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I had an arranged marriage - ask me anything

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ArrangedMarriage · 10/07/2018 19:05

I met my DH through our parents and we were married 6 months later!

OP posts:
kaytee87 · 10/07/2018 19:08

How long have you been married? Are you happy?

jusdepamplemousse · 10/07/2018 19:10

What would the consequences have been for you and your husband if either of you decided not to proceed?

jusdepamplemousse · 10/07/2018 19:10

(If any)

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 10/07/2018 19:10

Did you love him straight away or did you have to grow to love him.
With it being an arranged marriage you müst have been worried incase you didn't like each other or the love was unrequited
How long have you been together.

YoYotheclown · 10/07/2018 19:12

Any pictures before hand ?

stellenbosch · 10/07/2018 19:12

Is he your cousin?

LornaMumsnet · 10/07/2018 19:12

We're just sending this over to our lovely new(ish) AMA topic!

halfwitpicker · 10/07/2018 19:13

Where are you from?

chickedychicked · 10/07/2018 19:16

I know you said arranged and not forced as there's a huge huge difference between the two but would you have been allowed to say no without feeling guilty or having your parents be angry at you?

CurlyWurlyTwirly · 10/07/2018 19:16

How old are you OP
Did you have to be a virgin when you got married.
Have you had other boyfriends
Do you live with your in laws
Is your family from the Indian subcontinent

Apologies for all my clichéd questions OP but it is AMA

Sunshiness · 10/07/2018 19:17

(only if you're happy to talk about this) When did you first have sex? Did it not feel pressured / forced?

BrownWoman · 10/07/2018 19:17

Me too OP. Will you be getting your children married this way too?

twoheaped · 10/07/2018 19:18

Do you love him?
When did you start loving him (If you do)?

chickedychicked · 10/07/2018 19:18

And are you aware that arranged marriage is very much a cultural practice and not religious? if so why did you agree to it?

purplecorkheart · 10/07/2018 19:22

How often had you and your spouse met before getting married?

jellyandsoup · 10/07/2018 19:25

I hope you and your husband are very happy. I have been to an arranged (possibly forced) marriage as a guest and it was horribly sad, so clear neither of them wanted it. How did you feel when your parents told you who you would marry? What sort of contact did you have before the wedding?

Annabelle4 · 10/07/2018 19:26

If you didn't want to marry him, would your parents have forced you to marry him?

ReggieKrayDoYouKnowMyName · 10/07/2018 19:28

Do you have many friends who’ve also had AMs? Is it usual amongst your peer group?

dangerrabbit · 10/07/2018 19:29

What religion are you?

cherrytrees123 · 10/07/2018 19:30

What was your wedding night like?

HollowTalk · 10/07/2018 19:32

I wonder whether the OP has lost the thread!

LeeBee11 · 10/07/2018 19:35

Do you love him?

Summersnake · 10/07/2018 19:37

Op where have you gone ...

Moominfan · 10/07/2018 19:40

How many times did you meet before you married. Did you have a spark? Prior to marriage had you ever been in love

chickedychicked · 10/07/2018 19:51

come back OP!