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Homemade tomato soup and homemade bread - “shit Sunday meal”?

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Moud · 01/11/2026 13:23

Had planned to make gammon and cauliflower and cheese but we have quite a lot of tomatoes and veg that could do with using up. I thought homemade tomato soup with a nice loaf of cheese and garlic bread would be nice. But dh has said it’s a bit shit for a Sunday. We enjoy a “nicer” home cooked meal on Sundays. Take it in turns. We have things for a roast but it can be done later in the week.

I think dh was rude. Tbf he typically makes more of an effort ie we had homemade ravioli last week. Thats on him though as he’s more of a foodie. I’m genuinely not trying to get out of work just wanting to avoid waste!

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Fridgemanageress · 01/11/2026 18:31

RikthePoet · 01/11/2026 18:28

Yes but you were arguing on a thread where the OP's husband was frustrated that soup is the main meal, and there was no steak fry-up later on!

Ops husband can go in the kitchen then, and how many people want to cook again after being told lunch was shit?

Parker231 · 01/11/2026 18:33

RikthePoet · 01/11/2026 18:26

Do you only eat two meals a day? Is that your main meal of the day?

We would have soup and toasties as our main meal on a Sunday. Don’t need three meals a day - sometimes we’d have jacket potatoes or a falafel salad.

RikthePoet · 01/11/2026 18:33

Parker231 · 01/11/2026 18:33

We would have soup and toasties as our main meal on a Sunday. Don’t need three meals a day - sometimes we’d have jacket potatoes or a falafel salad.

Are you very inactive?

Parker231 · 01/11/2026 18:37

RikthePoet · 01/11/2026 18:33

Are you very inactive?

No - in our late 50’s but do a run or ski at the weekend. Regularly at the gym or pool. Try to eat less at the weekend to give bodies a break. Not fans of a roast - end up feeling overfull.

BillieWiper · 01/11/2026 18:38

I'm not mad on tomato soup. If it were me and I had the budget I'd make a tomato based meat stew or curry. Like with beef or lamb chunks or lamb shank? Then could have roast potatoes and greens? But he shouldn't be saying your food is shit!

APC303 · 01/11/2026 18:38

That sounds a lot tbh. Maybe just the soup but I couldn't eat the bread too.

11AndCounting · 01/11/2026 18:40

Fridgemanageress · 01/11/2026 18:31

Ops husband can go in the kitchen then, and how many people want to cook again after being told lunch was shit?

It wasn't lunch, it was their main evening meal. They skipped lunch.

If they're both "foodies", and both enjoy taking it in turns to good a "nicer" meal on Sundays, and he always puts in the effort, I can understand him being disappointed that OP didn't really bother.

2chocolateoranges · 01/11/2026 20:08

I wouldn’t be too impressed with soup and bread for dinner either. It’s not a dinner it’s a lunch or a starter.

Itshotchocolatetime · 01/11/2026 20:47

Your meal of tomato soup and cheese and garlic bread sounds lovely. I'd love that right now. I would want it to be more filling though if it was going to be a main meal so I'd want some protein with it, maybe butter beans in the soup and serve something else with it as well, otherwise I'd be hungry again a short while later. The toffee pudding sounds good too, lovely comfort food. Your Dh was rude to say that about your planned meal.

worldshottestmom · 01/11/2026 20:53

The fine line is that he didn't need to make a swearing insult to express his dissatisfaction. "It's a great idea, but not sure soup would fill me for a dinner and we usually do something a bit more on Sundays. How about soup tomorrow and the roast tonight?"

I think the meal sounds divine. Would I eat just that for a dinner, no, it wouldn't be filling enough for me without any meat, but I wouldn't turn my nose up at it then swear and insult you over it, either. Yanbu to be annoyed.

NimbleTaupeTiger · 01/11/2026 20:57

I make a banging minestrone that DH would eat four times a week if I let him and it is anything but a light meal. If your DH wants something else he can make it.

11AndCounting · 01/11/2026 21:58

NimbleTaupeTiger · 01/11/2026 20:57

I make a banging minestrone that DH would eat four times a week if I let him and it is anything but a light meal. If your DH wants something else he can make it.

Minestone soup is usually a lot more substantial than tomato, though. Not just because more its calorific but the additional fibre and protein mean its a lot more filling.

intheshadyborder · 02/11/2026 06:49

Headflip · 01/11/2026 13:31

It's a nice meal, in fact it's what I'm having atm, but I'll have a dinner later. Soup and bread is surely no one's main meal?

Quite apart from whether you'll be hungry, where's the actual nutrition?

