What's the biggest turn-off you've ever had from a potential BF?

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So I was sitting with a gentleman friend watching some violent git on tv murder his ex, beat up his GF... and then the inexplicably forgiving GF crawls into bed and waits for him in a sexiful and alluring manner.

Clearly my response was 'WTF is wrong with her, this is sexist nonsense'...
to which gentleman friend replied to the effect of 'domestic violence is ok if it only happened once, they made up' etc.

No, it is not ok. Keeping well bloody clear of him now!

Any other big turn-off experiences?

Online dating. Chatting back and forth with one bloke for a week or so, he mentioned he'd just finished a PhD in a particular subject. I said oh that's interesting, I did my undergraduate degree in that subject, what field was your thesis in? "Oh, it's very complicated, you wouldn't be interested." No, genuinely I'm interested! "It's hard to explain, you probably wouldn't understand."

Thought , but problem resolved itself after I didn't reply to him for a few days (having already said I had a busy week coming up), and he messaged me to tell me I obviously wasn't interested in him and should "TAKE ME OFF YOUR FUCKING FAVOURITES THEN!" And then messaged again an hour later to apologise for "swearing at a lady." Bye then!

(I assumed he was bullshitting about the PhD, but googled him when he sent me a link to his personal site and he did indeed have one. Clearly thought my puny lady brain was too slow to understand it.)

Tiny ears. So shallow of me, but once I'd noticed them there was no hope for us!

I briefly did some OLD which was an eye opener - a lesson in 'being nice' does not work well in those circumstances as too many weirdos.

One bloke seemed nice enough - briefly chatted online then arranged a coffee after work one day.

In between arranging that he proceeded to email me really inappropriate jokes to my work email (I know, lesson learned...) and I had to tell him to stop. But that totally put me off him. I should have cancelled the date at that point but politeness stopped me doing it (duh) so I went. Didn't bother with an outfit change or new makeup after work as knew it was a no hoper.

And then he did off putting action no 2 - he was standing outside the cafe bar door waiting for me. I mean, why not go inside and get a table ?!? He was like a soldier on duty. But, glutton for punishment I am, I parked car and went to see him. Dull bloke, overly nervous and keen, wearing a hairy v necked orangy jumper. Said he'd met his last GF online so, clumsily saying, "I'm looking for a replacement".

Had a fast coffee, then said I had to go as visiting a friend who just about to leave for Australia (!?!) so he walked me to my car and he leaned in for a kiss and there was a mortifying slow motion sidestep and clashing hug. He ran away.

Emailed me later to say he'd like to meet again but he didn't think I seemed interested (no shit Sherlock). He emailed again weeks later, he'd finished his novel and would value my opinion.

But it's all learning. Should have cancelled and saved my petrol money from the off.

One came down for breakfast topless!!! I said about how unacceptable that was almost as bad as men on holdiay going to cafes at lunch top less. He said whats wrong with that? I always do that.

One demanding a lift home after our one and only date, where i drove over an hour and he was five min walk (he chose date), and he didnt even buy the drinks, despite mentioning how much he earns (more than double my salary), and he also mentioned his lotus a lot. When i repeatedly said no i wasnt comfortable with that, he said in a pissed off way that he didnt think it was unreasonable and it wasnt like he was going to rape me.

How does one nominate a thread for classics?

Btw nothing wrong with outie belly buttons. A lot of really amazing people have outies. Just saying.

The guy who, minutes into our first snog, asked me to hold his "love truncheon". It was as if someone flicked a switch at that moment.

He called my vagina a velvet purse...

Reader: I literally laughed him out the door.

He told me he was in love with another woman, his mother, and I would have to 'overcome' her to prove myself to him.

He told me he shaved his legs because he was a keen cyclist. Turned out it was because he liked to dress up in women's clothes. Mine...

good grief expat what did you say to that?!

He told me he shaved his legs because he was a keen cyclist. Turned out it was because he liked to dress up in women's clothes. Mine...

Crossdresser really should have their own

Lion your post reminded me of an approach I had when OLD, 'I love the furry cup, y'know love it'

Mine was when I was asked to dinner and got taken to sainsburys cafe for their pre 5pm meal deal, that guy was one of the stingiest people I've ever known.

A guy I'd been casually seeing from OLD, seen him about four times, texts a few times a week. Wasn't serious, I was dating other people, he'd never asked me anything about myself, didn't even know my surname!

He said that I apparently wanted more from him than he thought he could offer and it was all a bit serious, we shouldn't see each other any more. Seemed like he was making a proper effort to make me look clingy.

I laughed at him and said I was still seeing other people, but that was fine, take care of yourself etc, good luck in the future.

Then I started to get texts saying he had clearly misread things, and made a huge mistake etc etc, could we still see each other.

I said no thanks, and ignored. A year later I was still getting texts from him, usually late at night until eventually I just replied "FUCKING STOP IT".

never heard from him again.

He did, but I had better taste ;)

Imustgodowntotheseaagain

lmfao

Even before meeting them - reading their answers on OK Cupid.

Going back actual aeons, but I fancied this unspeakably gorgeous bloke for ages. He finally asked me out and on our first and last date I realised he said 'was' instead of 'were' and that was the end of it.

He sent me an email with the subject 'what's new pussycat, WOOOAAAH'...

Attraction gone.

Another bloke, we'd been sort-of friends and went for a date to the cinema. Halfway through the film he places his hand on my right breast and just leaves it there. He didn't even have his arm around me, was just sat up stock straight with his hand on my breast.

I didn't really know how to react so excused myself for a wee and went to the pub instead.

Also, I once got a fb message from someone telling me how his life hadn't been the same since we split up and he thought we were soulmates. I went out with him when we were both fourteen for about three weeks, that was it, I was 27 at the time and hadn't seen him since school

When he told me that he was a fan of Nigel Farage. (Sadly I'd slept with him prior to this revelation. Lesson learned.)

Several
Fat ear lobes man
Man with girls name (jade)
Man who after I finished with him kept posting single socks through my door.... Now affectionatly known as 'psycho Jon'
Such fun :)

We were at his place, just chilling and having loads of wine. We'd sadly had sex a few times by then and it was truly fabulous. All of a sudden he got up, pulled his jeans downs sligtly and waved his soft, looking like a turkey's neck penis right in my face, asking if I would like some of that again.
I freaked out, then couldn't stop laughing. It killed any sexual tension and potential for romance. I left soon after and never replied to any of his calls or texts.

I'd been on a few dates with a man who, on being invited to come round to my house, wrinkled his nose and said he wasn't comfortable being around my (gay, male, already coupled up) house mate. "You know, because he's like that and I don't want him getting any ideas about me."

Followed by "I wish he didn't hang around with us all the time" - he'd come out with us once, in a group of about six other mutual friends. As I lived in a house share with four other people, including my gay friend, I have no idea why he was so fixated on him only...

Mine is very tame compared to everything some of these. I was sat behind a very handsome man at an event and spent quite a bit of time admiring the muscle lines visible through his shirt. We got talking afterwards, gelled well and I said something funny (!). He laughed like a donkey. Someone really should tell him.