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Intense dejavu episode

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 21:26

Posting for traffic as spooked -

Have spoken to my best friend who's a GP but also posting to see if anyone has experienced similar.

This eve was waiting for my boyfriend to ring me to catch up about some future plans, we had been together with my child earlier this eve, low key dinner and chill time, no alcohol etc.
around 2030 I thought I will just go up to bed (out of character for me at 2030) and he can wake me up to chat later on. As I thought this, I had a phone call from him, except it was like a pocket dial as he sounded a little far away but he was saying things like "...stripper pole and don't give me any bullshit about not drinking, I know you drank in Barcelona" - of course I was immediately thinking is he ok, has he been drinking, who is he talking to, what's going on. I hung up and immediately texted to say call me asap, and googled intense deja vu to see what on earth was happening. The words were consistent with something we would have a bit of a row about a good while back.

He rang me and said he hadn't realised he had pocket dialled me, and was confused about the narrative I had heard.
Of course I was completely spooked by this, my friend said to contact the GP tomorrow morning, I know that Neuro won't see me overnight at ED so unless I have any symptoms of an upcoming seizure I'm not sure what to do!

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:52

6+ months ago and maybe 4/5 months ago was the argument. Doesn't force me to drink no, was more getting angsty about the fact I didn't want to drink on hols with him but had a few with mates on holiday. Understandable as it isn't consistent. Of course I pointed out that I prefer to keep a clear head sometimes, health and financial reasons, and not a big drinker. Not a personal slight against him.

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eandz13 · 02/10/2023 22:52

There wasn't a camera recording (ring doorbell/indoor security camera) at the time of this argument, was there?

BitOutOfPractice · 02/10/2023 22:53

Does he know that you have anxiety around this issue op?

Moonlightdust · 02/10/2023 22:53

OP it is clear what happened. You describe carrier bags shuffling around which ties in with his food shop delivery and then you can hear a distant tinny-sounded conversation you had months ago being replayed down the phone. His phone has clearly dialled your number whilst in his pocket and as he is moving around, it has replayed a past recording. The fact he recorded this past conversation is weird. I don’t think you can accidentally record conversations but I think it accidentally replayed down the phone to you.
Check his sound recordings.

Iknowthis1 · 02/10/2023 22:54

Hypnogogic hallucinations happen as you're about to fall asleep. They can be auditory hallucinations. They're not generally considered harmful.

This may be what you experienced.

ironcurtains · 02/10/2023 22:54

richteaftw · 02/10/2023 22:46

@ironcurtains I assume you had more for them to go on other than what OP has said for them to see a clinical need for bloods...

Not me, but husband dr in neuro (plus with family history himself). They do take into account family history re seizures or brain tumours (though statistically it's not that significant for the latter I believe), so if you present with any odd symptoms and OP's family history (especially if family was treated at that particular centre) they'll probably run routine bloods. Perhaps if anything, to make sure you're not on drugs I'm guessing!

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:54

Pippa12 · 02/10/2023 22:52

Maybe you should have a chat with your GP. Have you had any other symptoms that are compounding this belief of a ‘neurological episode’… headache, visual disturbances, dizziness, change in mood, word finding difficulty?

I have to say your description of events sounds a little unhinged, but I would understand your anxiety if you have been suffering with other symptoms.

More word finding issues than usual, increased tiredness but not a lot else. I am extremely familiar (on a daily basis) with brain tumour symptoms etc and I don't feel convinced it's that but given how my mum presented I think it's fair for me to feel like this.

No psych hx for me but bi polar on my dads side over 2 generations.

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Indiacalling · 02/10/2023 22:54

I had de ja vu episodes for a while when I was extremely stressed, but it was more like I would go into this weird state where it felt like I was dreaming something I had dreamt before, but I was awake and conscious. It was fairly horrible. It made me feel a bit sick as well, hard to describe. It was about six or seven years ago. My GP said it was anxiety. I didn’t have any brain scans or anything.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:55

Moonlightdust · 02/10/2023 22:53

OP it is clear what happened. You describe carrier bags shuffling around which ties in with his food shop delivery and then you can hear a distant tinny-sounded conversation you had months ago being replayed down the phone. His phone has clearly dialled your number whilst in his pocket and as he is moving around, it has replayed a past recording. The fact he recorded this past conversation is weird. I don’t think you can accidentally record conversations but I think it accidentally replayed down the phone to you.
Check his sound recordings.

