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Getsomemeatonyerbones · 08/11/2026 18:16

They are very strange arent they?
I have always thought this.
He either looks manic and crazy or they're like black holes, just dead, wonder if that's telling?

Also, did you ever fancy him? I had a friend who thought he was gorgeous. I never ever did and he couldn't have been further from my type

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realsavagelike · 09/11/2026 00:27

5128gap · 08/11/2026 18:33

I must be one of the tiny minority of people who never looked at Brand and thought him anything other than a decent looking if you like that sort of thing, funny at times bloke, with perfectly ordinary eyes. I never got 'a vibe', a foreshadowing of evil, my flesh didn't crawl and I categorically did not know all along he was a wrong un.

I stand with you 100 per cent!

Jadeprincess · 09/11/2026 00:29

faithfultoGeorgeMichael · 08/11/2026 18:40

The eyes of a psychopath

A bit like Bonnie Blue IMO...

Jadeprincess · 09/11/2026 01:02

Getsomemeatonyerbones · 08/11/2026 18:32

Someone said in one of the posts about him on here that he wrote in his book how as a child he used to be at the top of the stairs and call/coax his dog to come up to him up the stairs. When the dog reached the top, he'd kick him down the stairs 🥲 then go down and console him, then do it again. It's just horrific, some messed up control thing? It seems evil to me

Big red flag.
Abusers start with animals and graduate to humans.
Apparently the Yorkshire Ripper used to throw cats out of windows for fun. Wherever he lived cats kept disappearing. It was a while before people put 2 and 2 together.

CoffeeAndCats3 · 09/11/2026 01:30

Never understood the fascination with him. He always looks grubby and smelly to me. He strikes me as the unpredictable type who could never be trusted.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 09/11/2026 02:16

Always thought he looked sleazy and sounded creepy.

Thatsannyoying · 09/11/2026 03:24

When he was on the Big Brother off-shoot programme he was so outrageous that I suppose one laughed out of shock. But he was never genuinely funny.

This might count as a derail here but indulge me .. I've met my fair share of rude unpleasant people in my life and been in some sticky situations (but been very, very lucky that I haven't suffered in the way some women have). The only time in my life that I felt I was truly in the presence of evil (as opposed to just your common or garden arsehole) was in broad, summer's daylight standing in my own garden. A 6'2" brick shit-house builder was about 2' away from me. He wanted me to move my car (was part of a gang building a new house across the road). I had moved into the house the day before and, if it's relevant, I couldn't move the car because it had conked out and I was waiting for the AA. I wasn't being awkward but I could not get through to him.

When I looked up into his eyes it's hard to describe but I just saw a vacuum. I didn't feel he wanted to kill me in that moment, I knew he did. If it had been a remote place and he had any chance of getting away with it I know he would have killed me. He wanted to. I could see it in his eyes.

I cannot imagine what RB's victims must have felt like in that they didn't escape.

Aquasoap · 09/11/2026 04:45

5128gap · 08/11/2026 18:33

I must be one of the tiny minority of people who never looked at Brand and thought him anything other than a decent looking if you like that sort of thing, funny at times bloke, with perfectly ordinary eyes. I never got 'a vibe', a foreshadowing of evil, my flesh didn't crawl and I categorically did not know all along he was a wrong un.

How in the world? Is your judgement of people generally poor?

CrazyMidget · 09/11/2026 05:06

I was almost completely unaware of him until Sachsgate. So I always thought he was a complete toe-rag after that. I vaguely remember him before Sachsgate, and I think I remember thinking what an embarrassment he was for Britain. Must have been around the time he was doing stuff in Hollywood. But had I known more of him, I don't think I would have fancied him. His voice is horrible. I've looked at a couple of his stand-up routines/interviews since the court case, and it's all over-sexual or him going on and on in word salad. Whether I would have picked up on him being a dangerous predator, I don't know. But even without that knowledge, I think I would have found him deeply unappealing.

CloveRinse · 09/11/2026 05:07

@Getsomemeatonyerbones

"He either looks manic and crazy or they're like black holes, just dead"

This description is so accurate. This is what I have always thought. You described it perfectly.

sashh · 09/11/2026 05:28

Getsomemeatonyerbones · 08/11/2026 19:00

Yes def the smile too

I think his smile looks like the Alien in Aliens, I expect another mouth to come out.

