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Wardrobes DH ICU

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Wardrobes123 · 19/01/2021 20:30

Just thought I’d create a new thread. To help us to keep track of what’s happened.

My DH was ventilated last week. We’ve had two calls to see him due to him being very close to death. He isn’t stable but he is still alive at the moment. All we can do is wait.

I’m not going to lie, I’m not coping at all. My mum has moved in to help me cope with daily life. We’ve spoken with the children and they know how serious it is. They are also struggling now with the youngest stepping back from schooling when she needs to.

I can’t think ahead. Just usually about the hour or two that we’re living in. It’s very surreal. And incredibly difficult. Doctors are very realistic about prognosis and survival, which is really hard to hear.

I am incredibly grateful for all the support we’ve had as a family. MN is a remarkable place at times.

@groovinpeanut - Flowers my heart goes out to you and your family and I’m so sorry for the loss of your DH, message me anytime X

@intheshadowofthemushroomcloud - Flowers for all your support and messages.

I have had several messages from other mnetters who don’t have their own threads but who are also experiencing this living hell Flowers it’s a horrible journey and we don’t know how it will end but all we can do is hope/pray for a better outcome.

I haven’t always had the energy to post, too fearful of jinxing things and generally the last few days have been very raw and intense. But I’ve read every message and I’m so grateful of the support.

OP posts:
Toasty280 · 19/01/2021 21:24

All of you are in my thoughts that are going thru this.

Crazycrazylady · 19/01/2021 21:25

Delurking just to say how amazing you are. Of course you're not coping. Who would in your situation. Just remember that where there is life, there is hope and some people in his situation have made it..
you poor poor things

Floralnomad · 19/01/2021 21:29

Sorry to hear things haven’t improved for your family @Wardrobes123 💐

dappledsunshine · 19/01/2021 21:30

Hour by hour, step by step that's all you can do wardrobes. Thinking of you all and sending healing thoughts mr wardrobes way Thanks

CormoranStrike · 19/01/2021 21:32

I’m not normally the praying type, but I’m doing so for your husband, and all the others on this rollercoaster.

Lovelydovey · 19/01/2021 21:37

Handholding here too. I have two parents in Covid wards in different hospitals - one of whom won’t make it and is receiving palliative care. My thoughts are with you, I can only begin to imagine what you are going through. Keep strong and give your children an extra cuddle tonight x

TheDrsDocMartens · 19/01/2021 21:39

Hand holding from here too. Been thinking about you.

Cleverpolly3 · 19/01/2021 21:40

@Wardrobes123 sending you and your family love and hope your husband pulls through

@groovinpeanut so so sorry.Flowers

Jasminesmellingcandles · 19/01/2021 21:42

OP I have been thinking of you and your family so much.
Post here anytime you have the energy or feel the need for support.
Sending love and strength to you all.

Thehogfatherstolemycurry · 19/01/2021 21:42

Been thinking about you. Sending love x

Tickledtrout · 19/01/2021 21:45

@Lovelydovey so sorry for what you're going through tooFlowers

EarringsandLipstick · 19/01/2021 21:49

You're such a lovely person wardrobes.

This ^^ in spades.

I can't imagine what you've gone through, are still going through. And in the midst of that, you are thinking of others (and the same goes for posters like mushroom & groovin). I'm blown away by your humanity in the middle of a horrendous time.

Will be thinking of you, your family & DH, of course 💐

(Side note - this is the positive side of MN that makes it worth being around for)

purpleboy · 19/01/2021 21:52

Sorry to hear things haven't improved wardrobe, really hope you have some positive news in the next few days.

Peanuts so sorry to hear about you DH I was really rooting for him

Lovley sorry for what you are dealing with.

I hope it's brings a slight bit of solace to know there are many strangers sending you support. Thanks

alienbeings · 19/01/2021 21:53

Thinking of you wardrobe

Iceroadtruckingextremefishing · 19/01/2021 21:55

You are all in my thoughts Flowers

covetingthepreciousthings · 19/01/2021 21:56

Thinking of your family Thanks

MrsSmith2021 · 19/01/2021 21:58

❤️

Thebeachismyhappyplace · 19/01/2021 21:58

Lovely Wardrobes  You have been and will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. Much love and strength to you.

AdoraBell · 19/01/2021 21:59

I’m glad your mum was able to move in to support you Wardbrodes

Still keeping everything crossed for you and your family 💐

Tempnamelady · 19/01/2021 22:01

Sending love and big prayers- and sincere condolences to you peanut ❤️

Eloisedublin123 · 19/01/2021 22:03

Sorry for your troubles OP 🙁 please god he will recover

CatsCatsCats11 · 19/01/2021 22:04

Sending you lots of love

ohfourfoxache · 19/01/2021 22:08

Gentle hugs to you, Peanut and Mushroomcloud

I’m thinking of you all, what you’re going through is not fair Sad

WitchDancer · 19/01/2021 22:09

I'm glad to hear he's hanging in there. My hand is still here for you to hold 🤝 and I'm thinking of you Thanks

IthinkIm · 19/01/2021 22:12

I've been thinking of you too, I'm still praying and hoping for a miracle for you.

Lots of love to all of you going through this too, those on here and those lurking. My heart is breaking for all of you Thanks