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Where is all this money coming from ?

113 replies

missybigmouth · 02/11/2024 16:42

I'm anticipating a flaming and being told none of my business. This post is not about who earns the most. But might sound flavoured like it is.

Friend is single mum. She works FT and has a mortgage and bills but no credit what so ever. Me and DH earn a very good combined income. We also have mortgage and bills plus we have a lot of credit but make the pymts as needed, monthly credit pymts average around £200.

We eat out often (few times a month). But my friend eats out a lot. She is on her 5th dinner out in the last week. She regularly asks me to go with her. But I can't afford to eat out to that extent. Suddenly money is seemingly no object to her. I can't keep up. She's asking me for weekends away, spa days etc. I know for a fact she has no credit cards and she has not had an inheritance. Her parents are v old and are only on pensions. I'm pleased for her that she has money to spare. But I'm miffed as to where it is all coming from. And no I am not jealous.

Over the years we've gone out etc and we've had nights where we have both said we're a bit skint so let's have a night in together. I still say this but she now never says she can't afford anything.

My monthly household income is around £5k more than hers. Yes I have bigger bills and mortgage but not that much bigger.

She has not changed jobs. I'm just a bit miffed by it all

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lightsandtunnels · 02/11/2024 16:44

Comparison, thief, joy and all that OP.
How do you actually know that she isn't up to her eyeballs in debt? Surely you don't know it for definite. People can be very secretive when it comes to money! Or she might have won the lottery or something.

Timeforabiscuit · 02/11/2024 16:45

Well you're nosey, even if you're not jealous!

Sounds like she's had a small lottery win or other windfall and she's enjoying letting her hair down.

AutumnCrow · 02/11/2024 16:46

Child maintenance increase from her Ex or a lottery win or myriad other reasons.

Oh don't tell me, her Ex is AWOL abroad and she never plays the lottery.

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Isitfridayyetsophie · 02/11/2024 16:46

Maybe she’s won some money, inherited some, maybe she’s on only fans. How do you know she has no credit? She could just have a lot of debt.

thebear1 · 02/11/2024 16:47

Maintenance? A win? If you're not jealous why are you miffed?

vodkaredbullgirl · 02/11/2024 16:47

🙄

Longhotsummers · 02/11/2024 16:47

This can’t be a serious post, unless it’s written by a 5 year old?

Swanbeauty · 02/11/2024 16:47

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DreamyCyanFinch · 02/11/2024 16:48

You need to ask her where she's got the extra money from.Just ask.We can't tell you.

AutumnCrow · 02/11/2024 16:48

Shall we all just cut to the chase and say 'wildly generous benefits system coupled with drug dealing and Only Fans'?

Fin

ValentinesDayCryingInTheHotel · 02/11/2024 16:49

Selling feet pics on Only Fans?!

InformEducateEntertain · 02/11/2024 16:49

She is almost certainly a top drawer mafia boss seeking to launder her money through the medium of food.

Really why does it matter so much OP?

30percent · 02/11/2024 16:49

Her mortgage payments are probs a lot less than yours. I know people paying 2k a month and others paying only 400. Depends whether you locked in or not or she may be close to paying it off.

Other than that perhaps she has a side hustle

MiddleClassProblem · 02/11/2024 16:50

I don’t know how you know her income and complete financial setup. I find that mad. Either way you have no idea if her skint times involved some kind of investment which is now paying off.

NoSquirrels · 02/11/2024 16:51

She’s your friend - you could ask her?

‘Hey friend, you seem pretty flush all of a sudden and I can’t keep up - I’m still skint! What am I doing wrong? What’s the secret to you having more money nowadays?’

Boomer55 · 02/11/2024 16:52

Friend or not, it’s not your business how she affords things. 🤷‍♀️

menopausalmare · 02/11/2024 16:53

Maybe she selling her dirty underwear on Onlyfans?

nomorehocuspocus · 02/11/2024 16:54

Why miffed? I can understand you being perplexed by it, but miffed?

missybigmouth · 02/11/2024 16:59

@nomorehocuspocus perplexed or miffed- either way the same thing

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InformEducateEntertain · 02/11/2024 17:01

No:

Miffed: somewhat annoyedd; peevedd

Perplexed: completely baffledd; very puzzledd

Different innit

Swanbeauty · 02/11/2024 17:09

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But she hasn't said she’s curious, she's said she’s pissed off by it.

SalmonLeBon · 02/11/2024 17:13

Miffed or mystified?
They are not the same.
Maybe she is moonlighting as a proof reader? 😉

Or just ask her.

missybigmouth · 02/11/2024 17:15

I'm not pissed off. Just curious and totally perplexed (if we are needing to be grammatically correct!).

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ImFckingMattDamon · 02/11/2024 17:17

Miffed means annoyed, that's why people are misunderstanding what you mean...

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