CrazyMidget · 09/11/2026 05:54

Mysteise · 08/11/2026 23:40

It’s interesting to look back at his formative years, particularly that period before he married Katy Perry and courted Hollywood, so around 2004–09? For me, he really exemplified that era, which had a zany, surreal, anything-goes quality to it. At the time, me and my friends liked him! We thought he was funny, charismatic and outrageous. I certainly didn’t have him pegged as some awful person with evil eyes. He was just part of that cultural landscape and his humour and behaviour seemed to exemplify the attitudes of the time.

It was a peculiar atmosphere in the Uk around that time. There was the whole indie explosion, which had a glam rock and roll aesthetic to it. The Libertines, Arctic Monkeys, The Kooks, The Cribs etc. Skinny jeans, leather jackets, messy hair, vintage clothes. RB wasn’t the only one looking permanently dishevelled and smelly, that was the ‘look’. There was a real romanticisation of the chaotic, drug-taking, hard-partying rock star and along with that a sense of excess around relationships and sex. You had Amy Winehouse and Blake Fielder-Civil, Kate Moss and Pete Doherty, and this whole fascination with wild, volatile men and chaotic relationships.

Tele and comedy had a similar sensibility if you remember. Mighty Boosh, Garth Marenghi’s Darkplace, Nathan Barley etc. Everything was surreal, eccentric, deliberately inappropriate and out there. Russell Brand was part of that scene originally. Don’t forget, he first became widely famous through Big Brother's Big Mouth. At the time BB contestants were plied with alcohol, with producers hoping it would lead to sex and rows that made headlines. Absolutely crazy when you think about it now!

On reflection it was a pretty dark and hedonistic time. I wonder whether that also created an environment where quite a lot of unpleasant male behaviour was simply tolerated. The sleazy frontman, the obnoxious comedian were written off as laddishness, charisma, eccentricity or just being rock and roll. There seemed to be a romanticisation of men behaving badly particularly if they were funny, creative or famous.

To be clear, I believe he is a predator and feel so much sympathy for the poor women and girls he abused. I think as the years went on he became more and more twisted by fame and his celebrity status fuelled his narcissism and sense of entitlement. But I do think there’s a wider conversation to be had about the media’s role in creating and encouraging the persona he became famous for (in the early days at least). I’m glad for young people that things are different now. It was a weird time to grow up as a young woman.

I’ve been watching clips of some of his earlier tv appearances on Alan Carr, Jonathan Ross and Graham Norton. What’s striking is how much all of the presenters seem to cajole him into being this outrageous caricature. They’re prompting him, encouraging him, playing along and the audiences are absolutely in stitches. Funny how quiet they all are now.

I've never been so glad to be oblivious to pop culture. And fringe culture, for that matter. I've never even heard of the people in your third para, and the ones in your second para, I have heard of but couldn't name anything they've done.

GarlicNothing · 09/11/2026 07:05

Brand is classically good-looking, when you can find photos of him without the backcomb and eyeliner.

He's also charismatic, in the sense of having an intense 'presence'. I've only been in a room with him once but almost everyone who's spent time with him says the same.

I don't think you can know a person by their eyes, especially through the medium of a camera and then a screen or paper, but many who've interacted with him have described his sudden switch from cheerful & engaging to dark & hostile. That, I think, is a danger sign.

From what we know now, I'm internet-diagnosing him as a definite malignant narcissist and probably a sociopath. Wouldn't be surprised if he gets a proper diagnosis while he's in the nick.

5128gap · 09/11/2026 07:17

Aquasoap · 09/11/2026 04:45

How in the world? Is your judgement of people generally poor?

Clearly. However now I know what to look out for, that very dark eyes and 'a vibe' that emenates through a TV screen, are the identifiers of a rapist, I will vow to improve. Hopefully the authorities will take a note too and round up all the dark-eyed vibey men, check if they make their 'skin crawl', and lock them away if so. Think how much safer we'd be if only everyone developed this excellent character judgement!

Sartre · 09/11/2026 07:21

I think it’s a lie to call him unattractive. You can say you personally don’t fancy him but he isn’t conventionally unattractive when you break his proportionate and quite symmetrical facial features down.

I liked him as a teen. I thought he was funny, especially coupled with Fielding on Big Fat Quiz. He was charming in his own quirky way, just as Fielding is. I was an alternative teen so found guys like that appealing.

