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Homemade tomato soup and homemade bread - “shit Sunday meal”?

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Moud · 01/11/2026 13:23

Had planned to make gammon and cauliflower and cheese but we have quite a lot of tomatoes and veg that could do with using up. I thought homemade tomato soup with a nice loaf of cheese and garlic bread would be nice. But dh has said it’s a bit shit for a Sunday. We enjoy a “nicer” home cooked meal on Sundays. Take it in turns. We have things for a roast but it can be done later in the week.

I think dh was rude. Tbf he typically makes more of an effort ie we had homemade ravioli last week. Thats on him though as he’s more of a foodie. I’m genuinely not trying to get out of work just wanting to avoid waste!

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Burningbud1981 · 01/11/2026 15:42

ACommonTreasuryForAll · 01/11/2026 15:41

What is wrong with people? Food is food is food. OP's is homemade and requires no effort for her DH. It is my favourite type of meal.

Her DH doesn’t like it. The majority on here agree it’s not a substantial dinner. That’s ok isn’t it ?

NippyNinjaCrab · 01/11/2026 15:44

We love soup and a pudding in this house. With homemade bread sounds lovely. Cream or custard with your sticky toffee pudding?

Scrambledomelette · 01/11/2026 15:48

I'd have the good sense not to complain but I'd be a bit disappointed if my main Sunday dinner looked like soup and bread.

Sahara123 · 01/11/2026 15:55

I had soup and bread for lunch today, and am very much looking forward to my Sunday roast later 😋

EwwSprouts · 01/11/2026 16:04

He was rude. YABU though, soup is lovely for lunch or a light tea. It is not a dinner.

outerspacepotato · 01/11/2026 16:04

Thepeopleversuswork · 01/11/2026 15:11

Am I living in a parallel universe?

Since when has it been acceptable to call a meal prepared for you “shit”? Its irrelevant whether its gammon, tomato soup or a piece of cheese on toast.

In our house the rule is if you want something specific and others don’t want it you make it yourself.

I am astonished that people are splitting hairs over whether this is a starter or a main. Its bloody rude.

Leaving people hungry because of a meagre meal is rude. I think it's ok to say something about it.

It's not enough food. It's got very little protein, it's what people with little appetite eat. It won't fill up an adult. Look at the calories, it's going to be low. A filling soup is going to have beans or tofu or meat along with vegetables. Tomato soup is what you get on a liquid diet. That and a piece of bread doesn't cut it.

Their norm is to make their Sunday dinner a bit extra. Thin soup and a piece of bread, even if homemade, is not going to be filling, much less that little bit extra.

Doctordoolittle · 01/11/2026 16:07

I feel like homemade soup is a faff and waste of time considering you can get high quality nutritious ready made ones. But I don’t think the way he spoke to you about it is very nice!

Cosyblankets · 01/11/2026 16:08

I had home made soup and bread at lunchtime.
I'm just off to put the roast potatoes in for dinner to go with the roast beef and vegetables

TheLastSilverSaint · 01/11/2026 16:16

Soup and bread isn’t a ‘main’ meal as far as I’m concerned. It’s the sort of thing I’d have for lunch during the week when I’m working, not something I’d have as my main meal of the day. It’s equivalent to serving a sandwich, really.

TheLastSilverSaint · 01/11/2026 16:18

outerspacepotato · 01/11/2026 16:04

Leaving people hungry because of a meagre meal is rude. I think it's ok to say something about it.

It's not enough food. It's got very little protein, it's what people with little appetite eat. It won't fill up an adult. Look at the calories, it's going to be low. A filling soup is going to have beans or tofu or meat along with vegetables. Tomato soup is what you get on a liquid diet. That and a piece of bread doesn't cut it.

Their norm is to make their Sunday dinner a bit extra. Thin soup and a piece of bread, even if homemade, is not going to be filling, much less that little bit extra.

Yes, this. It’s bread and a liquidised low-cal vegetable (technically a fruit but whatever) and isn’t a balanced or filling main meal. Unless you’re a Victorian invalid.

Minasama · 01/11/2026 16:20

Anyone who calls a dinner cooked for them “shit” is rude and unpleasant.

