Employee on onlyfans

Why do people think you can't tell people ylsokeone,you know is on only fans ?? Which policy is the husband meant to have broken? Is it also illegal to say someone you work with is on twitter amx you tube?

Oh god would you actually not? We had a teacher who did Onlyfans that the male teens discovered and enjoyed.

In theory, I like the idea of bodily freedom. In reality, I do have a problem with the male gaze centric nature of online porn (whether hardcore or soft). I think it’s quite problematic for boys to discover an authority figure or guiding figure posing in ways specifically for male degradation.

To elaborate, I mean widespread strangling, pounding away with little regard for female pleasure, liberal use of insults like “slut” etc in porn, women faking pleasure at the mere touch of a man… But even in mainstream magazines and media (or OF), how many times do you see male models kneeling down as if to eat out a woman (not many) versus female models kneeling down with puppy eyes as if for a blowjob (lots)? Just one example, there are many. Generally women pose for men, and men pose for men.

Of course the core problem would be breaching safeguarding though — seeing adult figures around them in any sexual context. This would apply to teen girls finding a male teacher’s OF too. But personally, I think the male dominance and female degradation/subservience themes around their female teacher is an additional consideration for boys.

Why, as a manager, would I want to get involved if one of my staff is making a bit on the side doing whatever it is she does on Only Fans?

Obviously, if she's performing in a way that makes it obvious where she works and there's a risk of reputational damage it might be different but otherwise it's none of his business.

God people are really defensive of some random women they don't know. Personally I'd just report what he has been told to HR and let them handle it. I have no idea why you are asking about it on here OP unless it just to stir people up, it's nothing to do with you - was your husband not told what is acceptable and unacceptable regarding SM and bringing the organisation into disrepute? Does he not know who to speak to if he has any concerns? You would think in a hospital setting there would be a lot of training regarding that, there certainly is in schools.

Also on MN nothing is anyone else's business ever.

And yet despite everything you’ve said, your post still sounds as though it is blaming the women doing the sex work rather than the men accessing it?

It has absolutely nothing to do with you or your husband unless she is wearing work uniform or using the office.
Wind your neck in and stop being so judgemental.

NHS,managers are also.supposed to be professional ,I worked got the NHS for many years and they have many ,many policies but I'm pretty sure one wouldn't be ,if your not sure what to do in a situation ask your partner to start a thread on Aibu ..

Yeah right, unless of course they're a teenager and it's going round their school. It's not a private life if it's on only fans is it. There's no way it would be allowed if it was found out anyway, the teacher wouldn't have a job.

He should ask HR for advice not randoms on the internet

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It was brought to his attention today by another colleague that a female colleague is on OnlyFans.
What do you think k he should do about the colleague viewing OnlyFans?
None of his business, stop the pearl clutching.

What does the social media/online communications policy say about it? If there's nothing about public image in there, surely it's none of your husband's business or anyone else's?

She's welcome to do another job as long as she does the job she's doing well and her other job does not impact it. If someone were to recognise her, surely that's on them? At a push a conversation around her having a standard response such as "sorry, I don't know what you're talking about" (rather than promoting herself or putting herself at risk by people knowing where she works) might need to be had but I'd suggest your husband gets advice from HR about it first.

Unless she's in uniform, using name of business or there's a company policy that specifically says only fans is a no-no this is her private life and none of your husbands business.

Hmm? Not sure where you got that from. It sounds like you didn't even read my post before spouting off, actually.

By "men", do you mean the boys? They are boys and girls, not men and women. In general, whether boys or girls, I don't really "blame" children (or really even their parents) for accessing things. They still need to be shielded from those things, though.

Or did you mean grown consumers of porn, which wasn't within the remit of my post at all? All I was doing was describing the porn industry as it is accessed by boys at school – women/their teacher kneeling, obedient, being demeaned, etc. I really don't care about 40 year old incel James wanking off, all I was talking about was teenage boys re: their teacher. As said above, problematic whether for boys or girls, but IMO the female subservience aspect is additionally problematic with a female teacher and male students.

(Anyway, if you do any research at all, or listen to past porn stars speak, it's very clear that the porn industry is an incredibly exploitative model controlled and directed by men. So not sure where blame for women comes in.

However, I still wouldn't blame women for participating even if it was out of free will. Most of society, myself included, is socialised to some extent into believing that female desirability stems from male pleasure. I wouldn't morally judge others doing it. But for myself, male dominance / female subservience themes in mainstream porn are something I'm not super keen on, and that I'd obviously try to shield children from.)

Surely it's up to her what she does in her spare time?

Yep- imagine thinking her husband should do something about a woman trying to mke a bit of money in her personal life. It isn't illegal. I hate how judgemental people are. Jesus christ. God forbid a woman has agency over her own body!

No I read your full post, thanks.

The first thing you say is ‘God, would you actually not?’ In response to the poster who said they wouldn’t care about a teacher doing OF. Then you talk about male teens accessing a female teachers’ OF.. you don’t have to blame the teens in this situation, but it comes across very strongly that you are blaming the female teacher And saying that you wouldn’t want any teacher of your child’s to be involved in sex work.

So despite everything else you have said, it comes across as though you are blaming women. Maybe that wasn’t your intention, but that is how it reads.

It was brought to his attention today by another colleague that a female colleague is on OnlyFans.

Another colleague? Or your husband but he didn't want to say that. Anyway, if I were him, I would be wondering how this colleague found out. And if accessing content is OK, then what's the problem with producing it? Otherwise, I would just pass the information and concerns up to HR and let them deal with it. It's what they're for.

He hasn't.

He's mentioned it his wife, who's decided he needs to "do something", she's asked him what he's going to do, he's being noncommittal, so she's asking the randoms on the internet what he should do.

The one thing he needs to do is stop sharing potentially confidential work matters with his wife as she lacks boundaries and can't wait to share the juicy bits with a wider audience.

To anyone with sense it's a matter to raise with HR, initially no-names-no-pack-drill, to see if there is a contractual issue and/or a safety issue dependant upon the role. As it's likely another member of admin staff there probably isn't the same potential for a personal safety issue that there could be for frontline staff. Regardless of the outcome from HR discussions, someone ought to have a quiet word with the member of staff off-the-record to make sure she's aware that this is now potentially common knowledge and a word with the member of staff that raised it in the first place to politely request they stop spreading it about as gossip.

Why does he need to do anything?

What a load of tosh.

Presumably she has a second job because she needs the extra money.
Maybe your DH could help develop her career prospects.

I'd mind my own business and leave her be tbh.

Id review her wages and have a long hard think about paying fair wages if people have to resort to Only Fans to make enough money to live on.

Not sure how I managed to include a quote in my reply! Please ignore,

Teaching is completely different. Teachers are told to use fake names/lock SM down during training.

As a teacher, you shouldn't be putting yourself out there so students can find any of your content, unless it's educational lessons that I see some teachers post on TikTok. I'd question how students were accessing OF and the parenting but they definitely shouldn't be able to find their teacher's explicit content in the first place.

Although, if it was elsewhere on the Internet, revenge porn is a thing and should a teacher be reprimanded or fired in those circumstances?