What's the biggest turn-off you've ever had from a potential BF?

[1a2b3c4d]

So I was sitting with a gentleman friend watching some violent git on tv murder his ex, beat up his GF... and then the inexplicably forgiving GF crawls into bed and waits for him in a sexiful and alluring manner.

Clearly my response was 'WTF is wrong with her, this is sexist nonsense'...
to which gentleman friend replied to the effect of 'domestic violence is ok if it only happened once, they made up' etc.

No, it is not ok. Keeping well bloody clear of him now!

Any other big turn-off experiences?

[crazycatguy]

On the first date, the lines 'I live and breathe socialism' killed it stone dead. The lamenting of the state of the poor whilst quaffing overpriced prosecco ( I stuck to Coke Zero!) dug the hole and not tipping the waiter despite the fact that the waiter worked hard and my date was relatively wealthy buried it.

[DantesJourney]

When I was 16, I decided that I needed an older boyfriend who had some sophistication and started looking around (because I was 16 and clearly stupid). One of my friends from youth club offered to introduce me to his friend on a blind date kind of deal.

This friend turned out to be 27 but I figured it was worth a free film to be kind to the guy when my friend told me he'd never had a girlfriend before. I was sooo wrong.

The date turned out to be at his church and I got to sit through three hours of mind-numbing doctrine about how I was going to hell because I'm Pagan. I was a glutton for punishment though because I still decided to see the date all the way through.

He told me that anything remotely fun like the cinema was sinful so we'd have to do something else. In a moment of blinding stupidity, I suggested a coffee at my mum's house (I know, I know. Young and stupid, remember?)

When we got to my mum's house, a female friend of mine was there who, while I was making a coffee, helpfully told him I was possessed by a demon. Next thing I know, the silly twat was trying to exorcise the demon out of me while my friend was crying with laughter and I was promising to kill her.

I don't know how, but I got rid of him before my my came home and then got stalked for three months. I didn't date much after that.

[DantesJourney]

That should read 'before my mum came home.'

Stupid phone.

[dodobookends]

New bloke came round to collect me for our first date, and was sitting on the sofa while I got my bag. One of my 3 cats casually wandered through the room.

He said "I fucking hate cats - if they come near me I drop kick 'em".

Er... first (and last) date - and no, I didn't invite him in for coffee when he brought me home!

[LizKeen]

Had been seeing him for six weeks, he lived quite a bit away so he came to stay over. We had a few drinks, and then I had gone up to read in bed while he watched match of the day, which he insisted on watching. But apparently he was really pissed off that I wouldn't watch it with him. So he drank ALL the drink in my fridge, like 8 bottles of cider and a couple of large bottles of alcopops, plus the case of beer he had brought, and decided to fuck off down the road to some random house party.

I had fallen asleep, and woke up at 4am to find him gone, my front door left unlocked and all the empty bottles. Twenty minutes later he shows back up, completely hammered, then goes to the toilet and collapses behind the door. I had to break the door to get in, while he lay CRYING behind it.

I got him into bed and went and slept on the sofa. I drove him home the next day and broke up with him by text. He threatened to kill himself and left me crying voicemails for a month.

[spondulix]

"hear that juice"

The man who turned up on a date wearing wooden clogs! I couldn't stop staring. He was nice but dull and when I asked him if he was wearing the clogs as a bet he looked offended and said no, he'd been to Holland.

Oh right, that totally explains it then.

[aurynne]

For the poster who told his story about the laughing-like-a-donkey hunk, I have my own version. This good-looking guy I had just seen a coupole of times in a group of friends, I found him quite attractive, so my best friend and I made this plan of going to the movies with him, and him and I could sit together, and blahblahblah. It was all going well, and the guiy seemed very interested in me. Until there was a funny scene in the movie and the three of us started laughing. His laughter was like:

"HAHAHAHEHEHE... HAHEHE. HEEEHEEEHEEE. heeeeeeee... heeeeeeeeeeEEEeeeeeEEEeeeeehhhhh..." (the last bit sounded a bit like a kitten having a particularly long meow without the "ow" part, and it went on and on, and on)

My best friend and I stared at one another with horror on our faces, and the mutual and instant understanding that this guy was out the door as soon as we could get rid of him.

