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Homemade tomato soup and homemade bread - “shit Sunday meal”?

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Moud · 01/11/2026 13:23

Had planned to make gammon and cauliflower and cheese but we have quite a lot of tomatoes and veg that could do with using up. I thought homemade tomato soup with a nice loaf of cheese and garlic bread would be nice. But dh has said it’s a bit shit for a Sunday. We enjoy a “nicer” home cooked meal on Sundays. Take it in turns. We have things for a roast but it can be done later in the week.

I think dh was rude. Tbf he typically makes more of an effort ie we had homemade ravioli last week. Thats on him though as he’s more of a foodie. I’m genuinely not trying to get out of work just wanting to avoid waste!

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RikthePoet · 01/11/2026 17:37

NippyNinjaCrab · 01/11/2026 15:44

We love soup and a pudding in this house. With homemade bread sounds lovely. Cream or custard with your sticky toffee pudding?

Yeah, I love soup and a pudding too.

But in between, I'd like a main course.

VividPinkTraybake · 01/11/2026 17:38

HeddaGarbled · 01/11/2026 13:45

He didn’t say it was shit, he said it was a bit shit, and I think that alters the tone. And I agree with him.

Exactly, only on musment would people think this was a crime to say. If the husband shouted this was shit sure, if they say it in an off hand way then that's just how a lot of people talk.

Very context dependant but hasn't stopped people calling him lazy, an idiot or a twat....

UniquePinkSwan · 01/11/2026 17:38

It is shit tbh.

HoraceCope · 01/11/2026 17:39

we sometimes have home made soup, ideally home made bread, and cheese, and that is an evening meal.

Passthecake30 · 01/11/2026 17:44

They’d be uproar with soup, bread and cheese for dinner here. It’s a nice lunch though.

Madamefroufrou · 01/11/2026 17:45

this soup and bread is what I would look forward to when its cold, raining,
when the bus is late, when I’m on the bus 25 mins, homemade soup with
bread would keep me going, late afternoon, stressful day, tired and hungry,
I would be all aglow just thinking of it

however served up for Sunday lunch, pud or no pud I would feel short changed
in fact I would be short changed
your husband was rude yes, but you were testing his limits

TheRoyalEyeroll · 01/11/2026 17:49

I’d be so disappointed with that for Sunday dinner. It’s a snack. Not a meal.

Madamefroufrou · 01/11/2026 17:49

RikthePoet · 01/11/2026 17:37

Yeah, I love soup and a pudding too.

But in between, I'd like a main course.

economical and brilliant 💜

Burningbud1981 · 01/11/2026 17:52

Thepeopleversuswork · 01/11/2026 16:42

But why can’t the DH pull his finger out and make his own lunch if he feels so strongly about it?

If you have prescriptive ideas straight out of the 1950s about what constitutes “proper food” then its on you to sort an alternative.

He made dinner last Sunday. It was OPs turn this week

Madamefroufrou · 01/11/2026 17:57

HoraceCope · 01/11/2026 17:39

we sometimes have home made soup, ideally home made bread, and cheese, and that is an evening meal.

“beautiful soup so rich and green
waiting in a hot tureen
Soup of the evening, beautiful soup,
beautiful beautiful sooooop”

EveningSpread · 01/11/2026 18:01

DeutscheBahnTicket · 01/11/2026 13:45

They take turns to do the cooking and the husband apparently makes more effort with cooking.

Not sure lazy is correct here...

And I rarely come on here to defend husbands re housework, so this is unusual for me

Ah ok, I thought I’d read the OP’s replies but I must have missed that.

He’s just a bit rude to say it’s shit then. It’s fine to say you might need more food, or we’re looking forward to the other thing.

Fridgemanageress · 01/11/2026 18:08

There is absolutely nothing wrong with tomato soup for a meal, especially with fresh tomatoes.

I don’t get what the big fuss is about “a Sunday roast”, the mess, and you’re hungry a few hours later!

Today our breakfast was porridge with left over fruit. Early lunch was homemade allotment tomato soup with croutons made with stale bread, stewed rhubarb and custard for afters, early tea was a full fry up, tomatoes, eggs, sausages, mushrooms, bacon, beans, a few frost bitten hash browns, there was a small lump of steak for DH too - again abit frost bitten and probably being there a year or two, a few frozen veggies and a few chips because the potatoes had started sprouting, supper tonight will be a toasted sandwich or two, and an apple crumble with custard cis I found apples in the freezer from last year!

I love lazy, happy days like this.

DraigCymraeg · 01/11/2026 18:11

Moud · 01/11/2026 13:23

Had planned to make gammon and cauliflower and cheese but we have quite a lot of tomatoes and veg that could do with using up. I thought homemade tomato soup with a nice loaf of cheese and garlic bread would be nice. But dh has said it’s a bit shit for a Sunday. We enjoy a “nicer” home cooked meal on Sundays. Take it in turns. We have things for a roast but it can be done later in the week.

