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Homemade tomato soup and homemade bread - “shit Sunday meal”?

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Moud · 01/11/2026 13:23

Had planned to make gammon and cauliflower and cheese but we have quite a lot of tomatoes and veg that could do with using up. I thought homemade tomato soup with a nice loaf of cheese and garlic bread would be nice. But dh has said it’s a bit shit for a Sunday. We enjoy a “nicer” home cooked meal on Sundays. Take it in turns. We have things for a roast but it can be done later in the week.

I think dh was rude. Tbf he typically makes more of an effort ie we had homemade ravioli last week. Thats on him though as he’s more of a foodie. I’m genuinely not trying to get out of work just wanting to avoid waste!

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Myfridgeiscool · 01/11/2026 13:24

Your DH is an idiot

BoogieWonder · 01/11/2026 13:25

He could have said it on a nicer way, but that's a starter, not a special homecooked meal.

NoraLuka · 01/11/2026 13:26

It’s not shit and he was rude. Is he one of those people that thinks soup isn’t a meal?

DeutscheBahnTicket · 01/11/2026 13:26

I agree with your dh (sorry) and i really love soup

Moud · 01/11/2026 13:26

BoogieWonder · 01/11/2026 13:25

He could have said it on a nicer way, but that's a starter, not a special homecooked meal.

For me soup can definitely be a main dish.

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amber763 · 01/11/2026 13:27

Soup and bread isnt a Sunday dinner, lovely as it sounds. Make it and have a small bowl as a starter or use it for lunches in the week.

WitchesBritches · 01/11/2026 13:28

It sounds lovely to me, but it does sound very low-key compared to what you usually do on a Sunday (which is way more than I would do🤣🤣).

Why not do the tomato soup and bread tomorrow night? And do something that is more in keeping with your usual Sunday routine today.

If you want to change something about your Sunday routine, then you need to talk to DH see if he would be happy to do the more elaborate Sunday meals because you're doing XYZ or whatever personally would be my idea of hell having to routinely fat about on a Sunday to make something more elaborate, but it is a bit unfair not to do it if that is your usual routine.

SouthLondonMum22 · 01/11/2026 13:29

He's rude. He can just make the roast if that's what he wants.

mrsniggywinkle · 01/11/2026 13:29

That would be a Tuesday night dinner for me, sounds lovely but not really what I'd want on a Sunday. He could have been politer about it tho!

OttersOnAPlane · 01/11/2026 13:31

It's a nice lunch for a Wednesday, or a starter for a bigger meal. I don't think it's a proper 'dinner'.

However, there's no excuse for him to be so rude.

Headflip · 01/11/2026 13:31

It's a nice meal, in fact it's what I'm having atm, but I'll have a dinner later. Soup and bread is surely no one's main meal?

Quite apart from whether you'll be hungry, where's the actual nutrition?

DeutscheBahnTicket · 01/11/2026 13:32

SouthLondonMum22 · 01/11/2026 13:29

He's rude. He can just make the roast if that's what he wants.

He made it last week - ravioli.

If he made ravioli from scratch on his turn i get why he's a bit ambivalent about soup, bread and cheese now it's op's turn

CraftyNavySeal · 01/11/2026 13:32

YABU

By all means make the soup and have it for lunch or during the week but I wouldn’t be impressed that you are weasling out of cooking a full meal on your turn to cook.

Retne · 01/11/2026 13:32

I think I'd probably want to eat again at some point after but it's not a shit meal.

Moud · 01/11/2026 13:33

I’m also making sticky toffee pudding. No one is going to starve imo

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Earheads · 01/11/2026 13:34

Very rude and tell him so.
Tell him crack on with something else.

Scarlettpixie · 01/11/2026 13:34

Sounds like more of a lunch tbh. Maybe roast the tomatoes and you could make a lovely pasta dish with your garlic bread.

AshCullen1894 · 01/11/2026 13:34

Husband sounds like a bit of a twat.

Retne · 01/11/2026 13:34

Moud · 01/11/2026 13:33

I’m also making sticky toffee pudding. No one is going to starve imo

And you didn't mention this in your OP?

Why?

Either way, soup is a delicious but very light meal.

Burningbud1981 · 01/11/2026 13:35

Moud · 01/11/2026 13:33

I’m also making sticky toffee pudding. No one is going to starve imo

Still not dinner. Although he shouldn’t have been so rude

DoAWheelie · 01/11/2026 13:36

I'd love it any other day, but I'd be a bit disappointed on a Sunday tbh. Sunday is our "look forward to it all week" meal where we go with old favourites or look for new stuff to try.

TheChosenTwo · 01/11/2026 13:36

He was rude in the way he said it but soup
here is at best lunch. I’m not a soup fan, you just eat/drink it until you’re full/bored, I eat it sometimes if dh makes it at lunchtime during the week because it’s there and it’s convenient but for us Sundays and dinners in general are seen as a feast/celebration. We would never have pasta at the weekend because it’s a speedy midweek dinner made with a nice sauce or whatever. An exception would be if the pasta had been homemade and it was accompanying a beef stew or whatever goes with pasta 😂
Soup is dull, and not the main event on a Sunday. Sorry!

Simonjt · 01/11/2026 13:37

I’m afraid I’m in the camp that views soup as a starter, not a main. I would of course eat soup if someone made it for me (but not tomato with bread as I have T1D), but I would want a main meal as well, but I would happily make that for myself and everyone else and I wouldn’t moan that someone had made soup.

Lots of tomatoes and veg I would probably make a nice ragu, you can then either do loads with it on the day, or like we often do jar it for another time.

Moud · 01/11/2026 13:37

Retne · 01/11/2026 13:34

And you didn't mention this in your OP?

Why?

Either way, soup is a delicious but very light meal.

I thought I did mention we make nicer meals and a pudding on Sundays. Apologies missed the last bit off in the op

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EveningSpread · 01/11/2026 13:38

If he wants something specific he can make it, you’re not a restaurant he’s placed an order at.