[exWifebeginsat40]

years ago when online dating was new, i got chatting to a guy and he seemed lovely. lots of texting down the line we agreed he would come to my town for dinner. i remember that melty feeling at the prospect of meeting him.

he talked like a dalek and ate with his mouth open. his liver lips hadn't been apparent in his photo. i still slept with him.

i don't drink any more.

oh, and the man who, after a one-night stand, cried actual tears over the size of his penis.

[toastyarmadillo]

Love these threads

[LadyCassandra]

There was the guy who worked at the place I was temping at who called me the day before our date to say that he couldn't pick me up because he had lost his license due to drink driving
The guy who took me to Alton Towers (a 20 min drive away) and drove so slow that it took over an hour, then refused to go on any of the rides and squealed like a baby on the (tame) wagon ride!

[TooSassy]

Crying laughing at 'hear that juice!!!'

Mine were nowhere near as bad as this!
There was the hot guy who stuck his tongue in my ear and slurped it like he was some sort of dog. Hideous.
And the one who was hot, fun and really into me. Worst kisser EVER!!! I persevered in the hope that he would get better. Nothing did. Including when I stayed over and in the morning his hand slid under my top. He twisted my nipples like they were radio dials. I don't get how so many hot guys really have no idea how to turn a woman on.

Such a waste!

[bimandbam]

Years and years ago I took my mum out for a few drinks in town one night. We ended up getting pissed as farts and staying out pretty late.

Some bloke came over and gave me his number, said I was beautiful and would I call him. Apparently he was really charming. I couldn't remember much because I was very drunk.

The next day my mum encouraged me to call him and arrange a date. Said he was really lovely and kind. He seemed ok on the phone so I met him in a pub a few nights later.

He referred to himself by name. So say his ne was Dale (it was) he said 'Dale will buy you a drink', 'Dale would like to do to another pub now', 'Dale doesn't think you are interested'.

I made my excuses after about an hour 'Bim has to get up really early tomorrow' and jumped in a cab.

The fucker jumped into the next cab and followed me home. I am pottering around in my pjs, letting the dog out for a wee and making a sandwich when his face appeared at my living room window. Luckily I had locked the front door and he couldn't get round the back. I called the dog in pretending I hadn't seen him, locked the back door and phoned the police and my fwb. Fwb got their first and there was a bit of a stand off on my front step.

Never trust your mums judgement on suitable dates!

[Watchatalltimes]

Some of these are hilarious. I had someone who would steal copies of The Sun so he could walk over the page 3 girls. . He also took a magazine from the cinema that you had to pay for and ignored me when I pointed it out. He also wore yellow y fronts. He also bragged about finding a wad of cash whilst out and spent the lot. I ditched him after that.

[Watchatalltimes]

Wank not walk. Kindle predictive text.

[ThreeRuddyTubs]

I was chatting to a fairly interesting good looking guy on POF when out of the blue he sent me a rape joke (to test my humour apparently). I told him he was fucked up in the head and blocked him. Rejoined a few days ago and he's still on there so I'm hoping nobody else has given him a go in the last few months

[SmallLegsOrSmallEggs]

bimandbam your fwb came over to sort out an unflushable bad date? That's extra benefits!

And I was thinking walking over the Sun was far more kinky tbh.

Sadly I have ended up going out with most of my cringey dates.
Back in the day growing hair out from.a short cut, I used to wear my hair in bunches. At the football the guy behind my season ticket seat kept pulling my hair because he "couldn't resist bunches". I had to get my seat moved.

Another: after 3 dates, we dtd. He had been quite a good kisser but the sex was dreadful. Half way through the condom came off. I had to go to the bathroom to retrieve it. Then I made an excuse about needing to catch the bus and hastily got dressed. He asked if I had enjoyed it.

I had an Italian non stallion who was apparently trying to tune my breasts to receive long way radio he was twisting the nipples about so much. I should have stopped at the point where he sucked my bottom lip into his mouth and bit it.

