What's the biggest turn-off you've ever had from a potential BF?

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So I was sitting with a gentleman friend watching some violent git on tv murder his ex, beat up his GF... and then the inexplicably forgiving GF crawls into bed and waits for him in a sexiful and alluring manner.

Clearly my response was 'WTF is wrong with her, this is sexist nonsense'...
to which gentleman friend replied to the effect of 'domestic violence is ok if it only happened once, they made up' etc.

No, it is not ok. Keeping well bloody clear of him now!

Any other big turn-off experiences?

'boy expat that must have been a odd and uncomfortable experience with his mum watching the sex scene along with you two'

It wasn't porn, it was a scene with this gal faking she was shagging a guy in the back of a limo. But still, she just sat there and watched it with us.

Shame, he had a lot going for him.

The one who was selling his house and arranged some viewings on the road I live before we'd even had a date, then sent me a load of vicious text messages about wasting his time when I cancelled.

Guy I met on online dating who stated to refer to me as his 'princess' before we'd even met. We never met.
The best was a guy my friend put me in touch with, she worked with him and described him as a 'a really nice guy. We metfor coffee, he was very handsome, charming and smelt nice. Then he started talking about his divorce, which he explained had been due to 'a little bit of domestic violence' (he hit his wife with a stick) he wanted our next date to be a walk in the country. Fearing he may bring the stick I declined a second date(and had stern words with my friends about her definition of a nice guy)

BF from many years ago..."Women are past their best once they're over 25"

Stated utterly matter of factly and as if it was the unarguable truth!

Same man also used to boast proudly about his girlfriend before me who had an eating disorder, and that nothing apart from his spaghetti bolognese could tempt her to eat.

He also used to tell me I wasn't thin and had a "curvy figure". I'm a size 8!

I was working behind a bar and for the only time, I gave out my number when asked for it - he was gorgeous! Really astonishingly good looking, made me come over all unnecessary.

I received a text the next day and r started off a rather filthy chain of messages. But he couldn't spell. When he tried to announce that he'd like to slide his hands round my waste while kissing my nek, all desire wilted and died.

Set up by a girlfriend shortly after leaving a LTR. The man was tall, dark and handsome, very rich, and keen to settle down. Our first date was wandering across Hyde Park wilderness in the summer sunshine before heading for cocktails on the river. All was going really well, we sat down on the billowing meadows grass, his Labrador frolicking before us. He turned to me and said 'you look as if you are made to be kissed' and then he kissed me, with closed immobile lips, holding me awkwardly by the shoulders, moving his head awkwardly from side to side as if he were pecking at corn. I should have taken the hint then. A while later we had an incredibly picturesque date down in the country, romantic fireside, wandering through autumnal garden, a long long way from London. It turned out that that was to be my lucky night, he made sure I missed the train back so had to stay at his house, bought me a toothbrush at a garage on the way home, and despite all this, we did have sex . Or rather, he did the weird kissing thing again, then there was a single thrust.

He had so much going for him, but just, no.

The total dish who did one of the courses at my uni. He was always early, and he had a lecture straight after so I only ever saw him sitting down. There was huge chemistry, I fancied the arse off him. Then I saw him walking through campus and my friend said "God that's Tonyfunnywalk from next door." And sure enough, he walked as though he had a 10p piece held between the clips of his arse and was hanging on to it like his life depended on it. I had a flash of him mincing down the aisle to me at our wedding, my dad pissing himself, and my love shrivelled and died.

Solasum "single thrust"!

I had someone message me OLD yeaterday saying 'how are you sugar plum.' Wtf?! Sugar plum?

He had a false leg. I had no idea. Until "that" moment.

Timetotrethink, agree it might worth mentioning before dtd. Plenty of attractive people with missing limbs ie Adam Hills, Jamie Peacock but must have been a bit of a surprise!

These are crazy!

Oh yes, nearly forgot this one...

First date, he asks me out to dinner. Fair enough. He took me to a lovely restaurant in Soho and orders starters, which he insisted we shared, while bragging about his new car. That was all I got and I was starving... No main, no dessert...