That said I know my husband would feel very cheated by homemade tomato soup for Sunday lunch - it’s not something he’d enjoy and we normally have a roast.
I wouldn’t do it because I know how badly it would go down!

I think this is the kind of thing a woman finds reasonable because women tend to like lighter meals / vegetarian food but a man feels cheated by!

Tryagain26 · 01/11/2026 16:23

It sounds nice but unless it's a light lunch I wouldn't call it a main meal. Won't you be hungry again soon?

CharliePingPong · 01/11/2026 16:30

Tryagain26 · 01/11/2026 16:23

It sounds nice but unless it's a light lunch I wouldn't call it a main meal. Won't you be hungry again soon?

We went out for a late brunch. No one was going to be hungry

OP added this in much later.

Thepeopleversuswork · 01/11/2026 16:42

Burningbud1981 · 01/11/2026 15:42

Her DH doesn’t like it. The majority on here agree it’s not a substantial dinner. That’s ok isn’t it ?

But why can’t the DH pull his finger out and make his own lunch if he feels so strongly about it?

If you have prescriptive ideas straight out of the 1950s about what constitutes “proper food” then its on you to sort an alternative.

Grapewrath · 01/11/2026 16:45

Sounds nice but not what I’d want for a planned special meal tbh

Moud · 01/11/2026 16:46

Burningbud1981 · 01/11/2026 15:32

That’s up there for drip feed of the year

I was asked why I didn’t make the soup for lunch. I can’t include every detail in the opening post

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trappedbynerves · 01/11/2026 16:58

Moud · 01/11/2026 16:46

I was asked why I didn’t make the soup for lunch. I can’t include every detail in the opening post

Veg soup and bread is nutritionally deficient as a main meal, but fine for a late meal if you ate plenty of protein earlier in the day. Having brunch isn't just relevant, what you had for brunch is. If you said, "I'd planned to do gammon but we both had huge fry-ups/eggs benedict, so thought soup would be better for tea," it would be completely different to, "anticipating gammon, DH had pancakes and fruit for brunch."

Tink3rbell30 · 01/11/2026 17:15

Sounds lovely. Not every meal needs a perfect balance of protein, carbs and veg 😂

11AndCounting · 01/11/2026 17:28

Thepeopleversuswork · 01/11/2026 16:42

But why can’t the DH pull his finger out and make his own lunch if he feels so strongly about it?

If you have prescriptive ideas straight out of the 1950s about what constitutes “proper food” then its on you to sort an alternative.

There's nothing 1950s about thinking that a bowl of tomato soup (perhaps a couple of hundred calories), and some bread, isn't substantial enough to be a main meal on its own.

There's a reason its generally served as a starter.

VividPinkTraybake · 01/11/2026 17:32

Myfridgeiscool · 01/11/2026 13:24

Your DH is an idiot

So helpful. Is there a competition on these threads where someone just has to be the first to throw out an insult?

VividPinkTraybake · 01/11/2026 17:34

AshCullen1894 · 01/11/2026 13:34

Husband sounds like a bit of a twat.

Why?

RikthePoet · 01/11/2026 17:34

TheFishFish · 01/11/2026 13:49

Homemade soup and chunky bread etc can absolutely be a proper meal. That's as much effort as sticking a chicken in the oven, and a decent portion of that is certainly enough.

DH is an ungrateful twat, next week do him fucking beans on toast and throw it at him.

Edited

No, a decent portion of tomato soup is not sufficient as a main meal. Where's the protein?

Beans on toast is a much more balanced meal.

HoraceCope · 01/11/2026 17:35

Moud · 01/11/2026 13:26

For me soup can definitely be a main dish.

same here

VividPinkTraybake · 01/11/2026 17:35

DeutscheBahnTicket · 01/11/2026 13:45

They take turns to do the cooking and the husband apparently makes more effort with cooking.

Not sure lazy is correct here...

And I rarely come on here to defend husbands re housework, so this is unusual for me

It's just a pavlovian response for people on here.

monkeysox · 01/11/2026 17:36

BoogieWonder · 01/11/2026 13:25

He could have said it on a nicer way, but that's a starter, not a special homecooked meal.

This.

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