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Homemade tomato soup and homemade bread - “shit Sunday meal”?

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Moud · 01/11/2026 13:23

Had planned to make gammon and cauliflower and cheese but we have quite a lot of tomatoes and veg that could do with using up. I thought homemade tomato soup with a nice loaf of cheese and garlic bread would be nice. But dh has said it’s a bit shit for a Sunday. We enjoy a “nicer” home cooked meal on Sundays. Take it in turns. We have things for a roast but it can be done later in the week.

I think dh was rude. Tbf he typically makes more of an effort ie we had homemade ravioli last week. Thats on him though as he’s more of a foodie. I’m genuinely not trying to get out of work just wanting to avoid waste!

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gannett · 01/11/2026 13:38

Homemade soup and bread sounds delicious. For me, right now, I'd be very happy with it. But if I was especially hungry I might well think it wouldn't be enough. Yesterday I did a lot of exercise in the day and I'd have needed something more than soup/bread in the evening.

Your husband is rude though. As the non-cook in the household my golden rule is to never be rude about what DH makes. If I think it won't be enough, I'll say that, not "it's a bit shit".

You could make the soup and bread and eat it for weekday meals, while he makes something today? If he hadn't been rude I'd have suggested you think of something heartier that also uses up the tomatoes, but since he's been rude he can do that himself if he wants.

SouthLondonMum22 · 01/11/2026 13:39

DeutscheBahnTicket · 01/11/2026 13:32

He made it last week - ravioli.

If he made ravioli from scratch on his turn i get why he's a bit ambivalent about soup, bread and cheese now it's op's turn

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It was his choice to make it from scratch. Surely the point is a homemade meal and eating it together, not a competition on how long it takes to do it?

Crackingonandon · 01/11/2026 13:40

That sounds delicious. Your DH is an ungrateful twat.

Wibblywobblymum · 01/11/2026 13:40

Did he know gammon was the original plan?

It sounds delicious but if you’ve been looking forward to a specific meal all day and then get something different with no warning, it’s almost always going to feel a little bit disappointing.

user1492809438 · 01/11/2026 13:41

Rude and unpleasant man. Who made him the food police? Let him make his own. It sounds delicious, add some cheese, heaven.

EveningSpread · 01/11/2026 13:41

Also we’ve just eaten a big batch of hearty veg and lentil soup for dinner 4 days running. I make loads of cheese toast to go with it if we’re feeling super hungry.

That won’t make your DH think it’s a proper meal. He sounds rude, ungrateful and lazy though.

RikthePoet · 01/11/2026 13:42

Homemade soup and bread can make a great light lunch.

What are you having for your main meal today?

DeutscheBahnTicket · 01/11/2026 13:45

EveningSpread · 01/11/2026 13:41

Also we’ve just eaten a big batch of hearty veg and lentil soup for dinner 4 days running. I make loads of cheese toast to go with it if we’re feeling super hungry.

That won’t make your DH think it’s a proper meal. He sounds rude, ungrateful and lazy though.

They take turns to do the cooking and the husband apparently makes more effort with cooking.

Not sure lazy is correct here...

And I rarely come on here to defend husbands re housework, so this is unusual for me

HairyMcCoo · 01/11/2026 13:45

I think that sounds lovely. I wouldn't say that was a midweek meal, because I would never have time to make homemade soup, and homemade bread, and homemade sticky toffee pudding during the week. Who can do that unless they're not working and don't have kids?

InBedBy10 · 01/11/2026 13:45

YABU

While nice, soup and bread is not a main meal.

Breadcat24 · 01/11/2026 13:45

@Moud Same tomato glut issue- I have made soup but we are having it tomorrow- even then I am going to serve a red onion tart with it.
If you are used to a special Sunday meal I can see that just homemade soup and bread- although nice- might be a bit of a disappointment

HeddaGarbled · 01/11/2026 13:45

He didn’t say it was shit, he said it was a bit shit, and I think that alters the tone. And I agree with him.

chirrupybird · 01/11/2026 13:46

Do the roast today and the soup tomorrow if that would be more traditional for your family. We often have something simple on Sundays these days and eat a bit earlier so we get to cheese and biscuits later, and often do a roast on Saturdays.

