not even a choral performance in a chapel or venue for a different religion? Apologies if this is a stupidly clumsy question. I know some people might not, for religious or health reasons - but then they wouldn’t frequent cafes either, which you do …

No, that's fine! :)

In no particular order - plays and films cost far too much, and films are painfully loud even if there was anything being made now I'd want to see; I don't like live music, it's too loud; I can't stand opera; my interest in listening to any music even at home has pretty much disappeared in the last couple of decades; I've never had the slightest desire to go to lectures and wouldn't have the patience now or, I suspect, the attention span (internet plus menopause did a number on that). I'm perfectly happy to be at home, watching my choice of things on DVDs, reading and knitting, and visiting friends. I like a quiet life in every sense.