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Homemade tomato soup and homemade bread - “shit Sunday meal”?

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Moud · 01/11/2026 13:23

Had planned to make gammon and cauliflower and cheese but we have quite a lot of tomatoes and veg that could do with using up. I thought homemade tomato soup with a nice loaf of cheese and garlic bread would be nice. But dh has said it’s a bit shit for a Sunday. We enjoy a “nicer” home cooked meal on Sundays. Take it in turns. We have things for a roast but it can be done later in the week.

I think dh was rude. Tbf he typically makes more of an effort ie we had homemade ravioli last week. Thats on him though as he’s more of a foodie. I’m genuinely not trying to get out of work just wanting to avoid waste!

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VielleTruite · 07/11/2026 20:29

I would have loved that! I don't know where people get the idea that it's written in stone that a roast dinner MUST be served on Sunday. I also dislike wasting food, so I think your solution was a good one and like you say, you can have a roast later in the week if you want. The sky isn't going to fall in because it wasn't served on Sunday! Your husband was unnecessarily rude. If he was that desperate for a roast, he could have rung the local carvery/pub and had one delivered.

Scarcityvarcity · 07/11/2026 20:52

VielleTruite · 07/11/2026 20:29

I would have loved that! I don't know where people get the idea that it's written in stone that a roast dinner MUST be served on Sunday. I also dislike wasting food, so I think your solution was a good one and like you say, you can have a roast later in the week if you want. The sky isn't going to fall in because it wasn't served on Sunday! Your husband was unnecessarily rude. If he was that desperate for a roast, he could have rung the local carvery/pub and had one delivered.

It doesn't have to be roast but most people want something substantial and nice. Tomato soup is weekday lunch.

janetcbell · 07/11/2026 21:05

BoogieWonder · 01/11/2026 13:25

He could have said it on a nicer way, but that's a starter, not a special homecooked meal.

A decent bowlful of homemade soup with a good chunk of home-made bread is a lovely meal. Don't need to have a roast every Sunday.

Scarcityvarcity · 07/11/2026 21:28

Why do people keep going on about the fact that it was homemade? So what? Tomato soup isn't difficult to make and for all they know may not have been as nice as soup bought from a shop.

Everlygreen · 07/11/2026 21:33

That’s a lunch meal at best. Or a kids meal. Sorry op, I would be disappointed too.

Mjin · 07/11/2026 21:43

Tomato soup and home made bread, with sticky toffee pudding for afters; I’ll happily have that any day of the week including Sunday.
Your husband is a bellend, leave him and cook it for me.
I make a lovely curry.

Amalegeezer · 08/11/2026 09:20

I think that's the problem. I often have a nice thick homemade soup and bread for lunch but if it was a 'special' Sunday dinner then I wouldn't think that would do. In that case soup is a starter. Maybe it would be helpful to have a chat about expectations ab out what constitute Sunday dinner. To be fair, if you are going to be strict about it and you came from an Italian household then pasta on it's own also doesn't constitute a complete meal. So, arguably, his ravoili doesn't cut it either. Maybe when the emotions have died down agree on what a Sunday dinner should consist of and if you can't or don't want to meet his expectations then maybe you can do a deal where you make the starter and/or desert if there is one and he makes the main.

EvieBB · 08/11/2026 09:31

Moud · 01/11/2026 13:26

For me soup can definitely be a main dish.

Your homemade soup sounds lovely! I'd be ecstatic if someone was making me that plus homemade bread:)....but I also like a bit of protein with my meal...how about asking him to add to the meal if he's not happy and make a protein side dish?

Scarcityvarcity · 08/11/2026 11:57

Are people even calling the bread "homemade" now😂

Drew79 · 08/11/2026 13:06

How privileged are we in the UK, 'homemade soup and bread isn't a main meal' ' it's a starter, it's not Sunday dinner' etc etc

Ffs, so much food poverty around the world, where they are not snobbish about food or have stupid rules about what you can eat when.