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Moud · 01/11/2026 13:48

HairyMcCoo · 01/11/2026 13:45

I think that sounds lovely. I wouldn't say that was a midweek meal, because I would never have time to make homemade soup, and homemade bread, and homemade sticky toffee pudding during the week. Who can do that unless they're not working and don't have kids?

I thought similar, I typically do not make bread during the week unless I’m making a special effort (rare)

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TheFishFish · 01/11/2026 13:49

Homemade soup and chunky bread etc can absolutely be a proper meal. That's as much effort as sticking a chicken in the oven, and a decent portion of that is certainly enough.

DH is an ungrateful twat, next week do him fucking beans on toast and throw it at him.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 01/11/2026 13:49

I think having to have a special/ bigger/ great effort meal on a Sunday is really outdated.

For me, there’s little I would dislike more than having to spend my Sunday cooking, eating and then clearly up after a roast. Especially when you have young children, and could be doing something they enjoy, and enjoying spending quality time with them, rather than messing about in the kitchen.

Even without young children it seems like a waste of precious time for me any more than occasionally.

So YANBU OP

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 01/11/2026 13:49

HairyMcCoo · 01/11/2026 13:45

I think that sounds lovely. I wouldn't say that was a midweek meal, because I would never have time to make homemade soup, and homemade bread, and homemade sticky toffee pudding during the week. Who can do that unless they're not working and don't have kids?

To be fair that meal sounds amazing.

OhTheCowsInTheMeadowGoMoo · 01/11/2026 13:50

The soup sounds lovely, your DH is rude.
Though he's right that that's not really a main meal, it's a starter or a light lunch.

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Moud · 01/11/2026 13:50

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 01/11/2026 13:49

I think having to have a special/ bigger/ great effort meal on a Sunday is really outdated.

For me, there’s little I would dislike more than having to spend my Sunday cooking, eating and then clearly up after a roast. Especially when you have young children, and could be doing something they enjoy, and enjoying spending quality time with them, rather than messing about in the kitchen.

Even without young children it seems like a waste of precious time for me any more than occasionally.

So YANBU OP

DH and I are both foodies though. I typically enjoy cooking/ watching cooking shows/ having a wander in nice food shops

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Retne · 01/11/2026 13:52

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 01/11/2026 13:49

I think having to have a special/ bigger/ great effort meal on a Sunday is really outdated.

For me, there’s little I would dislike more than having to spend my Sunday cooking, eating and then clearly up after a roast. Especially when you have young children, and could be doing something they enjoy, and enjoying spending quality time with them, rather than messing about in the kitchen.

Even without young children it seems like a waste of precious time for me any more than occasionally.

So YANBU OP

The OP was happy to accept her DH's homemade ravioli last week which would've taken enormous effort.

If she wants to opt out of cooking meals that take a lot of effort that's fine.

But she needs to TELL him.

OffTheMap · 01/11/2026 13:52

Perfectly nice meal…. But if you’ve been looking forward to gammon and cauli cheese would feel a bit if a disappointment, IMO

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Moud · 01/11/2026 13:53

I normally enjoy cooking but I guess I just fancied soup and thought it was a good way to guarantee no waste.

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Retne · 01/11/2026 13:54

Moud · 01/11/2026 13:53

I normally enjoy cooking but I guess I just fancied soup and thought it was a good way to guarantee no waste.

Would the ingredients have gone off if you'd used them tomorrow?

OhBettyCalmDown · 01/11/2026 13:55

He could’ve been nicer about it but if I was planning on gammon and cauliflower cheese I’d also be dissapointed with Tomato soup. Don’t get me wrong we don’t slave away every Sunday sometimes we have a quick & easy meal but I wouldn’t be upset if my DH wanted something more substantial

Flamingbanana214 · 01/11/2026 13:56

I would be disappointed with soup as the main Sunday meal, I'd have made the soup for lunches during the week and had the roast today.

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