What's the biggest turn-off you've ever had from a potential BF?

[1a2b3c4d]

So I was sitting with a gentleman friend watching some violent git on tv murder his ex, beat up his GF... and then the inexplicably forgiving GF crawls into bed and waits for him in a sexiful and alluring manner.

Clearly my response was 'WTF is wrong with her, this is sexist nonsense'...
to which gentleman friend replied to the effect of 'domestic violence is ok if it only happened once, they made up' etc.

No, it is not ok. Keeping well bloody clear of him now!

Any other big turn-off experiences?

[Bananalanacake]

We were in Pizza Express and he ordered a side salad and expected me to eat some! No man tells me to eat salad, I want a pizza with extra garlic butter, thanks.

[sharonthewaspandthewineywall]

A good looking man in nightclub- do you know what they call me? Bertie Bassett because I go with allsorts
Guy I'd been seeing a couple of weeks- do you mind if I brush your hair with my mums hairbrush? His mother had died twelve years prior to this

[expatinscotland]

'good grief expat what did you say to that?!'

You need help, S, the professional kind. Then I left. My first clue should have been when we were at his place, watching a rather risque film, and his mum opened the door with her key (yeah, her own key to his flat) and made herself at home, even sitting on the arm of the sofa to watch this couple having sex on the screen.

[MadeMan]

"He told me he shaved his legs because he was a keen cyclist. Turned out it was because he liked to dress up in women's clothes."

Cycling in women's clothes? Surely his maxi skirt would get caught up in the pedals? Culottes might be okay though.

[FedUpWithJudgementalPeople]

A man whole stole the sugar sachets from the cafe we were having a coffee in. Filled his pockets.

Me: what are you doing with the sugar?
Him: stealing it.

[cheapskatemum]

Mine's very tame, compared to some of these:
Me: What do you study (we were at a nightclub in Oxford & he was obviously a student)
Him: Psychology
Me: Oh, so do you try to psychoanalyse people, then?
Him: Yeah, I've got you sussed. (Exit Me, swiftly) Much to my friend's consternation
Friend: But he's just bought you a drink!

[FedUpWithJudgementalPeople]

A man who brought another couple (unannounced) on our third date.

Also told me he wanted to be "sexually intimate" with me. Yuck.

[MadeMan]

"Me: what are you doing with the sugar?"
"Him: stealing it."

At least he was honest; well sort of.

These stories are great.

[sugar21]

I went out with a guy years ago who I thought was the mutts nuts. After we'd been dating for a few weeks I had a lot of vino and blah blah we ended up back at his place. All good nice clean tidy house, snogging and more on the couch and he said shall we test the bed, I was up for it so off we went. Frantically undressing and then I saw them, oh my god I saw them, the filthy fecker had white boxers with skiddies.
I said oh no I've forgotten my sitter can only stay another few minutes, and called a taxi. He seemed upset and asked me to text him.
As I got out of the door I muttered something about has your washing machine broken. He continued to text me for a couple of weeks until I got really fed up and text back telling him undercrackers need washing once in a while. Didn't get a reply!

[ShebaShimmyShake]

Halfway through sex, the guy got out his phone and rang a mate to brag.

[Imustgodowntotheseaagain]

Halfway through sex, the guy's phone rang and he wandered off to answer it.

[Imustgodowntotheseaagain]

I also had a bloke tell me all about the social services investigation into whether he was sexually abusing his daughter (no, apparently) on our first date.

[Littledafty]

The first time we had sex and half way through thrusting he said 'oh yeah baby, hear that juice'
That was the end right there

[FedUpWithJudgementalPeople]

Hear that juice

[FedUpWithJudgementalPeople]

Sugar stealer also phoned me up after our date and poured his heart out to me - him and ex wife hadn't had sex since his youngest daughter was conceived (and she was about 7). Talk about TMI.

[MadeMan]

Perhaps stealing the sugar sachets was a cry for help/attention then?

[TwoSmellyDogs]

Great thread! I suppose that in an absolute sea of bad beginnings my worst has to be the guy I really fancied - 2nd date and that 'I'm going to kiss you' moment and he just fixed an open mouth to mine. Nothing else. Just his wide open gob. Couldn't get out of there fast enough!

[Seeyounearertime]

Perhaps stealing the sugar sachets was a cry for help/attention then?

Or he had a bowl, corn flakes and milk waiting for him and needed a bit of sugar for his breakfast....

[TheJoyOfSpecs]

He'd assembled a six foot trampoline in his dining room and had no intention of moving it outdoors.

Just...weird!

[donajimena]

I had a little fling and as mr hot prospect tantalising kissed my inner thigh with the next contact of his lips... he blew a fucking raspberry on my leg. Killed any desire stone dead.

[IguanaTail]

Hear. That. Juice.


Where's the throwing up emoticon when you need it???

[MadeMan]

^"Where's the throwing up emoticon when you need it???"&

It's right here. -->

[ExasperatedAlmostAlways]

Iv just had more come to me reading these, I'd been seeing a guy who was about 24 when I was 18. He stayed at my house one night and I gave him a pair of old football shorts to wear to bed that had been my brothers. He was trying to coax me all night to do more than kiss. But, despite fancying him for ages something made me not do it. The next day he left and I picked up the shorts to put them in the wash and they were caked in poo!!!!

Another one when I was at uni away from home, I met a guy who'd went to my school. I didn't know him well at school, but being home sick decided to go see a film and hang out a bit. He then started texting telling me he loved me, and kept just turning up at my flat, when I'd said I didn't think we should see each other again. I'd only been out with him about three times. Then he turned up banging on my uni flat and my flat mate shouted through the door, 'she's not here go away' he stayed knocking for over an hour shouting my name and saying he knew I was in there. He then eventually posted his gold necklace through the letterbox and shouted it was his grandad who'd just passed away and he wanted me to have it to show how much I meant to him!

Last one was when I was 23 and it was actually a guy I'd been seeing sporadically for 11months in the time when me and my now husband had been broken up for a year and a half. We only seen each other every couple of weekends because he lived away. It was never serious and actually he'd quite often get drunk and end it all dramatically, then apologise the next day. Then he told me he thought he loved me. I freaked out and felt really bad and my feelings weren't reciprocated. So we met up and I explained as nicely as I could that it wasn't going to work out. He accepted it. Then the next week he kept calling me really drunk in the middle of the night begging to come see me, I said no. He turned up and started banging the door and I let him in because I lived in a lock of flats, to say he had to go home and sleep it off. He then started begging to please let him stay and he'd sleep on the uncarpeted (I'd just moved in) wooden floor. I said no and he eventually left. Next morning I went to leave the house and he'd tied his tie round my outside door handle. Then he proceeded to call the next weekend when he was drunk, repeatedly, claiming he needed to come to mine to get his tie!

Okay that's me I'm done, ha!