Drag queen at wedding

[wedding2021]

I'm considering having a drag queen sing at my wedding. What would you think if you were at a wedding and a drag queen had been booked to perform? Obviously they'd tone it down a bit with swearing etc.

The gay community faced this prejudice not long ago. Still do come to think of it

That's exactly what I thought when I wrote my post - there's usually someone along soon to say stop conflating with gay, it's not the same!
When it was the exact same argument used as you say, so yeah, kind of relevant.

Where are all the calls to ban Victor?Victoria?
That's just one of the millions of films that should be banned. Many of them critically bloody acclaimed.

Many mainstream actors and actresses talk about when in costume they like to stay in character. What is the difference?

My first things when I read about something I don't fully understand is I start asking questions so I have more understanding. Other than saying nope, and pile on.

If this was the Gypsy community, for example getting ripped to shreds, many would-be pulling people up for some of these abhorrent attitudes.

@LemonadeAndDaisyChains @canigooutyet

Thank you of being a voice of reason. Attitudes on here are abhorrent!

@countrylanes
Do all actors/actresses only stick to making child-friendly performances?

There's your answer

OP I wouldn't have a drag queen. There are other forms of entertainment which are fun. I had to organise a function at work and hired a magician who was absolutely fantastic - very good tricks and also very, very funny. He did a couple of tricks in front of everyone and some close-up magic at individual tables during the meal

See, subject to opinion, isn't it?
I'm sure it was lovely but it also sounds like I'd have been bored out of my head and falling asleep into my Pinot
At least with a drag queen I'd be hopeful of a bit of comedy and some cheesy music tunes to sing along to lol

@grumpyorange
It was bad enough when I posted sometime during the night.

Come on where are the lazy reporters when you are needed.

The support has gotten worse since the stupid worthless subscription was put in place.

Although suppose they are running out of people to attack. And everyone is fed up of the teaching bashing, furlough bashing etc.

Still no one has answered the question of why it's OK to caricature women though? When it's not OK to caricature black people for example?

Didn’t little Britain cull one popular skit because it was basically a drag act?

@JoeExoticsEyebrowRing I don't understand you... dressing up as a woman is not offensive. My brother used to wear tutus and a pink wig up until the age of 7 is this offensive to the young ballerinas out there?

Do all actors/actresses only stick to making child-friendly performances? There's your answer

No, it's not. The whole point of drag is to garb yourself in a sexualised alter-ego. Big hair, big make-up, big heels, big tits. That is not the whole point of actors.

I don't understand you... dressing up as a woman is not offensive

I don't see it as offensive either.
Why can't men dress up as women as part of a drag act?
Is it that you think they're taking the piss out of you by looking sexualised or something?

The magician I'd be thinking, yea great, a magician, again.
Take a walk down the South bank, have my fill of magicians, never mind kids parties.

Oh, yea go for the Magician. There are some that do amazing 18+ performances.

Or maybe Cirque de Soleil would be more appealing to some instead of Drag Performers.

@countrylanes sorry have you seen most pop artists lately?

But it's ok that they are overly sexualised because they're women right!

The whole point of drag is to garb yourself in a sexualised alter-ego. Big hair, big make-up, big heels, big tits

So?

I'd probably leave as I would if you got a stripper. Hate drag. Hugely offensive.

Drag queens aren't just 'dressing up as a woman' though are they? What does that even mean? Is dressing up in a tutu 'dressing up as a woman'? Why? Are tutus something only females can wear?

Drag is all about pretending to be a woman, but not just a normal woman, very often its a fairly grotesque caricature of a woman. They wear heavy makeup, dress in clothes that most women wouldn't actually wear, adopt a 'feminine' usually sexualised name, will be 'bitchy and catty'. And will often insult women, particularly lesbians, in their act.

If your 7 year old brother referred to women as 'fishy' whilst dressed in his tutu then yes, I would find that quite offensive.

I'm sure it was lovely but it also sounds like I'd have been bored out of my head and falling asleep into my Pinot

Yeah I mean comedic magicians are just so vanilla aren't they? Yaaaawn.

A party just ain't a party without a good dose of sexualised misogynistic female appropriation.

have you seen most pop artists lately? But it's ok that they are overly sexualised because they're women right!

Exactly, why can't drag artists wear dresses? Is it because you think men shouldn;t be allowed to express any feminine side?
They don''t usually say they're women, they say they're a man - so what exactly is the problem?
As it comes across as men can't wear dresses/make up as well and that seems awfully - gender pigeon holing, back in your box to me.

@countrylanes
I would try to explain. Start out by looking into the history of Drag. Might want to start with pantomime around the beginning of the 1900's.

For those who are confused about black face and drag. Search the same years, only start looking for USA and Europe.

Look at how things changed and the reasons behind it.

So what is everyone's opinion on Pantomine?

Revolting idea. I hate drag and think it’s derogatory to women in the same was the b&w minstrels is derogatory to black people.

Yeah I mean comedic magicians are just so vanilla aren't they? Yaaaawn

Nothing to do with "being vanilla", I'm just saying people have different likes and dislikes - a magician would bore the crap out of me.

So what is everyone's opinion on Pantomine?

Love pantomime
We go every year.
Never even occurred to me to get hugely offended at Widow Twanky before, she just makes me laugh.

Some of you lot bashing drag queens with your outdated views and odd comparisons need to get a life , you sound so uptight and boring as hell.

They wear heavy makeup, dress in clothes that most women wouldn't actually wear, adopt a 'feminine' usually sexualised name,

Again have you watched music videos lately? Have you gone to a concert of a young female singer?