Another bloke tried to get me to come back to his place to have 'rickles' for breakfast. I assume he meant Ricicles.

The man who cornered me on the bus to Glasgow to see my bf. Asked if I would like to go to a hotel. I said I was going to see bf. He said it didn't matter as I wasn't married. Asked had I ever experienced as Asian man and then implied I was racist because I didn't want to blowout my bf to go off with a complete stranger who cornered me on the bus

[Buttercup27]

I was in my teens (15/16) and was set up with an older man 19 he took me to the park where he said, lots if people look up to me as a brother, a farther and even a grandfather! date didn't last long after I couldn't stop laughing!

[Littledafty]

Hear that juice was nearly 20 years ago. I remember being so horrified and trying to tell my flatmates the next day. Because I couldn't bring myself to say the words as they were giving me the boak we had to improvise.
A hilarious version of charades/give us a clue style game ensued.
At one point I was trying to mime the juice part by holding up a lemon.
One of my flatmates yelled out triumphantly, hear that zing?
Maybe that would have been preferable

[OnADarkDesertHighway]

In my 20s been seeing him a few years, loved him to bits. We had always had an adventurous sex life but he watched a lot of porn and developed an obsession with watersports which ain't my thing. How the fuck is that sexual!!! Went off him but did not end it until he kept suggesting a threesome - him, me and my mum!!! Er no. Wanker.

Went out with a bloke couple of times. Weren't too keen but intelligent and interesting to talk to. Went for a drive one lunchtime and he told me how attractive he found me cos I was 'Aryan' I nearly said I am not Aries but stopped myself. Turned out he was outing himself as a Nazi sympathiser. I did not meet him again. Scarily he was an ex-copper.

[OnceAMeerNotAlwaysAMeer]

boy expat that must have been a odd and uncomfortable experience with his mum watching the sex scene along with you two

[OnceAMeerNotAlwaysAMeer]

my worst two:

someone I got to the point of DTD with ... then he dropped his keks and the smell...... I didn't want THAT anywhere near me.

Same guy rang me up some months later and said "Im coming to stay at your house tonight" Being far too nice then, I said ... er, okay, but it's separate bedrooms. He said "no I'm sleeping in your bed".

No you're fucking not.

the other one wasn't a bf but he was kind of interested in a shag ... even though I was rather happily married and he was friends with my husband :/ He thinks all women are servants and ought to find him irresistible and fund his lifestyle to the point of ripping off his ex gf for 30k ..... Anyway he wasn't too overt about wanting to shag so I let it go.

Until the day he said that he could see inside me and read my thoughts and had been able to for ages.

He was dead serious.

[Ohdearohdearme]

I'd been seeing someone for around a month who was 30 and lived with his parents... not ideal, but I could overlook it. I went round to meet the family and realised that he actually slept in a bunk bed with his 28 year old brother.... despite the fact there were 2 spare bedrooms in the house?! Their mum was doing the ironing and it transpired that said man, his brother and his Ddd all shared the same underwear, they just took whatever was on top of the communal pile??! What's more, the brother's girlfriend was my man's ex! Talk about keeping it in the family! Needless to say, I cooled things off between us after that...

[Ohdearohdearme]

Dad, not Ddd!

[Ohdearohdearme]

I've remembered another one, not so much a potential boyfriend (from my point of view anyway) but nonetheless a massive turn off....

I was walking home with a swollen puffy face after having my wisdom tooth extracted when a fat man in a blue car pulled next to me and asked for directions. I told him which way to go as best as I could encumbered by my swollen mouth, then he drove off... two minutes later he came back and wound down his window.
Him: "You've got a nice face."
Me: "Um, if you say so."
Him: "And nice boots."
Me: :Oh, thanks."
Him: "What size are they?".
Me: "7."
Him: "No...nice BOOBS, not boots - what size are they?"
(I'm wearing a thick black coat buttoned up to the neck)
Me: "Sod off!"
I walked away. By that point a queue of three irate drivers had formed behind him.
Him: "No, wait - what size are they? I need to know!"
In an attempt to follow me he reversed his car straight into the back of car behind!
So, that day my boobs officially stopped traffic. I can think of greater accolades...