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To tell them to find their own way to the airport in a foreign country

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EspressoMonkey Sun 20-Jan-13 09:30:27

First of all, sorry, long story and first world problem.

DH, DCs and i live abroad for DH's job. We live in a rented house close to DH's work as it is not really easy for foreigners to buy property where he works. I miss England and our lovely home there, so last year DH bought me a Ski Chalet as a birthday present / thank you for leaving your family and job in England to follow me around the world, present. He insisted it was my chalet, i could decorate it how i wanted etc, do what i wanted with it.

The chalet is in a fabulous ski resort and to me it is very much our home. We spend most weekends there, we do not rent it out as a holiday chalet.

Last year MIL asked whether HSIL and her uni flat mates could visit for a weeks snowboarding holiday. I was reluctant to agree. DH's does not really know his HSis and when she has visited us in other homes she has been very messy (straightens hair over sink leaving behind lots of hair etc etc) and she never helps out at all. Reluctantly i agreed, MIL insisted her friends were nice and they would help out and babysit DCs in exchange for free board.

HSIL and her friends booked plane tickets which meant they landed late at night with no way of getting to the chalet so DH drove a 6 hour round trip to collect them from the airport.

They have been here all week and as i guessed, have been hard work. They have done nothing to help out around the house, not bothered to help with dinner or clean away afterwards, not helped with DCs or bothed to even buy me a bunch if flowers or some chocs to say thank you for having them. We all eat together but they talk amongst themselves and make little conversation.

On Wednesday DH was called back to work with a crisis, leaving DCs, myself and HSIL and her friends. Since then they have been worse, going out at night and getting drunk and returning at 2/3am and waking DCs and i with their noise. Last night things worsened. DCs and i were woken at 3am, i could hear male voices and smelt cigarette smoke. Our house is strictly non smoking, especially as we have a baby. I went into the lounge and interrupted the party. I asked the young men to stop smoking in my home and to please leave as i didn't know who they were. The young men were local lads and were very apologetic for smoking and waking us and explained they didn't know it was a private home. As they left one of HSIL's friends, under her breath, called me a snotty cow. I turned around and politely challeneged her on her comment. She repeated it and called me an old hag too (34 BTW, she is 20).

I went back to bed fuming and in tears. This morning i woke them all up at 8.00am. They are due to fly back home tonight and i assume were expecting DH or me to take them to the airport. I explained that because DH was not here and because we had had a lot of snow lately and the minibus was snowed in, they could make their own way back to the airport via public transport. I was not driving them 6 hours round trip. They had 12 hours to get back to the airport themselves. The journey is a bus and two train rides and takes a total of 3.5 / 4 hours. An hour later i heard the door bang and went to their rooms. They have left and take all their stuff. They have not said good bye. The room where the two girls were sleeping has been trashed. Make up; lipstick, foundation and other stuff has been smeared into my beautiful new White Company bed sheets. It doesn't look like an accident as it is on all the pillows, duvet and sheet.

I phoned DH at work and told him what had happened. It was a broken line and DH was v. busy at work so i know he wasn't really aware of the whole story as it was hardto talk. But he questioned whether i had checked they had money to get to the airport and whether the trains were running. I hadn't. I have checked since and the trains are running. But have i done the right thing? AIBU?

Panzee Sun 20-Jan-13 09:32:26

Not at all. They sound awful. On the upside, I don't think they will be inviting themselves again! smile

thekingfisher Sun 20-Jan-13 09:33:05


redexpat Sun 20-Jan-13 09:33:31

Hell no YANBU!

SparkyTGD Sun 20-Jan-13 09:35:46

YANBU, cheeky cows.

I hope your DH gives her an earful when he has the chance.

ThreeBeeOneGee Sun 20-Jan-13 09:35:56

The fact that they have damaged your property in a fit of pique shows that YANBU. They have been more than 'hard work'.

LAlady Sun 20-Jan-13 09:36:28


I would take photos of what they have done too.

storminabuttercup Sun 20-Jan-13 09:37:18

YANBU. Cheeky mares! Even if the trains aren't running its tough shit, not your problem. They treat it like a hotel not a family home, a hotel wouldn't get them back to the airport. Take pictures of the mess and bill them.

Bonsoir Sun 20-Jan-13 09:37:21

I don't think YABU. But I think you were crazy to let them come to stay in the first place!

beckhamz Sun 20-Jan-13 09:37:35

YANBU. They sound like ungrateful, entitled brats. Will you/DH br raisingbthis with MIL? She ought, perhaps, to hear how her daughter has behaved so that she doesn't foist her onto others in the future.

Bluestocking Sun 20-Jan-13 09:38:00

Of course you're not being unreasonable. What horrible, badly brought-up young women. Is this your husband's half-sister? It wasn't clear to me what the relationship is.

Chubfuddler Sun 20-Jan-13 09:38:36

They must never ever be allowed to stay again. No bitching carping or moaning from your in laws or husband. Never.

Fucking ingrates. Hopefully one day when they have grown up and are struggling to get a small child settled they will shudder with shame at their behaviour.

Luckyluckyme Sun 20-Jan-13 09:38:38

What LAlady said.

Then you'll have proof that you're not just a "snotty cow".

ThreeBeeOneGee Sun 20-Jan-13 09:38:43

Definitely take photos and ask MIL to pay for replacement bedding.

BellaVita Sun 20-Jan-13 09:39:01


EuroShagmore Sun 20-Jan-13 09:39:20

YANBU. It sounds like they forget they were not in a crappy apartment in Magaluf but in someone else's home. What awful little madams.

SparkyTGD Sun 20-Jan-13 09:39:37

Definitely take photos of the mess.

MousyMouse Sun 20-Jan-13 09:39:49

they are adults and should be expected to manage on their own. if not tough titty.
I would be tempted to send them an invoice for cleaning the room. and don't let them stay again (for free).

LittleChimneyDroppings Sun 20-Jan-13 09:40:43

No you weren't , the selfish little cows. I would send them a bill for the damage as well.

EuroShagmore Sun 20-Jan-13 09:41:04

Take photos as they are bound to go crying to MIL about how awful you were.

Chubfuddler Sun 20-Jan-13 09:41:21

I would actually have thrown them out into the night for the hag/snotty cow comment. How fucking dare they. Am raging on your behalf.

LittleChimneyDroppings Sun 20-Jan-13 09:41:28

Yes take photos of the mess. You might need the evidence.

GetOrf Sun 20-Jan-13 09:41:41

Take photos of the mess and send the pictures to your MIL saying what completely disgusting individuals they are.

Good on you for not taking them back, cheeky twats. I bet they were furious (good).

SunflowersSmile Sun 20-Jan-13 09:42:26

Take photos of malicious damage just in case people start defending them.
Absolute selfish bitches.
Hope you are ok.

EspressoMonkey Sun 20-Jan-13 09:43:08

Yes DH's half sister. They barely know each other as 15 years age difference and DH has lived abroad most his adult life.

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