Ladies, do you ever got to a bar alone?

[SnowwDr0p]

You know like in the movies, they've had a terrible day so just head into a bar and order a drink then sit and play with it wistfully! Usually before a handsome stranger approaches bu that aside, I wondered, do people ever do that in real life? I certainly don't see lone women drinking in my town but wondered if it's maybe a city thing or is it just generally a movie thing?!

I remain amazed that so many MN posters feel the need for a book as armour when eating or drinking alone …

yes I have done. I've moved around a fair bit and travelled for work so not always had company and bars/ pubs can be nice places to go for a spot of people watching/ relaxation and a glass of wine or to read a book alone/in company rather than alone/alone. I've had nice conversations this way and once did meet a long term partner! I wouldn't really sit and get wazzed alone but had no bones about going to a bar or pub just the same as a gallery, café or museum or suchlike.

I don't need one as armour. I just really really like reading. In a bar or pub, it also helps to send the "I am NOT in search of company, thanks" signal, but that's a side benefit. If I just want to have a coffee and people-watch, I will.

I have done regularly over the years. I travel alone a lot so it's something I'm used to doing.

Yes. Nice wine bar for glass of wine and nibbles on my own with good book before picking kids up to walk home from after school activity. Bliss. Was just as happy with a coke and brownie in local cafe, depending on location of class.

Patronising and anochristic - how's that working out for you?

I’d be bored out of my mind without book or phone. For me time alone to read was the treat- rest just additional pleasures.

I have no issue whatsoever sering a lone woman. I admire the confidence. I think that's why I was intrigued by the idea, I can't see myself doing it but would like to!

Same! 😁

If I’m alone in a different city for work I’ll happily stop for a pint or glass of wine on my own. I don’t want anyone to talk to me though 😂

I don't drink any more, but when I did, I would go to a bar once a week alone with my book.

In the summer I drop DS off to cricket practice for 2 hours then pop into local Wether spoons pub and buy a meal and a bottomless hot drink.

I have done if I'm waiting for someone to join me or to pass time if I'm waiting to do something else. I wouldn't just do it on my own though because I felt like it. I see drinking out in bars as something social so if I fancied a drink on my own I'd just drink at home.

Yes, I've done it many times. I like it - but I am quite comfortable with my own company

Whyever not? It requires no confidence whatsoever. I’ve done it everywhere I’ve ever lived on a regular basis.

Nope. If I’m not meeting a friend I’d rather just stay home. Nothing to do with being a lady, I’d just get bored in a bar on my own. Doubt DH would go to a pub or bar on his own either for the same reason.

Me neither really, though ill try to be sometimes 😆 it wasn't that deep when I wrote it, just wasn't really interested in a male response as I see plenty of men and know of men who will go to bars alone.

Yes, when travelling. I am 52 though, so men don't bother me any more.

I think Wetherspoons are a different type of place though? Not quite a restaurant, not quite a pub!? I mean a bar where people are generally just drinking rather than a place that families would go for tea.

Yes, of course!

I'd feel really self conscious, that people were thinking I'd been stood up or waiting for an admirer to join me. In public I really struggle with my own company. I do wish I didn't!

I wouldn’t. I imagine it depends on the area. I would feel like I was putting myself in a vulnerable situation. Certain types of men are like hawks looking for someone vulnerable enough to hook up with them. A woman alone in one of our pubs is like a wiggly worm on a plate. It’s the last place I’d take my book, that’s for sure!

Yes, often. If I’m not driving and have an hour to spare whilst one of the DC is doing an activity, I’ll often pop to the pub for a pint and bother my book for an hour.

I’ve never been stared at or feel self conscious.

I do sometimes after work in London if my train is late.

I wouldn't go to a bar alone, but I'm not massively interested in drinking. I have been to the cinema alone, gigs, festivals, the theatre etc. I think it's good for the soul to go on adventures alone.

I don't especially care what other people think about me. I used to be really shy and self conscious, but these days I won't let anyone stop me from having a good time. I sometimes go to a beginners ballet class that I'm absolutely dogshit at. I enjoy it and tbh, everyone else is too worried about what everyone is thinking about them to worry about you. If you act like you're confident, everyone will believe it because everyone thinks everyone else has pots of confidence.