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trans masculine non-binary

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myslippersarepink · 06/12/2024 18:25

The daily fail headline is Oppenheimer star Emma Dumont comes out as trans masculine non-binary and reveals new name
I won't link.

But what does trans masculine non binary mean?

Doesn't non binary mean you're neither of the two sexes? What is trans masculine? A trans man? If so, why use different words? And what do the two things mean together?

I'm so confused 😵‍💫

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TitusMoan · 06/12/2024 19:38

changedusernameforthis1 · 06/12/2024 19:36

As a trans man I can quite confidently tell you that I....don't know. But I've had what I call a "people headache" for years now and I'm sure it's just getting worse.
My ex came out as a Fae a while ago and uses Fae/Faer pronouns and there's not enough Anadin extra to even begin to unpack all that.

What’s a people headache?

MrsPeregrine · 06/12/2024 19:40

myslippersarepink · 06/12/2024 18:25

The daily fail headline is Oppenheimer star Emma Dumont comes out as trans masculine non-binary and reveals new name
I won't link.

But what does trans masculine non binary mean?

Doesn't non binary mean you're neither of the two sexes? What is trans masculine? A trans man? If so, why use different words? And what do the two things mean together?

I'm so confused 😵‍💫

You lost me at “Daily Fail” sorry 🤷‍♀️

Dyslexiaismyskill · 06/12/2024 19:43

I think it's the sign the madness is coming to an end.

MrsTerryPratchett · 06/12/2024 19:44

changedusernameforthis1 · 06/12/2024 19:36

As a trans man I can quite confidently tell you that I....don't know. But I've had what I call a "people headache" for years now and I'm sure it's just getting worse.
My ex came out as a Fae a while ago and uses Fae/Faer pronouns and there's not enough Anadin extra to even begin to unpack all that.

I'm stealing 'people headache'. I now know what I had yesterday.

HansHolbein · 06/12/2024 19:52
Seth Meyers Lol GIF by Late Night with Seth Meyers

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blacksax · 06/12/2024 19:57

Why are some people so obsessed with coming up with all these wordy-salady ways of identifying themselves and announcing it to all and sundry?

As if anyone else on the planet gives a shit.

endofthecorridoor · 06/12/2024 20:03

That would be fine but she still wants to be a woman to get film roles

blacksax · 06/12/2024 20:03

Robotnik · 06/12/2024 19:27

I haven't asked them why they take it. They have said that the physical effects of testosterone have helped stop people treating them like a woman, though, which was something they wanted.

Did they explain what they mean by 'people treating them like a woman'?

How does one actually treat someone 'like a woman'?

Robotnik · 06/12/2024 20:07

Wow, people are asking a lot of questions about my friend. Sorry, I really don't have all the answers. I don't quiz them about their gender or private medical stuff, any more than I do with any of my other friends. They're non-binary and trans-masculine, and I respect that.

MrsTerryPratchett · 06/12/2024 20:10

Did they explain what they mean by 'people treating them like a woman'?

How does one actually treat someone 'like a woman'?

Quite a lot of the time girls and women who try NB or trans identities are trying to identify out of oppression and childhood abuse. Treating someone like a woman often means sexual harassment.

TinyRebel · 06/12/2024 20:16

Robotnik · 06/12/2024 18:54

I don't know anything about this actress, but I do have a friend who's trans-masculine non-binary. They've had top surgery and take testosterone, and do not identify as either a man or woman. I don't find it any more complicated or confusing than anyone else's gender. They're not an attention-seeking person at all; they're very reserved.

Your friend is seriously messed up if she’s chosen to amputate her healthy breasts and poison her body with wrong-sex hormones. It’s not normal behaviour for anyone who isn’t beholden to some kind of cult.

CompletelyALoan · 06/12/2024 20:18

Robotnik · 06/12/2024 18:54

I don't know anything about this actress, but I do have a friend who's trans-masculine non-binary. They've had top surgery and take testosterone, and do not identify as either a man or woman. I don't find it any more complicated or confusing than anyone else's gender. They're not an attention-seeking person at all; they're very reserved.

Fucking ridiculous

CompletelyALoan · 06/12/2024 20:19

Rewilding Jude on YouTube claims to be a queer man. But is actually a very confused woman.

BalladOfBarry · 06/12/2024 20:20

Meanwhile, the women of Afghanistan..

Alltheprettyseahorses · 06/12/2024 20:24

I understand what it's supposed to be. But I genuinely can't be bothered with the nonsense. I don't have enough effort in me for it and if I did I'd do something more productive than pander to this tediousness.

IAm16StoneHalloween2024 · 06/12/2024 20:27

CompletelyALoan · 06/12/2024 20:19

Rewilding Jude on YouTube claims to be a queer man. But is actually a very confused woman.

Edited

What? Now I’m confused. A woman? The cottage/cat one?

CompletelyALoan · 06/12/2024 20:36

IAm16StoneHalloween2024 · 06/12/2024 20:27

What? Now I’m confused. A woman? The cottage/cat one?

Yep. She's deleted all the pics on her Instagram. She had a yarn channel. She's fooling a lot of viewers.

blacksax · 06/12/2024 20:42

MrsTerryPratchett · 06/12/2024 20:10

Did they explain what they mean by 'people treating them like a woman'?

How does one actually treat someone 'like a woman'?

Quite a lot of the time girls and women who try NB or trans identities are trying to identify out of oppression and childhood abuse. Treating someone like a woman often means sexual harassment.

Yes, I see what you mean.

There's something drastically wrong somewhere in society isn't there?

MrsTerryPratchett · 06/12/2024 20:43

There is @blacksax

Is pretty awful to be a girl right now so I don't blame them for trying to escape it. It doesn't work but it's them trying.

CompletelyALoan · 06/12/2024 20:43

No problem with them living anyway they like but she is lying to viewers.

trans masculine non-binary
Glitchymn1 · 06/12/2024 20:44

Jesus wept.

Jeezitneverends · 06/12/2024 20:47

What a load of bollocks-all of it

sweetydahling · 06/12/2024 20:50

Robotnik · 06/12/2024 20:07

Wow, people are asking a lot of questions about my friend. Sorry, I really don't have all the answers. I don't quiz them about their gender or private medical stuff, any more than I do with any of my other friends. They're non-binary and trans-masculine, and I respect that.

You aren't respecting her.

She's had her breasts cut off and is on hormones that'll fuck up her system and health in years to come when this fad crumbles and all her friends start making excuses to stop hanging out with her when it no longer seems cool any more.

What was she? Traumatised? Autistic? Lesbian?

It's a cry for help and you, as her friend, nodded along and thought, 'Trans-masc non-binary? Yup, I can go along with that, how virtuous am I.'

CompletelyALoan · 06/12/2024 20:55

What the fuck is trans masculine? Ffs

LadyQuackBeth · 06/12/2024 21:00

I know a trans masculine non binary person as well. They considered their identity/soul/personality to be neither male or female but their gender presentation is more masculine. The person I know has a lot to say about how gender identity is totally separate from gender presentation (share a good few venn diagrams to this effect on social media).

It's quite dull, definitely takes a lot of naval gazing to reach the point where you think anyone would be interested.