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AIBU?

To tell them to find their own way to the airport in a foreign country

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EspressoMonkey · 20/01/2013 09:30

First of all, sorry, long story and first world problem.

DH, DCs and i live abroad for DH's job. We live in a rented house close to DH's work as it is not really easy for foreigners to buy property where he works. I miss England and our lovely home there, so last year DH bought me a Ski Chalet as a birthday present / thank you for leaving your family and job in England to follow me around the world, present. He insisted it was my chalet, i could decorate it how i wanted etc, do what i wanted with it.

The chalet is in a fabulous ski resort and to me it is very much our home. We spend most weekends there, we do not rent it out as a holiday chalet.

Last year MIL asked whether HSIL and her uni flat mates could visit for a weeks snowboarding holiday. I was reluctant to agree. DH's does not really know his HSis and when she has visited us in other homes she has been very messy (straightens hair over sink leaving behind lots of hair etc etc) and she never helps out at all. Reluctantly i agreed, MIL insisted her friends were nice and they would help out and babysit DCs in exchange for free board.

HSIL and her friends booked plane tickets which meant they landed late at night with no way of getting to the chalet so DH drove a 6 hour round trip to collect them from the airport.

They have been here all week and as i guessed, have been hard work. They have done nothing to help out around the house, not bothered to help with dinner or clean away afterwards, not helped with DCs or bothed to even buy me a bunch if flowers or some chocs to say thank you for having them. We all eat together but they talk amongst themselves and make little conversation.

On Wednesday DH was called back to work with a crisis, leaving DCs, myself and HSIL and her friends. Since then they have been worse, going out at night and getting drunk and returning at 2/3am and waking DCs and i with their noise. Last night things worsened. DCs and i were woken at 3am, i could hear male voices and smelt cigarette smoke. Our house is strictly non smoking, especially as we have a baby. I went into the lounge and interrupted the party. I asked the young men to stop smoking in my home and to please leave as i didn't know who they were. The young men were local lads and were very apologetic for smoking and waking us and explained they didn't know it was a private home. As they left one of HSIL's friends, under her breath, called me a snotty cow. I turned around and politely challeneged her on her comment. She repeated it and called me an old hag too (34 BTW, she is 20).

I went back to bed fuming and in tears. This morning i woke them all up at 8.00am. They are due to fly back home tonight and i assume were expecting DH or me to take them to the airport. I explained that because DH was not here and because we had had a lot of snow lately and the minibus was snowed in, they could make their own way back to the airport via public transport. I was not driving them 6 hours round trip. They had 12 hours to get back to the airport themselves. The journey is a bus and two train rides and takes a total of 3.5 / 4 hours. An hour later i heard the door bang and went to their rooms. They have left and take all their stuff. They have not said good bye. The room where the two girls were sleeping has been trashed. Make up; lipstick, foundation and other stuff has been smeared into my beautiful new White Company bed sheets. It doesn't look like an accident as it is on all the pillows, duvet and sheet.

I phoned DH at work and told him what had happened. It was a broken line and DH was v. busy at work so i know he wasn't really aware of the whole story as it was hardto talk. But he questioned whether i had checked they had money to get to the airport and whether the trains were running. I hadn't. I have checked since and the trains are running. But have i done the right thing? AIBU?

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melj1213 · 31/03/2021 22:28

@oldshoeuk why bump an 8 year old thread for such an irrelevant comment?

ZOMBIE ALERT

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oldshoeuk · 31/03/2021 21:46

Sounds like a few less Christmas cards this year

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SadderThanEeyore · 28/01/2021 16:30

@Brefugee

i wonder if there's a way *@mumsnet* could change the colour on threads that were started more than a year ago so we don't have all the zombie nonsense?

(this is a great thread though)

Apparently not. I asked them if they could do that ages ago.
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DdraigGoch · 28/01/2021 16:05

@HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee

Oh yes you’re right. Eight year
Sheets will be well done in

Nah, you were right first time. It's only seven years as we are trying to forget that 2020 ever happened.
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SchadenfreudePersonified · 28/01/2021 14:32

@Lalliella

I wonder what happened to *@LessMissAbs*, she seemed nice Grin

Grin Grin Grin

She's probably helping the homeless somewhere, offering them a plague-free bed to sleep in in these difficult pandemic times.
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partyatthepalace · 28/01/2021 08:32

Zombie - ha! Well I hope she got the lipstick marks out of the white company sheets..

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partyatthepalace · 28/01/2021 08:31

No you are not being unreasonable.

But equally I can see your DH is going to be sensitive about it as she is younger sister and he has done well in life etc. Take photos in case there is kickback. (But don’t send them to him right now, that is mad.)

