I didn't think I looked that rough!

[Magenta82]

A woman in the supermarket was chatting to my 11 month old DD and said "are you out shopping with granny?"

I was so stunned I couldn't say a word.

I am an older mum at 40 and she hasn't slept through in the last week but I didn't think I looked that rough!

Ouch! How old was she?

Incredibly rude! Silly woman

you are old enough to be her granny though so not that offensive? just a mistake.

Oh god that’s awful! In a similar vein I had two colleagues comment on my ‘pregnancy’ (I had a baby a year ago) - haven’t worn that dress since!!!

To be fair, at 40 you could easily be granny to a baby! Her experiences are probably only with younger mums, so didn't think about the possibility that you could be mother!

Was it an elderly lady? In her defence you are old enough to be a granny and not that many years ago it was more unusual to be over 25 having a baby let alone over 40 so she may not have been being rude.

I think it’s unlikely in this day and age a 40yr old is a granny!! Maybe she wasn’t wearing her glasses!! I mean, technically a 32yr old could be a granny, so maybe you should be flattered instead!!

If it is any consolation, someone once told me in the supermarket that I am the ugliest person they have ever seen. I also had someone shout at me in the street that I am one ugly motherfucker.

Meh. I'm 42. A lot of the school mums in my primary school DC classes are a similar age and also grannies.

I've been a great aunt since my 20s.

I think the youngest grandparent in the world is 23!

Years ago I was out with a friend and the shop assistant asked if I was her mum .
She's 6 months older than me !!!

At 40, a woman could be a young granny.

My kids were 18 and 16 when I was 40 but I wasn't a granny until I was 52

I can see how you would find this offensive but you're on the older side to be having a young baby ( no offence) and if you look a bit older than your age, she's come to the conclusion you're her grandmother. I had my first at 20 and so my mum was a young nan in her early 40s.

People are idiots OP!

I’m a nanny. I was walking 10 week old charge last week who was having a grumble and someone stopped me and said “oh He must’ve had you up all night, you look absolutely exhausted you poor thing”

That one smarted a bit 😂

I know someone who was a grandmother at 30 and her own mother was 45 at the time.

I was out shopping with my two daughters a few years back when someone asked my then 14 year old if she was my 9 year olds mum.

You're being incredibly rude to grandmothers here

Weird, considering you're more than old enough to be one.

I’ve had this. I’m a mid 40s, mum to a primary age child. I don’t look particularly old for my age. I don’t think it means you look old for 40. As others have said, it’s just possible to be a granny at 40 and that person wasn’t thinking much before speaking. A kid in my DDs reception class had a granny who was 36.

I'm 42 and have had two x-rays recently. No-one checked if there was a chance I might be pregnant, either time.

Err…gross

You probably look great to be mistaken for granny to be honest.
Lots of women are grandma's around 40, if I saw a 40 year old looking exhausted I'd be more likely to assume they were mum, if I saw one looking well put together and refreshed I'd be more likely to assume gran.

At least she didn't ask when the baby is due, this happened to a friend of mine. Mortifying.

I was offered an 'Over 60s' 15% discount several years ago (in the pharmacy) several years ago.

I was 48.

Hope that goes a LITTLE way to making you feel better @Magenta82

Also, you don't look rough. Some people are just shit at telling ages. You probably don't look 21, as no-one of 40 does, and no-one looks more than 5-8 years younger when you look properly. But you don't look rough, and you very likely do not look older than you. The woman was rude and thoughtless though I agree.

Also, you don't look rough. Some people are just shit at telling ages. You probably don't look 21, as no-one of 40 does, and no-one looks more than 5-8 years younger when you look properly. But you don't look rough, and you very likely do not look older than you. The woman was rude and thoughtless though I agree.

Do you know the OP personally? If not, how do you know how she looks?

Either way, the OP is being offensive to 40 year old grandmothers and I suspect she knows it.