Employee on onlyfans

Yes you did but we still don't under what it has do with him?

Is it impacting her work? If no, he needs to mind his own business as what she does in her own time and fuck all to do with him or you. I don't even understand why you would be asking him what he is planning to do.

This with bells on - if he wants to ask for advice, he should go to either his line manager or HR

One of my colleagues in work does Only Fans as a side income. No one cares. She is free to have a second job and other peoples stigmas and judgements aren’t her problem. Rightly so.

She doesn’t do it in working hours and doesn’t promote it on LinkedIn of course. If some people take offence then that’s on their shoulders and they may benefit from asking themselves why other peoples lives evoke such strong feelings within them.

Oh, you mean the blame part? If you mean blaming porn stars in general – think probably projection on your part to be quite honest.

If you mean blaming the teacher, yeah the teacher is probably blameworthy IMO. I might not judge financial reasons, but some people have other reasons. But in general I wouldn't really care about moralising, would just want my child in a safe environment.

I’d have no more of a problem with my child watching their teacher so porn than watching anyone else do porn

I think this is an interesting mindset. I think for me, as I said earlier, there would definitely be heightened safeguarding concerns re: a teacher versus stranger.

1. A child is even more likely to click on something they know they shouldn't click on if it's a trusted adult. Yeah, we can all pretend we're perfect parents with foolproof parenting, but that's not true.

2. A child is even more likely to believe trusted adults getting naked with them and being sexual is OK if they see a trusted adult doing just that online.

3. And personally to me, gender respect/equality as modelled by trusted adults is important as well.

And I’d make it clear that the consumer of porn is worse than the perpetrator.

I don't disagree with the essence of this (although if I had to dispute it, I would say the actual perpetrators i.e. those creating and distributing the porn industry, invariably male and wealthy, are the worst ones).

But perhaps not in the context of children viewing adults around them do porn. If my DD stumbles upon her teacher Mr Brown's willy, and gets curious looking for more, I'd want her to let me know, not make her feel like she's done something wrong and got poor Mr Brown into trouble!

I never said that you said all NHS employees are idiots.
But you said the NHS is on its knees because of people like him.

He’s not done anything wrongs and in fact sounds like a decent person by not jumping the gun and talking it through first.

If you think OP is an idiot for posting about it then say that, but that’s nothing to do with him or his job.

He should do fuck all, none of his business but he should be having words with the sad twat who was looking and decided to report her. Is your DH new to line management or just clueless? Sounds like he is clueless given that he has just divulged confidential employee information to you and you have decided to plaster on a public forum.

Haven’t read most of your post because my opinion on this is not up for debate. I don’t know what you’re on about with regards to projection you ask my opinion I gave it to you it’s not up for discussion. I’m not interested in your point of view, you seem to want to have a row with me simply because I pointed out to you in your original post, that I thought you were being contradictory. I’m not interested in what you think of my opinions of women in porn m. I don’t blame any woman in porn

Apparently the OP feels lady in question needs to be punished.

I’d have no more of a problem with my child watching their teacher so porn than watching anyone else do porn

What the fuck!

You should inform the church, there's a heathen in their midst.

Another vote for keeping 👃 out

The point being I wouldn’t like then watching anyone do porn.

I only know what I've read plus what I found out 10-15 years ago when 'policing' my teenage son's activity but AIUI that's not 100% correct.

If you want to see the full 'movie' then it's probably necessary to sign up to OF etc and pay.

However sites like You Porn or X Hamster which are mainly free have extracts from OF stuff and a thousand and one other subscription sites there as a 'come on' to draw in subscribers.

I guess that's where teenage boys might just see a teacher though in reality it's needle/haystack territory that they'd find Miss Smith by chance. OTOH if you know her 'professional' name on OF I doubt it would be much of a challenge,

I find all these "none of their business", "people can do whatever they like in their spare time" arguments really strange. Lots of employers have rules on second jobs, social media and general behaviour outside the workplace. Mind boggling that so many people think that an employee engaging in sex work wouldn't be concerning/inappropriate/a downright breach of contract for most employers. In mine it would be gross misconduct and a quick exit.

I wouldn’t call it a second job though, there is no employment, no employer. I crochet and sell things on Etsy and I am damn sure it is none of my employers business, this scenario is more like my crocheting.

And yes many companies have strict rules on social media and I for one would have very little sympathy for somebody who uses social media to bring their company into disrepute. However I cannot for a second imagine that this employee is going this via onlyfans.

This is a bizarre post - not of his business and none of your business- unless her contract specifically states otherwise.

Where did the op say her husband asked her to start a thread here?

Some of the replies on here are quite abrupt. I work in public sector, in my role there is a policy on secondary employment - this must be approved by immediate line manager and their line manager with consideration of any conflicts of interest and ethical issues. HR have no role in this and it is a detailed application.There is also a social media use policy and grounds for discipline action on bringing the employer into disrepute. I'm not sure if this would come under that, I guess it would depend on specifics of the policy. So yes in an ideal world it would be no ones business, assuming they are not using their employee info, but in many companies non illegal things are the company's business by nature of these contracts. Also in my area, HR are there to advise, but the manager is the one who is responsible for carrying out all of these actions and ensuring adherence to policy. As a line manager I'd be pulled up if it was known that ignored something that was a breach of policy, if indeed it is. The fact that the husband has spoken about it outside of work is a fair point but a separate one.

Check your last paragraph…

FWIW I think both the husband and OP sound like idiots.

And he’s completely in the wrong for discussing a confidential work issue outside of work! That’s ended up on an internet forum that tends to get threads in a certain daily newspaper 🤦🏻‍♀️

It also seems like plenty of other posters think he’s in the wrong as well…

@TheJabberwocky well, I know you said you're not interested in my opinion, but to be fair, you quoted my post first and I just wanted to clarify. :)

You said:
it comes across very strongly that you are blaming the female teacher And saying that you wouldn’t want any teacher of your child’s to be involved in sex work.

Let's take the gender out of it... I generally wouldn't blame grown adults for sex work no. But yeah, I would be pretty angry at Mr Brown if my DD came across his willy, and you bet I'd blame Mr Brown. And yes, I don't want willy-waving Mr Brown teaching my DD!

I guess I'm just trying to understand your thoughts? I do kind of get it more – in that you think of all porn as equally harmful to your child anyway? – but well, as you said, you're not interested in a discussion, so let's leave it.

Fucking hell what has the world become when sex work is considered the same as crocheting??!!

Maybe read it in the context. I was responding to somebody referring to a second employment. It is the same scenario as in it is quite clearly not a second employment, in any legal or contractual sense, any more than my crochet is a second employment.

Then it's her PR person to see if she's broken any company rules (yes, many companies have them and that's OK) not for us to tell the wife of the manager what "needs to be done with her". This is such a "how long is a string" question. Obvs the different professional fields have different attitudes towards showing your tits online. It's not the same if you work at Tesco's then if you work with vulnerable teens or in finance dealing with high profile clients.

It doesn't matter who he is.

It's absolutely none of his fucking business (and even less of yours) what she does in her spare time to make some extra money, whether that's OnlyFans or a Saturday job in a shop or delivering bloody Avon catalogues. Stop being so creepy and keep your beak out.

Self employment is second employment!