Decided to give him the benefit if the doubt and went out on a second date. We met up with a few of his friends. Promptly he pulls out a packet of cocaine and does a line in full public, and when I protest he says 'it's just a bit of coke, what's the problem?' And then spends the rest of the evening dancing with a female friend who turns out to be his ex. So I call it off when he texts for a third date, he gets all defensive saying I am just looking at the bad things, not the good, and proceeds to spend the next few months stalking me online.

First date with a cousin of a work mate.

He turned up and far from the Adonis I was promised, he looked like ginger Mr Muscle but he was nice enough and I decided to see it through out of respect for my work mate. He told me had a present for me, but he had left it in the pub that we had met in (he realised over dinner that he didn't have it with him). He called the pub, they found it and stored it behind the bar. He kept going on about how much I would love it and he wished he could see my face when I opened it.

I went to the pub the next day, the barman had a somewhat quizzical look when he headed over... a carrier of novelty shaped sponges. Dinosaurs, fruit, stars etc... all sponges.

He asked for another date but I made an excuse. He was a knob and the sponges just clinched it.

I came home from work one night to find my cat had shredded each and every one of the sponges and my living room resembled a soft play area/dinosaur graveyard.

I still have no idea why he thought sponges were an appropriate present.

Killing myself laughing at the novelty sponges

I'll see your false leg and raise you a colostomy bag..though that wasn't the turn-off. The turn-off was polishing my fanny furiously as if he had a can of Pledge in his other hand and saying 'come for me...come for me'

You really couldn't make some of this up>

But you can<

As they say in Yorkshire

"Thas nowt as queer as folk".

T'was ever thus--

Someone who has a colostomy bag or wears a prosthetic isn't necessarily a turn off.

The thread is about weird strange behaviour comments being the thing that is the turn off

Did you miss the bit where I clearly said that wasn't the turn-off?

I've learnt my lesson dating men who I think are handsome because they have a beard. I dated one chap who then turned up at my door having shaved it off (for work) wearing his purple short sleeves work shirt and cheap polyester trews. I just didn't fancy him any more. He looked like side show bob

I had an OLD date with a chap who looked just like Ricky Jervais. Except he was a dreary bore going on about his ex. I left before I'd even finished my drink

One OLD who seemed to be living in a shoe box to be near his ex, and who was clearly using him to do everything for the kids. I said I wasn't sure he was quite ready for dating - in a kind way. Where he told me that he definitely wasn't getting back together with her, he knew this because he'd asked her literally the day before to get back together!

BOTH of these things happened to me on the same first date:

1. He turned out to be a vegetarian and was worried that the restaurant might not live up to his standards of vegetarianism so he planned to let me order while he ate a banana that he had brought from home. (After a stony silence, he agreed to order a plate of rice.)

2. On the way home, he asked if I would be interested in viewing his extensive collection of Star Wars memorabilia.

"NEXT!" ......................

On the beard thing - do you ever see someone online who has a couple of different haircuts (or facial hear styles) and want to message them to say which one is current - I only fancy you with the long hair?

"(he hit his wife with a stick) he wanted our next date to be a walk in the country. Fearing he may bring the stick I declined a second date"

Big turn offs ah well:-

The ER doctor who the morning after our first date said when we have sex we have to have anal every night as I like to go wild because of my job...

There was the one who after a walking date texted me some Twilight quote about stars and snow after we'd kissed - the earth did not move for me....

There was the one who told me I think on 3rd date that he'd served time in prison for assaulting his previous ex-GF but it was set up by her to get him convicted as her dad was a judge or solicitor (forget which) Oh and if I googled it or his name he'd paid BIG money to have all traces off the media channels...

The one I dated for a short while who told me that his previous girlfriends had liked clothes shopping for him and he was happy to let them do this.

The one who on the first date pulled down his shirt and showed me a tattoo which showed he was a member of the Orange Order (NI) and his spare hobby was shooting rabbits.... . I realised if he ever met my stepdad (southern Irish) there'd probably be WW3!

Hear that juice and velvet purses are the threads winners!

For some reason I'm laughing at the man who beat the woman with a stick, I am going straight to hell!