Ladies, do you ever got to a bar alone?

[SnowwDr0p]

You know like in the movies, they've had a terrible day so just head into a bar and order a drink then sit and play with it wistfully! Usually before a handsome stranger approaches bu that aside, I wondered, do people ever do that in real life? I certainly don't see lone women drinking in my town but wondered if it's maybe a city thing or is it just generally a movie thing?!

To add if I go somewhere alone then iv chosen to you know BE ALONE. I’d be pretty fucked off if a bloke or a woman started talking and bothering me! That includes a pub or restaurant or the theatre or the pictures or a cafe or a gym or swimming pool or anywhere else I’ve gone alone.

im quite happy in my own company and have my own circle of people if I want to spend time with others.

I have done it when away with work and in the hotel with a good book.

Not really otherwise though. I had to go to Hackney recently as was early so grabbed a drink in the weatherspoons there around midday and I felt like I was on display. Just hoardes of old men in there, drinking alone or in groups were sat watching me like it was something fascinating. I felt unbelievably uncomfortable.

I wanted to go last week for an after work cocktail by myself but didn’t have the money and was also worrying about various things so thought I probably wouldn’t actually enjoy it.

Yes, I do this from time to time. Not really like in a film, though. More like a person having a coffee alone but the coffee is in fact wine.

‘Ladies’ is an odd term to use if you want serious answers without annoying potential posters …

For myself I’ve had no qualms about being seen drinking alcohol alone over the past forty years. Never given it a thought. I prefer a decent glass of red wine with a meal in a good restaurant (perfectly happy eating alone), or a fabulous cocktail somewhere fun - I don’t often hang out in low dives. But I don’t need a Hollywood created reason to enjoy a drink alone if that’s what I want to do.

All the time.

I do, though usually not just to sit at the bar unless its a hotel bar or a bar at a train station or something. But I go to watch ice hockey for instance. Used to go by myself all the time to play poker but of course I wasn't by myself when I was playing, as I was with all the other players but they were all strangers to begin with.

Like others on here when I go to bars alone I tend to go to enjoy a drink and some down time. I'd go into most hotel bars without a second thought. But elsewhere I take a moment just inside the door to take in the atmosphere before deciding whether to stay.

It's never like the movies, though. I never sit at the bar. I'm never staring wistfully off or morosely swirling my drink wondering how I'm going to overcome some dastardly plot at work. If I can I find somewhere with a view, and I read. I'm not there to be chatted up and that probably comes across quite clearly most of the time. I have had the odd comment, especially in pubs, but it's normally a jokey comment from a bloke in a group trying to test the waters rather than a full blown pick up by a handsome movie star about to turn my life around.

I’m not a ‘lady’ 🤢, but I have when waiting to meet someone.

I happily sit with my phone or a book and a glass of wine whenever the opportunity arises, have for years, I've never been approached or looked at wierd.

Same here. I go to restaurants alone too - at all times of the day and evening.

Jesus, to the people who have taken exception to being called a lady, what do you prefer?
I am an adult woman and a lady.

No. I wouldn't. I love doing things alone and frequently go to restaurants, cinema, gigs, galleries etc alone but I have no interest in going to a bar alone. Maybe because with the other activities there's a focus. I'm watching a film, or eating a meal or listening to a band. In a bar, I'd just be sitting there doing nothing and that would feel strange to me. Also I only drink socially.

When DC was young and had a class on the other side of town that we got to via bus or walking, it was mid evening and no shops were open. If I’d gone home I’d have turned round and come straight out again. The pub for a coffee or even a wine was a good option. Also, a local ix different from a bar

I’m a woman. I find ‘lady’ deeply patronising and anachronistic.

I go to pubs for a drink alone with my Kindle all the time. Nothing better than taking yourself out for a pint and a burger. Taken myself to restaurants solo lots of times too when travelling alone or travelling on business. A standalone cocktail bar, probably not, just because of stupid jackass men, but I'd sit in a hotel bar.

Yes. Earlier this afternoon, I went shopping and then had a glass of wine in front of a pub fire and it was lovely.

Often, I’ll be out there again later. Wouldn’t dream of wistfully fiddling with my drink though, and have limited tolerance for small talk - that’s why I’m out by myself!
Women who can’t bear to see other women sitting on their own are a menace.

I do it all the time and it's not a big deal. Have done it for years and it's never been a big deal.

Yes have and do, usually I will know that people I know are likely to be there but have also done it in random places, not sat at a bar though, I take a book

I wouldn’t sit up at the bar unless there were no tables. I think sitt8ng at the bar invites conversation but sitting at a table with a book, yep. Ideally by the fire.

Yes, l do. On occasion (but not very often), I’ve swapped phone numbers with someone too.

"Ladies"?! Well, as a modern woman, I have occasionally gone into a bar if killing time and preferring a glass of wine to a cup if coffee. I also go to restaurants alone, shock horror. But I do always have a Kindle in my handbag.......
There is no reason why this should be A Thing. Bars are for both men and women.

I’ve been doing this since my late teens. I take a book and am good at rebuffing unwanted conversation.

Just why? I really don't understand this. Solo cinema/theatre/restaurant trips are fab.

No. I'd either get heckeled (sp) for being ugly or the resident drunk nutter would start harassing me 🙄