Erm, in the food? Soup and bread is perfectly nutritious!

intheshadyborder · 02/11/2026 06:51

APC303 · 01/11/2026 18:38

That sounds a lot tbh. Maybe just the soup but I couldn't eat the bread too.

😂😂😂

Lexibletheflexible · 02/11/2026 06:54

TheFishFish · 01/11/2026 13:49

Homemade soup and chunky bread etc can absolutely be a proper meal. That's as much effort as sticking a chicken in the oven, and a decent portion of that is certainly enough.

DH is an ungrateful twat, next week do him fucking beans on toast and throw it at him.

Edited

Are you suggesting she physically assault him? How many partners have you done this kind of thing to?

Sartre · 02/11/2026 06:54

Headflip · 01/11/2026 13:31

It's a nice meal, in fact it's what I'm having atm, but I'll have a dinner later. Soup and bread is surely no one's main meal?

Quite apart from whether you'll be hungry, where's the actual nutrition?

Oh I don’t know, do tomatoes and vegetables have any nutritional value at all?

Soup and bread is absolutely a main meal and one I make quite often during the winter months. I’m shocked so many don’t view it as such.

PersephoneParlormaid · 02/11/2026 06:56

For me, soup is a lunch not an evening meal.

Gooseinthewood · 02/11/2026 06:56

Definitely a lunch after a chilly walk.

Stormyrose · 02/11/2026 06:59

I’m with your husband, you seem to be egging up the effort on one hand whilst sayinf you could not be arsed with the faff of doing what was agreed, I am also not sure I agree going out for brunch means no dinner requirements. Or that throwing a sticky toffee pudding at it means it was a good meal, especially if you’ve kids, it’s not really about are they going hungry, as your Sunday meal isn’t about simply feeding people,

tomato soup and garlic bread, as lovely as it is, is a light meal or starter, and yes a bit shit for a Sunday where a roast gammon with veg was the original plan for dinner,

I think it’s basically it was your turn, and you couldn’t be arsed, I’d just own that,

HoraceCope · 02/11/2026 07:02

@Stormyrose
i disagree,
it was hardly a tin of soup and a loaf of mother's pride!

Stormyrose · 02/11/2026 07:02

Moud · 01/11/2026 15:20

We went out for a late brunch. No one was going to be hungry. Plus I don’t want to be cooking and chopping the entire day

Why would it take you an entire day, are you not more adept at cooking?

SouthLondonMum22 · 02/11/2026 07:09

HoraceCope · 02/11/2026 07:02

@Stormyrose
i disagree,
it was hardly a tin of soup and a loaf of mother's pride!

Edited

I agree.

The agreement for Sunday is homemade meals, not competing with each other every week about which meal is taking the longest. Does it take as much effort as ravioli from scratch? No but at the same time, DH wasn't forced to faff with ravioli from scratch either. Homemade tomato soup plus homemade bread plus homemade sticky toffee pudding is still homemade and takes effort.

Stormyrose · 02/11/2026 07:43

SouthLondonMum22 · 02/11/2026 07:09

I agree.

The agreement for Sunday is homemade meals, not competing with each other every week about which meal is taking the longest. Does it take as much effort as ravioli from scratch? No but at the same time, DH wasn't forced to faff with ravioli from scratch either. Homemade tomato soup plus homemade bread plus homemade sticky toffee pudding is still homemade and takes effort.

I don’t think anyone disputes that, the question is it a main Sunday night dinner and as you can see from the responses many people don’t feel it is.

SouthLondonMum22 · 02/11/2026 09:50

Stormyrose · 02/11/2026 07:43

I don’t think anyone disputes that, the question is it a main Sunday night dinner and as you can see from the responses many people don’t feel it is.

and there are about a billion ways of voicing that opinion without saying it's shit or simply keep quiet and if you are hungry later, grab a snack.

I think voicing that opinion is fine, it's the way he's gone about it which has got OP's back up.

Sharptonguedwoman · 02/11/2026 17:55

Moud · 01/11/2026 13:23

Had planned to make gammon and cauliflower and cheese but we have quite a lot of tomatoes and veg that could do with using up. I thought homemade tomato soup with a nice loaf of cheese and garlic bread would be nice. But dh has said it’s a bit shit for a Sunday. We enjoy a “nicer” home cooked meal on Sundays. Take it in turns. We have things for a roast but it can be done later in the week.

I think dh was rude. Tbf he typically makes more of an effort ie we had homemade ravioli last week. Thats on him though as he’s more of a foodie. I’m genuinely not trying to get out of work just wanting to avoid waste!

My family would eat it and enjoy it. Have the roast tomorrow.

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