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What's the biggest turn-off you've ever had from a potential BF?

(283 Posts)
1a2b3c4d Fri 27-Nov-15 13:13:31

So I was sitting with a gentleman friend watching some violent git on tv murder his ex, beat up his GF... and then the inexplicably forgiving GF crawls into bed and waits for him in a sexiful and alluring manner.

Clearly my response was 'WTF is wrong with her, this is sexist nonsense'...
to which gentleman friend replied to the effect of 'domestic violence is ok if it only happened once, they made up' etc.

No, it is not ok. Keeping well bloody clear of him now!

Any other big turn-off experiences?

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight Fri 27-Nov-15 13:20:35

'I'd never pay for sex, because you never know...'
I'm thinking 'if the woman has been coerced or trafficked'
He went on 'if it was going to be any good'

JassyRadlett Fri 27-Nov-15 13:22:23


Mine was a bit more pedestrian - finding out he strongly supported the death penalty. I'd had boyfriends with whom I disagreed violently on almost all political issues, but I found that really shocking as we'd gelled on so many other things.

PurpleThermalsNowItsWinter Fri 27-Nov-15 13:26:59

The one that had a tracker fitted to my car and life long plans for us, including taking me shopping to buy clothes so I looked 'more appropriate' (more WAG than laid back jeans and a smart top sort of woman), oh, and telling me we weren't going to a party that we had been invited to as he wanted us to have dinner and sex (it would have been the first time we had had sex, I had known him about two weeks at this point). I didn't sleep with him. I didn't find out about the tracker until my car broke down. I did wonder how he managed to accidentally keep turning up to the same pubs/gigs/parks.

MrsCaecilius Fri 27-Nov-15 13:59:17

Finding out about his wife and 4 kids over the main course. (This happened to me with two different men on first dates...)

But its OK apparently, 'because she really doesn't mind'.

Right. Well I do!!

Notasinglefuckwasgiven Fri 27-Nov-15 14:07:25

Exchanged numbers and the first text I got was sexual. The reply from me wasn't.....and the beautiful girl who smashed a shop window while waiting for me on our first date. That went nowhere.

IguanaTail Fri 27-Nov-15 14:15:15

Purple that's horrific!! A tracker?? shock

rogueantimatter Fri 27-Nov-15 14:21:26


Had one date with a man who was interested in taxidermy and chatted about his work and how pipes were quite interesting really. Eg the ones he started on were 35" diameter whereas.....

MrsHathaway Fri 27-Nov-15 14:23:30

He was a teacher; I also worked at the school. I was so desperately in love with him might have been the Porsche.

One day he gave me a serious bollocking as though I were one of the children. It was as though someone had flicked a switch. Every scrap of attraction disappeared.

pocketsaviour Fri 27-Nov-15 14:25:54

Notasingle Why did she smash the window? Was she drunk or just really clumsy like me grin

Mine was, chatting away with a new colleague who I found quite attractive, seemed intelligent enough, then he picked up his man bag and I noticed he had a copy of the Daily Mail. I could have cried.

fishybits Fri 27-Nov-15 14:26:04

When he took his front teeth out and dropped them in a glass of water full of "bits" on the bedside table.

PurpleThermalsNowItsWinter Fri 27-Nov-15 14:29:41

Iguana - yes. He worked in IT and they had trackers on their company vehicles so in his mind it was already normalised I think.

Belle0906 Fri 27-Nov-15 14:30:58

Mine was, whilst arranging a third date he asked if he could stay at mine. Before I could say "no, wait until you're invited" he said that if he did stay he would have to have a strategic wank beforehand as he hadn't had sex in a while.

Needless to say there was no third date!

IguanaTail Fri 27-Nov-15 14:34:06

I had one who memorised my number plate and sent me an email a year after we had lost contact having a go at me for some driving infringement he had noticed when in the area.

Sighing Fri 27-Nov-15 14:37:56

The one who said "i know your plan, young lady". Apparently as a single mother I wanted to move my "clan" into his (smaller than mine) house. So he was "making sure we took it slow". This was when we met for a drink (not even a date really).
Riiigggggghhhht. Bye then.

FluffyPersian Fri 27-Nov-15 14:47:08

I went speed dating about 7-8 years ago and out of the 25 or so men I ‘dated’ for 3 minutes…

1 sat down and said ‘I don’t want to beat around the bush, I don’t find you attractive so there’s no point in talking’… I actually found this hilarious so snorted and said ‘Sure, fine with me…’ and got my phone out. He then seemed to take um-bridge at the fact I wasn’t offended so said ‘OK, fine.. let’s talk then, what do you do?’ When he found out I worked in I.T. Security and had a Ph.D in Artificial Intelligence, he said ‘Oh, I work in I.T. too… I assumed you were like, a beautician or something as you’ve got blonde hair and big t**ts, I guess I’ve blown my chances, haven’t I?’


Then ANOTHER guy sat down and said ‘I’m looking for a woman who can be a Mother to my 3 boys and knows her place, is it YOU?’ I replied that I wasn’t keen on kids, preferred cats and my usual place was 2 steps ahead of any man…… (I believe in equality, just wanted to wind him up!).

Speed dating can be fun if you don’t take it seriously grin

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Fri 27-Nov-15 16:04:34

The one who asked me out while we were sitting chatting. When I stood up he said oh you're taller than I thought. And not in a nice way. I'm not freakishly tall and never had people I've fancied remark on my height. He was average height himself but seemed bothered by this then after a few more digs disguised as humour said his exes were always considerate enough to wear flats.

Not even our first date and already suggesting what I wear, no thanks.

Houseofmirth66 Fri 27-Nov-15 16:22:03

He threw litter out of his car window. All the time.

batshitlady Fri 27-Nov-15 17:07:30

I was having dinner with a bloke once, (first date) we weren't getting on particularly well or anything. We were waiting for the bill when he asked me without a molecule of humour or irony etc: "what colour knickers are you wearing"?

Just as if he was asking so how was your day? I just sort of chuckled and said something like : "er grey and baggy, now piss off you TWAT"! I stormed off, so he had to pay.

Hillfarmer Fri 27-Nov-15 17:14:05

batshitlady I wish I had some of what you've got! Respect.

MadeMan Fri 27-Nov-15 17:15:34

"then he picked up his man bag and I noticed he had a copy of the Daily Mail. I could have cried."

Cried at the man bag, or the Daily Mail?

MadeMan Fri 27-Nov-15 17:18:25

"he would have to have a strategic wank beforehand"

I imagine the SAS do this as well before storming the Embassy.

floppyjogger Fri 27-Nov-15 17:21:46

I met a lovely looking bloke in a pub who I really clicked with, right up until he got up and walked to the bar and i heard the sound of Blakeys!

I couldnt muster any enthusiasm after that and kept expecting him to burst into a tap dancing routine hmm

batshitlady Fri 27-Nov-15 17:22:37

Grey baggies?

2rebecca Fri 27-Nov-15 17:23:21

I got chatted up by a bloke in a department shop when in my early 20s. He asked me to go round for coffee and as he was quite attractive and I felt flattered although it was a bit weird I went.
He then started commenting on other women in the coffee shop and how he much preferred me to them because they were loud and shrieky and I was quiet and started making plans for coming to visit me (I lived 30 miles from the city I was shopping in) and stay for the weekend and cook me meals.
I thanked him for the coffee (can't remember if we split the bill) and left.

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