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To want DH off the bed when there are no sheets on it

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Chocolattecoffeecuppaa · 07/11/2026 14:05

I've taken the sheets off the bed and just the mattress and pillow protectors are on there now, which I'm not washing as I washed them last weekend, and I don't want the protectors every week, but wash sheets once a week.

As soon as I've taken off the sheets, DH lays down on the bed to play games on his phone on the protector that I wasn't planning to wash and in his day clothes. Then later gets up and lies back down without even a top on before he's about to get in the shower.

AIBU is controlling to ask him not to do this? He's refused to get up saying I should just leave him alone but I'm the one who washes the sheets and he was on my pillow!

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MagpiesAndJays · 08/11/2026 21:13

ReadingSoManyThreads · 08/11/2026 21:10

You keep repeating that I said 'should', not once did I say that.

Enjoy your manky bed.

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My apologies, you were stronger in your wording. You said 'supposed to', as if it was some sort of mandate.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 08/11/2026 21:17

MagpiesAndJays · 08/11/2026 21:13

My apologies, you were stronger in your wording. You said 'supposed to', as if it was some sort of mandate.

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Nope, "should" is actually the stronger of the two words. Should expresses obligation/duty, supposed indicates assumption or expectation.

If you're going to pull me up on something, at least get it the right way round.

StillTheChickenRun · 08/11/2026 21:43

JSovro · 08/11/2026 19:05

Buy another set of sheets and change the bed straight away you absolute weirdo

This omits the issue that the man lying on the bed gaming won’t buy sheets or make the bed

MagpiesAndJays · 08/11/2026 21:46

ReadingSoManyThreads · 08/11/2026 21:17

Nope, "should" is actually the stronger of the two words. Should expresses obligation/duty, supposed indicates assumption or expectation.

If you're going to pull me up on something, at least get it the right way round.

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"Should" suggests advice or recommendation. It reflects the speaker's personal opinion or a suggestion about what is right or best.

"Supposed to" is a rule or expectation. It points to an existing rule, plan, or social norm set by someone or something else. It implies that if you don't do it, an expectation is being broken.

Davros · 08/11/2026 22:20

I never air my mattress. If I don’t get the clean bedding on straightaway I know I will regret it later when I want to get in and haven’t done it

GoodEnough1 · 08/11/2026 22:22

You have the same routine as me and you are married to my husband 😂😂😂

Denim4ever · 08/11/2026 22:30

Easiest way round it is to change the bedding not put the same bedding back on. That's why they call it changing the bed.

Hundslappadrifa · 08/11/2026 22:35

Cosyblankets · 07/11/2026 14:19

Yes it's controlling

It’s not controlling, it’s bonkers!

TheDevilWears · 08/11/2026 23:43

Sorry … you got me at one set of sheets!!! I will admit that bed linen - nice bed linen - is a huge indulgence for me. But one set of sheets? For a couple? Is this normal?

Aavalon57 · Yesterday 00:29

The sheets are irrelevant. She’s got a major husband problem.

noodlebugz · Yesterday 01:13

OP i’ve read all your replies - what does this man bring to the table? I can’t see it!?! Is he really good in bed? He sounds like hard work and a total drip.
I’m not usually this unkind but perhaps you have the ick?

FinanceLPlates · Yesterday 06:53

He sounds like a teenager, not a husband. Though that is probably being unfair to teenagers.
Deeply unattractive that he treats you like a servant and doesn’t even have the decency to get out of the way. Or parent his children for that matter.
I’d save for a divorce lawyer, never mind a second set of sheets.

ithinkthereforeyouarewrong · Yesterday 10:21

LikeAFunkyAvengerTougherThanANinja · 07/11/2026 14:15

The naked bed should be untouched by humans or animals.

Agreed it must feel victimised

Trishthedish · Yesterday 10:25

You’ve lost the plot.

Floatlikeafeather2 · Yesterday 11:47

Sparrowsandbudgies · 07/11/2026 14:26

True. Someone, anyone, needs to put the fresh sheets etc straight on. I never do half a job and leave stuff for later.

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But, to me, part of that particular job is allowing the mattress to air for a while before making the bed again. So it goes strip the bed, put the sheets in the wash, go back a few hours later to make the bed.

gravitarse · Yesterday 12:45

You're being weird

Lovemeapickledgherkin · Yesterday 13:43

Gingerbreadseasoniscoming · 07/11/2026 14:06

I couldn't get worked up about this, assuming he's not covered in mud.

😂

TheQueenOfEverything · Yesterday 15:56

Just make the bed as soon as you take off the dirty ones.

JSovro · Yesterday 18:51

Iloveeverycat · 08/11/2026 19:42

I don't get why it's a problem but I don't get more why anyone would need to be on the bed in the first place in the day after getting up.

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Probably childless and have no purpose

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Chocolattecoffeecuppaa · Yesterday 21:17

JSovro · Yesterday 18:51

Probably childless and have no purpose

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Are you explaining why you have the time to make nasty, useless comments?

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Chocolattecoffeecuppaa · Yesterday 21:19

noodlebugz · Yesterday 01:13

OP i’ve read all your replies - what does this man bring to the table? I can’t see it!?! Is he really good in bed? He sounds like hard work and a total drip.
I’m not usually this unkind but perhaps you have the ick?

No he is not really good in bed lol but yes I was clearly annoyed about the fact he was just lying there. I do also avoid lying in bed or on the bare bed with my outdoor clothes on though thank you very much so both things are true 😬

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burntorange21 · Yesterday 21:47

em….no

Endorewitch · Today 17:13

Yes ,no need for nasty comments. Vut to be fairr most of us are so gobsmacked by what you consider a problem,that it is all to easy to be a bit sarcastic!!I have held myself back from saying what I really think,becauye it would be rudeefor me to post nasty comments. And also not fair upsetting someone.

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