AcornAutumn good for you, sounds great, ignore your sister. Funeral music is moot now, as me and dh have decided to have a direct cremation, no one there for the service. We've told the kids briefly, they're fine with it.
Sorry to bring the mood down talking about funerals, but here's a funny thing my grandson said. I'd gone to collect my friend to take her shopping and we were waiting outside in the car. My grandson was in the back playing with his toys, he was about 4. I idly remarked that my friend was taking ages to come out, and without missing beat he said " oh she's old, she's probably dead!" I hasten to add she's still alive!
Happy Christmas everyone, chin up, chest out, we've got this.