Is this racist?

[PinkyU]

My DD has just been approached by an older (than her) male after parking her car to pop into a shop, she was still in the car.

He approached her drivers side looking in the car then walked away back to his car. Walked back up again and started to speak, dd has opened the door and said “sorry?”, he asked her if she had enough space to get out, she said “yes plenty”, he then said “are you foreign”? DD said “what?!”, he repeated “are you foreign because of your accent”. DD said “no, bye then” and walked away.

For transparency, DD looks typically Middle Eastern dark olive skin, dark eyes, very long dark hair but is white. She has an accent typical for our area.

He was being a racist shit, yes?

She saw him walk into his house and I want to go confront him.

I was asked if I’m foreign before, apparently had an accent, but I was like nah just common 🤣

That's fucking brilliant. 😂

No, I wouldn’t say his exact words were racist, however he didn’t need to ask her that question!

I would feel very uncomfortable if someone were to ask me “are you foreign” not once, but twice.

What does it matter if she is foreign? Why can’t people appreciate that U.K is full of different backgrounds and cultures!

This is it precisely, DD has the definition of our local accent. She said enough to discern her accent. She does, however, not “present” as white.

DD has in the past been called the “p” word a number of different times.

What?! No it's not racist. He thought she had a foreign accent and asked about it. That's not racist.

@KousaMahshi

I am white and I agree with the majority of things you have said, a lot of people just don’t realise asking/saying certain things regarding race can offend or make a person feel uncomfortable.

You're losing it KousaMahsi. You seem to have a big chip on your shoulder for some reason. The only racist on this topic is you. Signing off now as I'm going out with my foreign husband for dinner in a foreign country which I am also a foreigner in. Did you ever hear the song "foreigner in New York" by Sting. I suppose you think he's racist too.

I was often asked if I was foreign when I lived in the UK, I didn’t even have much of an accent. I’m Swedish.

@Dacadactyl See above and my OP. She has a very obvious local accent. She, however, does not “present” as white.

I’d say he was being racist, albeit subtly. Whether she’s foreign or not has nothing to do with him, has it?

I’m actually surprised at the posters saying that you’re overreacting tbh.

Living in Sweden my dh now often get asked if he’s foreign. He is. All fine.

Your op clearly said 'she is white'

I think this is posted to cause trouble

People ask me if I'm from abroad too. Its not racist. I have a local accent but sometimes people are just shit with placing accents.

I think you've totally overreacted.

My partner is Black and read the thread he said it's not racist. I disagree it's a strange thing to point out to a stranger in the street.

My cat is Black - I read her the thread and she thinks it is.

Are you white?

Pathetic much?

You are what’s wrong with this world!

PMSL 😂

Yes I am white. But I've been asked if I am South African before?!

She made a joke, lighten up. 🙄

@VladmirsPoutine is a witch 🧹 😂 definitely single and insane

The hatred for each other on this thread is depressing. Bye!

Don't confront him.
I can't imagine why your dd felt afraid and vulnerable when really all he did was look into her car. He didn't speak to her until your dd opened the car door. Asking her if she is foreign makes him sound a bit thick, but is probably sarcasm because it seemed your dd didn't understand him.
Put it down to the fact that he is best avoided and tell your dd to keep her car door locked.

Couldn't he have been asking it to check she understood?