In an ideal world you might have checked they had money, given its DH sister, but if they don’t they will call parents so no big deal.

I think the main thing here is don’t make a drama of it. They behaved badly and you won’t have them back again. Be firm to DH and MIL and don’t justify yourself beyond the facts.

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QueenOfLabradors · 27/01/2021 18:04

This has come back so many times that I'm on it with three different usernames! I did realise it was a Zombie the second time... Just really hoped OP might come back if we asked nicely enough. @12FreeRangeEggs thanks for texting @EspressoMonkey we would all love to hear the ongoing saga but obviously only if it can be done without risk of outage.

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EngelbertsRumpispink · 27/01/2021 05:41

Was just gonna say that there was an identical thread like
this a couple years ago... then looked at the date... and...
Wow! -- shocked, it's been EIGHT years ago already! Shock

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WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 27/01/2021 04:19

I realised it was a zombie thread when I saw Bonsoirs username.
Then I saw lots of nice, familiar usernames I've not seen in a longtime.

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SheilaWilcox · 27/01/2021 02:06

@Margotshypotheticaldog

I have to know what has happened in the years in between. Where is the HSil Now? Is shs a reformed character? What ever happened to the handsome Eastern European ski instructors? And what of Big Bad Barry and Little Baby Barry?? I MUST KNOW!! 🤯

Wondering all this too having only just found the thread (just a few years late.)

Ski instructors...Mmmm....time for bed!
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WombOfOnesOwn · 27/01/2021 01:46

8 years and my husband still has never bought me a chalet as a "thank you."

I suppose I must begin dropping some hints.

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Outdoorsywithgin · 27/01/2021 00:06

@HippoOnMyRoofEatingCake

This thread seems to get bumped every couple of years. I'm starting to think it's OP namechanging and bumping itself in an effort to relive some of her mumsnet glory.

And who can blame her? This is a flipping CLASSIC!
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HippoOnMyRoofEatingCake · 26/01/2021 23:45

This thread seems to get bumped every couple of years. I'm starting to think it's OP namechanging and bumping itself in an effort to relive some of her mumsnet glory.

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Hollywolly1 · 26/01/2021 23:13

Arrrrrrrh I just realised this thread was from 2013,ShockGrin

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Hollywolly1 · 26/01/2021 23:08

You are not being unreasonable, those girl's or (yokes)are a bunch of horrors. I bet they were extremely extremely jealous of you and then they thank you for your hospitality by ruining your home.You seem like a generous woman to allow friends of your husband's half sister to holiday in your home,like that's a big ask but not to worry she has burned that bridge Grin. The son Barry being a baby was really funny,I was expecting a grown manConfused.Anyway onwards and upwards and good luck with the chalet it sounds gorgeous and the poolStar

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Fuckingcrustybread · 26/01/2021 23:07

@Lalliella

I wonder what happened to *@LessMissAbs*, she seemed nice Grin

🤣🤣 Less Miss Abs, what a complete and utter knobhead.
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BonnieDundee · 26/01/2021 22:57

@MNHQcan this go into classics, pretty pretty please? This is up there with the Mexican House Thief!

Wash your mouth out. Nothing is as good as Mexican House Thief Grin

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Lalliella · 26/01/2021 22:55

I wonder what happened to @LessMissAbs, she seemed nice Grin

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justasking111 · 26/01/2021 22:38

What a fun thread.

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BiggerThanCheeses · 26/01/2021 22:37

@MNHQ can this go into classics, pretty pretty please? This is up there with the Mexican House Thief! Grin

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BonnieDundee · 26/01/2021 21:50

I was just wondering where in earth are these people??? What? Swanning about? Catching planes? Going out? Staying at people's houses? Wearing lipstick???!! Then I spotted the date. Oh. Back in the day...

Grin

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peak2021 · 26/01/2021 21:39

I'm curious as to the 'high up' husband is? Assuming 8 years later they are still together.

Didn't Phil Collins used to live in Switzerland?

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ThanksItHasPockets · 26/01/2021 21:33

@12FreeRangeEggs

I know Espresso Monkey from when I lived in Switzerland. She left MN when there was a hacking scandal quite a few years ago (5 years now?) her husband was concerned about privacy, he is quite high profile now.

I’ve text her to tell her her thread is back. I know you never really leave MN so wonder whether she pops in from time to time...

So the lack of update is all Jeffrey’s fault? *shakes fist impotently*
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Blackdog19 · 26/01/2021 21:23

I’ve really enjoyed this thread! I was also confused how the weekend to Britain was coming about and then saw dates! Come on OP update!! Did you get new sheets?!

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