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Wardrobes DH ICU

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Wardrobes123 · 19/01/2021 20:30

Just thought I’d create a new thread. To help us to keep track of what’s happened.

My DH was ventilated last week. We’ve had two calls to see him due to him being very close to death. He isn’t stable but he is still alive at the moment. All we can do is wait.

I’m not going to lie, I’m not coping at all. My mum has moved in to help me cope with daily life. We’ve spoken with the children and they know how serious it is. They are also struggling now with the youngest stepping back from schooling when she needs to.

I can’t think ahead. Just usually about the hour or two that we’re living in. It’s very surreal. And incredibly difficult. Doctors are very realistic about prognosis and survival, which is really hard to hear.

I am incredibly grateful for all the support we’ve had as a family. MN is a remarkable place at times.

@groovinpeanut - Flowers my heart goes out to you and your family and I’m so sorry for the loss of your DH, message me anytime X

@intheshadowofthemushroomcloud - Flowers for all your support and messages.

I have had several messages from other mnetters who don’t have their own threads but who are also experiencing this living hell Flowers it’s a horrible journey and we don’t know how it will end but all we can do is hope/pray for a better outcome.

I haven’t always had the energy to post, too fearful of jinxing things and generally the last few days have been very raw and intense. But I’ve read every message and I’m so grateful of the support.

OP posts:
rorjee · 19/01/2021 22:16

Been thinking about you wardrobes , Thanks

HappyHedgehog247 · 19/01/2021 22:19

Every hour is another hour he is winning. Sending strength and love.

changed1 · 19/01/2021 22:20

I've lost three people this year to this awful virus. My heart is breaking for you 💙

WednesdayWoohan · 19/01/2021 22:23

So glad he is holding on.

You are in my thoughts Flowers

PoppiesinOctober · 19/01/2021 22:23

Thinking of you and praying for Mr Wardrobes Flowers

Cakeismyhero · 19/01/2021 22:24

Thinking of you and everyone going through such an awful time Flowers

archery50 · 19/01/2021 22:26

You sound absolutely incredible. Keep on taking each day at a time and go easy on yourself x

SunshineCake · 19/01/2021 22:27

I have been thinking of you a lot today, Wardrobes and I thank you for taking the time to let us know how you are and what is happening.

Apologies for my tagging you. I had forgotten you would get an email every time and I hope you had it turned off.

I really hope you can all get through this time together and that your dh is safely home with you before too much longer.

I am so sorry for your loss groovinpeanut. Flowers

Lovelydovey Im sorry for the hell you are going through Flowers.

This new strain has scared me more. We have been pretty strict about following the rules, maybe going out a couple of times when we could have waited, but the last few months I haven't been out at all. The last time I went to the shop was Christmas Eve and I'm just so frustrated with people who are just out all the bloody time.

This could have been over if people had been firmer, stronger, stricter, more sensible and less selfish.

justanotherneighinparadise · 19/01/2021 22:28

What a heart breaking situation OP. I’m so sorry you and your family are having to experience this. You are all in my prayers 💛

Brenna24 · 19/01/2021 22:35

I am glad he is still hanging in there. It is an awful situation and you can be as angry and sad as you like. I hope that the next 24 hours sees him turn a corner.

So sorry groovinpeanut it is so sad.

Giraffey1 · 19/01/2021 22:38

Thinking of you Wardrobes, and all those in similar terrible situations x

ohhellmytoe · 19/01/2021 22:54

I have been thinking of you and your DH. I'm sorry the update is not more positive but will say a little prayer for your DH tonight if that's ok. Thanks

Violetroselily · 19/01/2021 23:10

Thinking of you, Mr Wardrobes and the staff looking after him Flowers

Hugoslavia · 19/01/2021 23:10

Sending you much love!! When my husband was so ill, the kindness of complete strangers really helped me through. It's hardly surprising that you're not coping. You are in a horrible horrible position, on a knife edge. If you wake in the night,
which was the worst time for me, know that you can always turn to Mumsnetters. Someone is always awake. And where there is life, there is hope. My husband defied the odds. I pray that yours does too. X

supermodel · 19/01/2021 23:13

Sending you and your family so much love ❤️

frostymornings · 19/01/2021 23:15

ThanksThanksThanks

Scottishskifun · 19/01/2021 23:17

My heart goes out to you and your family. I hope that he pulls through the Dr's will be doing all they can.
Please don't give up hope. I can't imagine what you're going through but I wish you and your family everything possible and all the love.
Flowers

PointlessUsername · 19/01/2021 23:20
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Cagedbirdsinging · 19/01/2021 23:31

Handholding and sending love to you , Wardrobes .
Flowers

Lovelydovey · 19/01/2021 23:32

Do post if you need any support overnight, someone will be here to listen. Take it hour by hour x

WineInTheWillows · 19/01/2021 23:43

So sorry groovinpeanuts. Love to you all x Flowers

Hoping things pick up soon OP.

Bettydot · 19/01/2021 23:45

I’ve been thinking of you and your husband. Sending you so much love Flowers

InTheShadowOfTheMushroomCloud · 19/01/2021 23:47

I think there are a lot of us going through shit at the moment - to all of you I send my love and especially to my lovely Wardrobes and Groovinpeanut.

CoffeethenCrochet · 19/01/2021 23:50

I've been thinking of you and your husband. Thank you for the update. Sending positive vibes Flowers

Winecheesesleep · 19/01/2021 23:57

Sending you and your DH my best wishes, I'm so sorry this must be very difficult Flowers