Drag queen at wedding

[wedding2021]

I'm considering having a drag queen sing at my wedding. What would you think if you were at a wedding and a drag queen had been booked to perform? Obviously they'd tone it down a bit with swearing etc.

It’d really change my perception of you, and not for the better.

I would OP. There are some lovely drag Queens out there who can do cheesy, bubbly songs for you. If you want it at your wedding go for it 😊.

Why have a man dressed like Diana Ross making smutty jokes and being a cow, taking the piss out of guests hats/partners etc?

You don't even need a drag queen for this, you can borrow my ex MIL. She's not a man, but she fulfills the rest of the brief.

The only drag act I've had the misfortune of seeing in person told Jimmy Saville jokes for the best part of 10 minutes. Might have been longer but I left in absolute disgust.
Very child friendly!

If the theme of the day is misogyny then it's a perfect fit OP.

Well if Sasha Baron Cohen can...

Ali G wasn't caricaturing black people, it was taking the piss out of white people appropriating black culture.

But anyway, some of the comedy from that time is described these days as 'problematic' because it is seen as racist, homophobic, transphobic etc. Ironically by the same people who think that caricaturing women is 'progressive'.

It’s a bit weird to have a show at your wedding surely? I thought you were supposed to get a band/quartet/whatever (of whatever type of music you wanted) purely for dancing.

Dh and I went to a drag act years ago actually. It was a NYE party in a restaurant. Some friends of his were going and asked if we wanted to tag along. As we didn’t have anything to do as we were staying at his parents place. It was absolutely crap and cost around £40 a head in the 90’s. I was expecting live singing and instead we got a bunch of blokes in dresses awkwardly miming to the songs. Idk what his friends thought as we never discussed it. But it really was a wtf moment for me.

Greysparkles
Are you still reading? Joeexotic just summed up perfectly what woman face is to people, who object and the sort of people, who think that woman face is not a thing.

Just because this isn’t a universally accepted term, it doesn’t mean it is a made up term. When I was a child, I had no idea the black and white minstrels were offensive. There was no such thing as blackface. I’m late 40’s. Descriptives and meanings progress. Societal norms and thinking change.

I'd think it was absolutely awful and don't think it would be suitable for a wedding at all. Please don't invite me to the reception

It wouldn't bother me but one of my family members is high up in the drag circuit and is wonderful at what he does, I find it entertaining. 🤷🏻‍♀️

That didn't explain what woman face is at all?

Does it literally mean impression of a woman? Who gets to decide if the impression is offensive or not?

I've no skin in this game, just trying to understand

people should be embraced however they choose to live
Why?

Drag queens are a grotesque characature of woman.

HTH.

Greysparkles
I think the same argument of who gets to decide was used with black face in the past. Not misogynists doing the caricature or telling me how I should feel about them. I have no objection to men dressing as they want btw or wearing fancy dress for fun. Rather I have an issue with anything, which transgresses the boundaries of physically weaker people, which statistically is women and children.

Lovely op. If that's what you want for your day, go for it!

Several of my close friends are drag artists and get so much work for weddings, heterosexual and gay.

Have your wedding exactly how you want it. It's your day

@mrskeats so you’re saying drag queens are the same as paedophiles?

Who knew misogyny could be theme for a wedding these days

@Donttakeno you know that's not what she's saying. Stop being deliberately obtuse

@whitesoxx how do you interpret that then?

I would explain the reasons why you are so far off the mark it's unbelievable. Just because SOME people in the Drag Industry are twats doesn't mean they are all like this.

Remember the transexuals who have been living quietly amongst us for centuries who were dragged into something they still don't want to be associated with?

Same is happening with the Drag Artists.

Look at @Mrskeats people should be embraced however they choose to live
Nope. Like paeodophiles trying to rebrand themselves.

The gay community faced this prejudice not long ago. Still do come to think of it.

I've been around Drag Artists all my live. I lived a diverse and culturally littered life. Fucking hell even had a gay babysitter when I was 9, and omg he died of Aids.

There are some when in their costume take it seriously. Just like any other actor/actress. The majority don't care how you refer to them as long as you show respect.

This is one thread I really hope MSM pick up. Support for other parents at it's finest.

Why do you think having someone taking the piss out of women is a good idea for a wedding?

I would not like it. If it's that mime thing, I've never really seen the point.
And aren't they rather sexualised performances and not really the thing for a wedding?

If you got a good one, I’d love it!