Where is all this money coming from ?

[missybigmouth]

I'm anticipating a flaming and being told none of my business. This post is not about who earns the most. But might sound flavoured like it is.

Friend is single mum. She works FT and has a mortgage and bills but no credit what so ever. Me and DH earn a very good combined income. We also have mortgage and bills plus we have a lot of credit but make the pymts as needed, monthly credit pymts average around £200.

We eat out often (few times a month). But my friend eats out a lot. She is on her 5th dinner out in the last week. She regularly asks me to go with her. But I can't afford to eat out to that extent. Suddenly money is seemingly no object to her. I can't keep up. She's asking me for weekends away, spa days etc. I know for a fact she has no credit cards and she has not had an inheritance. Her parents are v old and are only on pensions. I'm pleased for her that she has money to spare. But I'm miffed as to where it is all coming from. And no I am not jealous.

Over the years we've gone out etc and we've had nights where we have both said we're a bit skint so let's have a night in together. I still say this but she now never says she can't afford anything.

My monthly household income is around £5k more than hers. Yes I have bigger bills and mortgage but not that much bigger.

She has not changed jobs. I'm just a bit miffed by it all

Probs for the best OP didnt come back to this one. Its clear she meant miffed (i.e. jealous)

Lottery win? how do you know she hasn't had an inheritance?

It’s none of your never mind.

Ah, the Humpty Dumpty approach to language:

“When I use a word,’ Humpty Dumpty said in rather a scornful tone, ‘it means just what I choose it to mean — neither more nor less.’

’The question is,’ said Alice, ‘whether you can make words mean so many different things.’

’The question is,’ said Humpty Dumpty, ‘which is to be master — that’s all.”

― Lewis Carroll, Through the Looking Glass

Absolutely none of your business. If your interested ask her.

I'm anticipating a flaming and being told none of my business.

Probably should have listened to your instincts on this.

God forbid a single mother should have some money to enjoy herself with without keeping every local busybody fully apprised of her private financial situation.

Onlyfans. Or if she's getting maintenance maybe her ex got a better job and is paying more towards their children?

I find it amazing you can be certain she has no credit at all - I wouldn't have a scooby!

Espionage ?

Just ask her. 'I don't know how you manage financially, what's the secret?'

It’s very strange that you are counting how often she goes out for dinner

It still surprises me, that even here on MN, so many people assume that the main way any woman can earn large sums of money is on onlyfans or by prostitution.

Maybe she teaches English in her spare time.

Last year DH got a significant inheritance from a relative as the only benefactor. Looking from the outside in you'd be surprised at how much it was (as were we to be fair), and people generally wouldn't expect him to have inherited it.. People come into money in different ways.