Quick Poll of MNers around domestic abuse - No details needed

[WoodforTrees]

A quick poll.

On the back of one of the threads about Emma Pattison who was murdered this week along with her daughter, it has become apparent just how many women relate to life she may have been living. We know the figures around reported domestic abuse, and some of the charities like Women's Aid will have a guess at unreported figures, but I think the numbers are higher than even the worst guess.

I never reported. I even insisted everything was 'fine' when someone reported on my behalf. I know there are more like me.

There is a good definition of domestic abuse here. It breaks down the types and gives examples for anyone who is unclear:

thefirststep.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/Types-of-abuse-and-examples.pdf

Please feel free to name-change and simply write 'Yes' or 'No' to indicate whether you have ever experienced any form of DA. Please please don't think this poll isn't for you if you never have. I'm hoping to see lots of 'No' answers.

Thank you.

Yes

But ... although I respect your motivation and it's good to give people an opportunity to share if they are able, I'm not convinced this will give you an accurate percentage snapshot of anything in particular. In that you're only getting responses from people who (a) care enough about the issue to click, and (b) are in the kind of headspace where they even feel able to consider the question; so it's not going to be a representative sample of all users.

That isn't what @saraclara was saying at all.

Yes.

Yes

Also reported, nothing happened to the bastard though.

Thank you @LemonJuiceFromConcentrate

The lack of comprehension skills on MN never fails to amaze me.

No

Yes

Yes

I accept that people who have experienced DA are more likely to click on the thread and that it might not be completely representative - and it's certainly not accurate and I never imagined it would be - I was after a snapshot.

But...

EVEN taking that into account, the number of Yes posts in such a short space of time is completely heartbreaking and very telling.

It's endemic. It's a plague. It's everywhere.

Yes

YES

Yes

Yes. Didn't report.

Yes

Yes

Yes. Never reported.

Yes as a child
Yes as an adult in x 2 long term relationships

No

Yes. Never reported. Made a formal complaint about the shocking conduct of a police officer who came to my house in response to a fabricated complaint by my ex husband after I'd insisted the latter leave (the family house was mine not his).

No. Sending comfort to all who answered yes.

Yes

No

Yes.

Yes - physical and emotional
Yes - emotional (ongoing)