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I was in prison in my early twenties, AMA

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Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 06:53

I was in prison about 18 years ago, between the ages of 19-22. I now volunteer with charities supporting female prisoners. AMA

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Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 07:36

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · Yesterday 07:30

So where you actually dealing yourself?

Yeah. Party drugs mainly.

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HoraceCope · Yesterday 07:36

do you manage to find work after this?

Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 07:38

Blondeshavemorefun · Yesterday 07:35

So you got 5yrs for something you didnt actually do /have knowledge of - apart from subletting illegally

yet was doing other illegal stuff you didn’t get caught for

and once out , you still carried on misbehaving but didn’t get caught again

did the friend get a sentence and do you tell people in real life you have been to prison but ‘wrongly’

No. They dropped charges against her pretty early on.

Not "wrongly". It was true that I was the tenant of the house the gun was found in and they made that clear at the time that would make you liable for possession of said firearm. So it wasn't "wrongly". I just would have never had that guy so comfortable in my home, even if i was sleeping with him.

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dizzydizzydizzy · Yesterday 07:38

Brilliant thread! Do you think that prison works as a deterrent? Is it good at rehabilitating offenders and turning them into law-abiding citizens?

dizzydizzydizzy · Yesterday 07:39

Do you think prison sentences are generally the right length?

Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 07:39

HoraceCope · Yesterday 07:36

do you manage to find work after this?

Yeah. I did get a job pretty much as soon as I got out for probation purposes but switched to something self employed ASAP.

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Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 07:39

dizzydizzydizzy · Yesterday 07:39

Do you think prison sentences are generally the right length?

No.

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Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 07:39

dizzydizzydizzy · Yesterday 07:38

Brilliant thread! Do you think that prison works as a deterrent? Is it good at rehabilitating offenders and turning them into law-abiding citizens?

No

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dizzydizzydizzy · Yesterday 07:39

What do you think of how people are treated in prisons? Well? Badly? What are the staff like?

Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 07:41

TepidBathwater · Yesterday 07:26

So are you saying you got three years wrongly, because the CPS didn’t believe you didn’t know the male tenant was a criminal stashing weapons and drugs at your illegal sublet, but that you were also knowingly committing criminal acts that could, if you’d been caught, got you a similar sentence?

I dont think the CPS cared if I knew or not. It was my flat and they either felt that both of us (the women) were protecting the guy or that I was and she was innocent.

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6ate9 · Yesterday 07:41

How did your family react when you were sent to prison?

dizzydizzydizzy · Yesterday 07:41

Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 07:39

No

how would you make prison a more effective deterrent and better at rehabilitation?

dizzydizzydizzy · Yesterday 07:42

Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 07:39

No.

So are sentences too long or short? By how much?

Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 07:42

dizzydizzydizzy · Yesterday 07:39

What do you think of how people are treated in prisons? Well? Badly? What are the staff like?

Badly.

Prisons staffing is toxic overall. So even the "good" ones end up participating in toxic practices. Sort of like how heathcare staff become jaded over time and before you know it, they are writing off women's pain too.

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Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 07:44

dizzydizzydizzy · Yesterday 07:42

So are sentences too long or short? By how much?

Both. The whole system needs an overhaul. A lot of people should not be in prison but need some sort of enforced but therapeutic social rehabilitation to make up for the horrors and deprivation that occurred in their childhood. More hospital than gaol.

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Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 07:45

MyDarlingRose · Yesterday 07:25

Are you OK? I can’t imagine the trauma

Yeah, fine.

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HoraceCope · Yesterday 07:45

what do you think about how prison is portrayed for TV

ie
Waiting for the Out - based on a true story

Time - Jimmy McGovern

Duvetdayneeded · Yesterday 07:46

Are you really saying you got put in prison for illegally subletting….???

HoraceCope · Yesterday 07:46

Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 07:39

Yeah. I did get a job pretty much as soon as I got out for probation purposes but switched to something self employed ASAP.

so probation office help you find a job
but after that was it difficult, is this why you are self employed?

Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 07:46

Maomee · Yesterday 07:24

While you were in there did you do much reflection, and did they offer anything to help with that or education opportunities etc?

There are some good educational opportunities. Some people do find their calling in jail.

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Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 07:48

HoraceCope · Yesterday 07:46

so probation office help you find a job
but after that was it difficult, is this why you are self employed?

I don't know if it was difficult to find other jobs, I just didnt want to have to work hours I don't choose myself. I suspect at that time, it wouldn't be as difficult as it is now.

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Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 07:48

Duvetdayneeded · Yesterday 07:46

Are you really saying you got put in prison for illegally subletting….???

No, because I was the tenant of a home where a gun was found after a planned police raid for drugs and guns.

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Lexibletheflexible · Yesterday 07:50

HoraceCope · Yesterday 07:45

what do you think about how prison is portrayed for TV

ie
Waiting for the Out - based on a true story

Time - Jimmy McGovern

I liked waiting for the out. (That's the philosophy one, right?)

I don't know the other.

I liked OITNB but that is very American, of course.

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Duvetdayneeded · Yesterday 07:50

But you weren’t living there…. So …. Seems odd

dizzydizzydizzy · Yesterday 07:53

What was your childhood like? Did that have anything to do with why you got involved in criminality?