GarlicNothing · 09/11/2026 07:38

Gengha · 08/11/2026 19:48

quite a lot of people did fancy him, I hated his voice as well as his hair and I always thought he looked like he needed a good bath

Which voice? His higher-pitched, fast-talking one for when he's Being Entertaining; his much deeper, more measured one for Being Meaningful; the deep and softer voice for Being Sincere or one of the others I'm sure he employs?

The guy's a performer, don't forget.

CrystalRabbit · 09/11/2026 07:49

TeethAreImportant · 08/11/2026 22:27

Yes, I read his book and always remember one story about him spitting in a prostitutes face who had come to his flat and in the process of shoving her out of his flat, in the tussle, he got locked out himself, bollock naked. Which he said was almost instant karma, so even knew that was a horrendous story, but spitting in somebodys face must be one of the worst thigs to do to anybody, just grim.

Yes, that’s one of the stories I was thinking of. I remember thinking oh, ok, you really are a bit deranged and not someone I would want to be around.

Carouselfish · 09/11/2026 08:00

Oh that was me that said the dog thing. It wasnt allowed upstairs so he'd encourage it to break the rules and entice it upstairs all sweetly then when it came he'd turn and tell it off and enjoy it running back down terrified.

He lost his virginity to prostitutes in the far east thanks to his Dad so ingredients there for being effed up early on.

I did used to fancy him, because of silliness and theatricality. Met him early on when he was gigging to rooms of about 30 people. Wasnt single at the time but was drawn. I was really shocked actually about it all. The one that really brought it home was his assistant who he chased round the house in LA with her saying stop, Im your friend, I love you. Christ.
Would be interesting to know what the women in relationships with him before fame had to say, whether he was the same as he is with Laura - I feel very very sorry for her.

Carouselfish · 09/11/2026 08:12

@Bountyhunter888yeah, definitely about chasing the high. Part of one of his stand ups was about when you watch porn it just numbs you to the ordinary stuff so you seek out worse and worse things.

Blueuggboots · 09/11/2026 08:25

The only reason I’d have touched him was to wash him. From a distance!!!!

ClearFruit · 09/11/2026 08:39

Getsomemeatonyerbones · 08/11/2026 18:19

Do you think it's just this?

Yes.

wishingonastar101 · 09/11/2026 08:51

creepy guy.

DelphineFox · 09/11/2026 09:02

Getsomemeatonyerbones · 08/11/2026 18:32

Someone said in one of the posts about him on here that he wrote in his book how as a child he used to be at the top of the stairs and call/coax his dog to come up to him up the stairs. When the dog reached the top, he'd kick him down the stairs 🥲 then go down and console him, then do it again. It's just horrific, some messed up control thing? It seems evil to me

That's horrific. Did knowing that not put Laura Brand off him?

Rubydobydo · 09/11/2026 09:13

He’s just one of a long line of men that have fooled us. Rolf Harris (remember his paintings on Saturday TV?) Jimmy Saville (how we cheered his fund raising) Gary Glitter (we all wanted to be in his gang) Ian Watkins, Harvey Weinstein (what power he wielded) … Yes some of these are a while back but what they seemed to possess was the ability to fool others into ignoring their crimes. And/or to make their victim think they’d never be believed .
If a strong light was cast at many in the public eye similar stories would arise. In its simplest terms, it’s abuse of power.
And he still looks in need of a good wash…

godmum56 · 09/11/2026 09:16

CrazyMidget · 09/11/2026 05:54

I've never been so glad to be oblivious to pop culture. And fringe culture, for that matter. I've never even heard of the people in your third para, and the ones in your second para, I have heard of but couldn't name anything they've done.

I was aware of The Mighty Boosh like I was aware of other TV programs I never watched and never wanted to watch. It all seemed icky to me.

godmum56 · 09/11/2026 09:20

Rubydobydo · 09/11/2026 09:13

He’s just one of a long line of men that have fooled us. Rolf Harris (remember his paintings on Saturday TV?) Jimmy Saville (how we cheered his fund raising) Gary Glitter (we all wanted to be in his gang) Ian Watkins, Harvey Weinstein (what power he wielded) … Yes some of these are a while back but what they seemed to possess was the ability to fool others into ignoring their crimes. And/or to make their victim think they’d never be believed .
If a strong light was cast at many in the public eye similar stories would arise. In its simplest terms, it’s abuse of power.
And he still looks in need of a good wash…

I think its worse than fooling people. People in the industry knew what was going on. Some of them were silenced by those with power and the ones in power were more intersted in money and success than in doing what was right.

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