He has a practically defunct iPhone which runs out of battery in about 10 mins so of course it's possible but I highly doubt he's been recording me. I put my phone on speaker to double check I wasn't playing an instagram reel by accident even as I was so confused by this sound coming out of my phone!

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:56

eandz13 · 02/10/2023 22:52

There wasn't a camera recording (ring doorbell/indoor security camera) at the time of this argument, was there?

Nothing at all

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:56

BitOutOfPractice · 02/10/2023 22:53

Does he know that you have anxiety around this issue op?

He knows it's a worry of mine but my mums wasn't a heritable disease so would be unjustified paranoia.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:57

I tried to find out if you could listen back to WhatsApp calls but no joy.

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Iknowthis1 · 02/10/2023 22:57

Google/Alexa/Siri frequently record conversations accidentally.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:58

No google or Alexa, just Siri but mine isn't turned on and I don't think his is either.

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Moonlightdust · 02/10/2023 23:01

Well there you go, he has a dysfunctional phone that has somehow recorded a past conversation and it accidentally replayed. I think this is a far more logical explanation than you going mad.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 23:02

Moonlightdust · 02/10/2023 23:01

Well there you go, he has a dysfunctional phone that has somehow recorded a past conversation and it accidentally replayed. I think this is a far more logical explanation than you going mad.

What are the chances though? This was a conversation that was definitely face to face. We barely ever talk on the phone apart from when discussing exact details for booking stuff or when he's away with work.

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PinkMoscatoLover · 02/10/2023 23:03

Since when could you play a voice memo that’s saved on your iPhone whilst on the phone? I just tried that and it doesn’t work. The voice memo goes silent whilst my phone plays the phone call

HyggeTygge · 02/10/2023 23:04

Talking about an old topic out loud while texting about a different subject isn't "having a personality transplant" (isn't the point it literally was in his personality to say these things? ) nor is likely to be a hallucination.

Somethingweirdisgoingon · 02/10/2023 23:04

PinkMoscatoLover · 02/10/2023 23:03

Since when could you play a voice memo that’s saved on your iPhone whilst on the phone? I just tried that and it doesn’t work. The voice memo goes silent whilst my phone plays the phone call

I was just about to say this, you can't play recordings whilst on a call with an iPhone.

This whole thread has given me the eebee jeebees

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 23:06

HyggeTygge · 02/10/2023 23:04

Talking about an old topic out loud while texting about a different subject isn't "having a personality transplant" (isn't the point it literally was in his personality to say these things? ) nor is likely to be a hallucination.

But out of character U turn conversation topic?

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PinkMoscatoLover · 02/10/2023 23:06

@Somethingweirdisgoingon same! Your username is what I’m thinking right now haha

Freshstarts23 · 02/10/2023 23:06

Sounds like your boyfriend was saying similar things to another person and called you by mistake. This is the simplest explanation.

Highly unlikely he’s made a recording, highly unlikely you’ve imagined it. At a push I’d say you’ve misheard but I doubt you’ve imagined the entire content of the very real call.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 23:08

Freshstarts23 · 02/10/2023 23:06

Sounds like your boyfriend was saying similar things to another person and called you by mistake. This is the simplest explanation.

Highly unlikely he’s made a recording, highly unlikely you’ve imagined it. At a push I’d say you’ve misheard but I doubt you’ve imagined the entire content of the very real call.

But why would he be rehashing an argument from 5 months ago?

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ironcurtains · 02/10/2023 23:08

Iknowthis1 · 02/10/2023 22:54

Hypnogogic hallucinations happen as you're about to fall asleep. They can be auditory hallucinations. They're not generally considered harmful.

This may be what you experienced.

Interesting, just seen that 70% of people experience hypnogogic hallucinations. Sorry to hijack OP's thread but does anyone know – if you know something you're seeing/hearing is fake, is it still a hallucination? While falling asleep, I get such hyper "real" multisensory scenarios playing around me or in my head, but then another smaller separate part of my brain sometimes drifts into consciousness to say, "that's how I know I'm falling into deep sleep"!

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 23:09

The similarities between me and this mythical other person are uncanny then!

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