I think dh was rude. Tbf he typically makes more of an effort ie we had homemade ravioli last week. Thats on him though as he’s more of a foodie. I’m genuinely not trying to get out of work just wanting to avoid waste!

Homemade soup and bread is lovely.
But not for me as a main meal on Sunday. I always cook a roast and there is only me at home.

RikthePoet · 01/11/2026 18:14

Fridgemanageress · 01/11/2026 18:08

There is absolutely nothing wrong with tomato soup for a meal, especially with fresh tomatoes.

I don’t get what the big fuss is about “a Sunday roast”, the mess, and you’re hungry a few hours later!

Today our breakfast was porridge with left over fruit. Early lunch was homemade allotment tomato soup with croutons made with stale bread, stewed rhubarb and custard for afters, early tea was a full fry up, tomatoes, eggs, sausages, mushrooms, bacon, beans, a few frost bitten hash browns, there was a small lump of steak for DH too - again abit frost bitten and probably being there a year or two, a few frozen veggies and a few chips because the potatoes had started sprouting, supper tonight will be a toasted sandwich or two, and an apple crumble with custard cis I found apples in the freezer from last year!

I love lazy, happy days like this.

So imagine your day without the main meal and just breakfast and the soup. Would you be satisfied?

BunkBedsArePeopleShelves · 01/11/2026 18:17

amber763 · 01/11/2026 13:27

Soup and bread isnt a Sunday dinner, lovely as it sounds. Make it and have a small bowl as a starter or use it for lunches in the week.

Anything you want for dinner on Sunday is a Sunday dinner.

Parker231 · 01/11/2026 18:18

We regularly have tomato soup and cheese toasties on a Sunday. No one complains. A Sunday lunch doesn’t have to be a roast or fancy meal.

Greenmouldycheese · 01/11/2026 18:18

Sounds delicious. Perfect for a autumn Sunday 🍂

Tiddlywinks63 · 01/11/2026 18:22

Blimey! I’ve been known to do cheese on toast with homemade tomato soup for Sunday dinner 🙄
Quite often nowadays I cba to faff around with the full roast dinner, if I do I rarely eat much/any of it.
dh knows he’s very welcome to get his own meals if he complains 🤷🏼‍♀️

Tiddlywinks63 · 01/11/2026 18:22

RikthePoet · 01/11/2026 18:14

So imagine your day without the main meal and just breakfast and the soup. Would you be satisfied?

Yep! Suits me fine 😋

11AndCounting · 01/11/2026 18:23

Fridgemanageress · 01/11/2026 18:08

There is absolutely nothing wrong with tomato soup for a meal, especially with fresh tomatoes.

I don’t get what the big fuss is about “a Sunday roast”, the mess, and you’re hungry a few hours later!

Today our breakfast was porridge with left over fruit. Early lunch was homemade allotment tomato soup with croutons made with stale bread, stewed rhubarb and custard for afters, early tea was a full fry up, tomatoes, eggs, sausages, mushrooms, bacon, beans, a few frost bitten hash browns, there was a small lump of steak for DH too - again abit frost bitten and probably being there a year or two, a few frozen veggies and a few chips because the potatoes had started sprouting, supper tonight will be a toasted sandwich or two, and an apple crumble with custard cis I found apples in the freezer from last year!

I love lazy, happy days like this.

There's a subtle difference between "soup" and "soup followed by a full fry up, with added steak, followed by toasted sandwiches and apple crumble".

See if you can spot it!

Fridgemanageress · 01/11/2026 18:23

RikthePoet · 01/11/2026 18:14

So imagine your day without the main meal and just breakfast and the soup. Would you be satisfied?

I certainly wouldn’t tell my husband his dinner was shit, and if my husband said that to me, I’m old enough to know how to get revenge without being initially sussed out!

I would ask him if he was hungry and make something else later.

Fridgemanageress · 01/11/2026 18:26

11AndCounting · 01/11/2026 18:23

There's a subtle difference between "soup" and "soup followed by a full fry up, with added steak, followed by toasted sandwiches and apple crumble".

See if you can spot it!

the fry up was early tea, a few hours after our early lunch

RikthePoet · 01/11/2026 18:26

Parker231 · 01/11/2026 18:18

We regularly have tomato soup and cheese toasties on a Sunday. No one complains. A Sunday lunch doesn’t have to be a roast or fancy meal.

Do you only eat two meals a day? Is that your main meal of the day?

RikthePoet · 01/11/2026 18:28

Fridgemanageress · 01/11/2026 18:26

the fry up was early tea, a few hours after our early lunch

Yes but you were arguing on a thread where the OP's husband was frustrated that soup is the main meal, and there was no steak fry-up later on!

Ponderingwindow · 01/11/2026 18:28

It is a weekend meal because cooking it from scratch is going to take time. I love a meal of soup and do it regularly, including last night.

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