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Wardrobes DH ICU

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Wardrobes123 · 19/01/2021 20:30

Just thought I’d create a new thread. To help us to keep track of what’s happened.

My DH was ventilated last week. We’ve had two calls to see him due to him being very close to death. He isn’t stable but he is still alive at the moment. All we can do is wait.

I’m not going to lie, I’m not coping at all. My mum has moved in to help me cope with daily life. We’ve spoken with the children and they know how serious it is. They are also struggling now with the youngest stepping back from schooling when she needs to.

I can’t think ahead. Just usually about the hour or two that we’re living in. It’s very surreal. And incredibly difficult. Doctors are very realistic about prognosis and survival, which is really hard to hear.

I am incredibly grateful for all the support we’ve had as a family. MN is a remarkable place at times.

@groovinpeanut - Flowers my heart goes out to you and your family and I’m so sorry for the loss of your DH, message me anytime X

@intheshadowofthemushroomcloud - Flowers for all your support and messages.

I have had several messages from other mnetters who don’t have their own threads but who are also experiencing this living hell Flowers it’s a horrible journey and we don’t know how it will end but all we can do is hope/pray for a better outcome.

I haven’t always had the energy to post, too fearful of jinxing things and generally the last few days have been very raw and intense. But I’ve read every message and I’m so grateful of the support.

OP posts:
FusionChefGeoff · 20/01/2021 06:59

I have nothing of any value to say except to add another voice of a stranger supporting you and thinking of you through this awful time and place.

You and your family are on my mind often as I go about my mundane day.

I can only imagine the fear and worry you must be feeling and I hope you can try to focus on the 'now' and find just occasional hints of happiness in the smallest things around you today.

Heffapotamus · 20/01/2021 07:35

Thinking of you and your family - and praying xxx

joystir59 · 20/01/2021 07:43

Thinking of you and hope you get some sleep. Strong woman Flowers

fridascruffs · 20/01/2021 07:44

So sorry xx

NSA2103 · 20/01/2021 07:45

I'm a single father, been through tough times myself, think Mumsnet is a great supportive community, and send my best wishes to you and your family also.

Redred2429 · 20/01/2021 07:45

I'm so sorry op xx

RosyPrimroseDoll · 20/01/2021 07:53

Delurking to send love and best wishes. You and your family have been in my thoughts- I've been checking the thread for updates daily, but don't feel like you have to post. Cuddles and ice cream is all I can suggest at this tense wait and see time.

Alfiemoon1 · 20/01/2021 07:58

Thinking of you and your family and anyone else going through this

herecomesthsun · 20/01/2021 08:01

sorry to read this, all good wishes to you both

Stuffofawesome · 20/01/2021 08:02

I'm so sorry you are having to experience this. Thinking of your family

mummyof4kids · 20/01/2021 08:07

Lots of love wardrobes, thinking of you and your family. I hope your DH makes a full recovery xx

Definitelynotlazy · 20/01/2021 08:09

Hello Wardrobes. I've been in the same position as you, waiting for the daily update from ICU, the highs and lows and 'life on hold' feeling. It won't last forever, I'm glad your mum is there to be with you.

It seems you have hundreds of people thinking of or praying for your family and personally, I took great comfort from seeing that so many people are so lovely, supportive and understanding. You really see the good in people and that is something to hold on to. You are not alone and even internet strangers have got your back at this time x

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 20/01/2021 08:11

My heart goes out to you and your family. 🙏 🙏 for better news very soon. xx

Dontbetardy · 20/01/2021 08:14

Thinking of you Wardrobes. And your family.

Trumplosttheelection · 20/01/2021 08:17

I'm thinking of you all, what a long and hard road this is.

errorofjudgement · 20/01/2021 08:21

Like many posters I’ve been following your posts, thinking of you and your family, but haven’t commented. However I read your update and so wanted to add my prayers and wishes for your DH, your family and for you x

misskatamari · 20/01/2021 09:36

I have no words of wisdom or comfort, but just wanted to say that I'm also thinking of you and your family, and wishing you strength. I'm so sorry. Sending you all so much love

wishywashywoowoo70 · 20/01/2021 10:08

Sending lots of Internet well wishes to you.
Thinking of you a lot and hoping for the best for your DH

AuntieStella · 20/01/2021 10:12
Flowers
AuntieStella · 20/01/2021 10:13

And on a practical note, if you can't face food, you can survive on smoothies and vitamin pills for longer than you think

C0NNIE · 20/01/2021 10:19

I second the recommendation of Winstons wish. They helped me work out how to best support one of my children when their best friend had cancer. What to say and not to say and when. How to deal with all those difficult questions that children ask in an age appropriate way.

( I don’t mean to imply that it’s the same as what you are dealing with OP, just that I found their helpline very useful and supportive ).

Pinotwoman82 · 20/01/2021 10:23

Thinking if you are your family Flowers

Pinotwoman82 · 20/01/2021 10:24

I’m so sorry silly phone. Thinking of you and your family Flowers

spiderlight · 20/01/2021 10:44

Sending you all so much love and a tight, tight handhold.

Onadifferentuniverse · 20/01/2021 10:53

Sending strength and love to you all.
Absolutely heartbreaking xx