Fattening wasteful snobby Brits (I'm a Brit)

EvieBB · 08/11/2026 21:35

Scarcityvarcity · 08/11/2026 11:57

Are people even calling the bread "homemade" now😂

See the title: "homemade bread"

Scarcityvarcity · 08/11/2026 21:41

EvieBB · 08/11/2026 21:35

See the title: "homemade bread"

I think that is because she put cheese and garlic on it 😂

likelysuspect · 08/11/2026 21:47

Ive just realised I technically had soup and bread for Sunday lunch today

In a restaurant. It was home made as well!!!

It was fab.

Tea is hot cross buns and cheese.

EvieBB · 08/11/2026 21:50

Scarcityvarcity · 08/11/2026 21:41

I think that is because she put cheese and garlic on it 😂

Really? OP please clear this up for us 😅

NotMeNorI · Yesterday 15:39

It sounds delicious - it's one of my family's favourite dishes! Your DH is being a knob, and pedantic.

RikthePoet · Yesterday 17:07

Drew79 · 08/11/2026 13:06

How privileged are we in the UK, 'homemade soup and bread isn't a main meal' ' it's a starter, it's not Sunday dinner' etc etc

Ffs, so much food poverty around the world, where they are not snobbish about food or have stupid rules about what you can eat when.

Fattening wasteful snobby Brits (I'm a Brit)

It's not a rule or snobbery or fattening to want to eat enough that you are not hungry.

Bread and tomato soup, homemade or otherwise, is not enough as the main meal of the day to mean I am not hungry.

RikthePoet · Yesterday 17:08

EvieBB · 08/11/2026 09:31

Your homemade soup sounds lovely! I'd be ecstatic if someone was making me that plus homemade bread:)....but I also like a bit of protein with my meal...how about asking him to add to the meal if he's not happy and make a protein side dish?

Ecstatic!

EvieBB · Yesterday 17:09

RikthePoet · Yesterday 17:08

Ecstatic!

Yep....I rarely get cooked for 😕

RikthePoet · Yesterday 17:22

EvieBB · Yesterday 17:09

Yep....I rarely get cooked for 😕

But the OP enjoys a “nicer” home cooked meal on Sundays and takes it in turns to do something more ambitious than tomato soup.

Moud · Yesterday 19:38

EvieBB · 08/11/2026 21:50

Really? OP please clear this up for us 😅

Homemade using the bbc good food classic loaf recipe. Very easy. Idiot proof. I add cheese and garlic to the dough plus the butter is crammed with garlic and herbs.

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latetothefisting · Yesterday 22:46

Soup is a perfectly nice meal, but I don't think anyone would say it's a special or particularly exciting one, so if your tradition is to make a bit more effort than normal and have a nicer treat meal on Sunday, and DH sticks to that when it's his 'turn' then yeah I can see why he might be disappointed. He could probably have explained it without referring to it as a bit shit though!

It's not like soup is hard to make, you could still have stuck everything in a saucepan while cooking something else, and had it as a starter/for lunch tomorrow.

EvieBB · Yesterday 23:44

RikthePoet · Yesterday 17:22

But the OP enjoys a “nicer” home cooked meal on Sundays and takes it in turns to do something more ambitious than tomato soup.

I think it's OPs partner that's wanting the nicer meal. Obviously yes it's nice but as a one off he'll have to manage and just be grateful she's cooking at all

EvieBB · Yesterday 23:45

Moud · Yesterday 19:38

Homemade using the bbc good food classic loaf recipe. Very easy. Idiot proof. I add cheese and garlic to the dough plus the butter is crammed with garlic and herbs.

Thanks, sounds lovely:)

Chickpeacurrywithrice · Today 09:23

EvieBB · Yesterday 23:44

I think it's OPs partner that's wanting the nicer meal. Obviously yes it's nice but as a one off he'll have to manage and just be grateful she's cooking at all

I think it’s stated more than once that it’s “we”

We enjoy a “nicer” home cooked meal on Sundays. Take it in turns.

So they also take it in turns, so why should the DP be grateful OP cooks at all?

Scarcityvarcity · Today 09:34

Why is bread or soup nicer because it's home made? Bread in particular is often nicer fron a decent bakery.

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