People and lifts!

[PearsandAlmonds]

What is it about lifts that brings the worst out in people?

We have a woman who is currently interning for a short period of time in our department (in her thirties - not a teen).

While I don't directly work in the area she's in, her manager got in contact with me because we live in the same area and asked if I could bring her in for about a month, six weeks at the most, until she is moved on to the next department in her internship. She's been waiting at the end of my road every morning, and I have been picking her up with absolutely no issues for about a month. She is on time, always ready to go. Perfectly pleasant.

I am away for work for a few days, so I mentioned this to her in advance and also let her manager know in passing that alternate arrangements need to be made (as he thought the 6 weeks were fully covered)

She turned up this morning, knocked on my front door, and when my DH answered, said that she expected that 'someone' would drive her in because I was away.

He laughingly said, 'What, on the handlebars of my bicycle?' She got very affronted at that. (He was dressed in cycle gear, to be clear, and had a bike out in the hallway ready to go - as he was on the way to his job)

She then just stood there and asked what he was going to do about it (not aggressively but obviously expecting him to solve or do something) - he said 'I am sure you will work it out' and cycled off

Who does that?!?

Oh dear. 😂😂😂

No way. Are there people like this??

She is bat shit! I bet her manager can't wait for that placement to be over.

I've seen some mad threads about lifts on here, but I think this one takes the biscuit!

I love your DH's response. I guess if her manager arranged for you to get her to work, she won't feel it's her responsibility to make alternative arrangements when you're away. I wonder if she made it to work or if she spent the day outside your house waiting for a lift. Please keep us all updated.

She sounds mad as a box of frogs. How does she even know what house you live in if she meets you at the end of the road?

I don’t even get why you’d need to tell the manager or he’d need to make sure she was covered, surely it’s up to her to make sure she can get to work.

How much petrol money is she paying you?

Even IF she had been contributing, I'd be stopping all lifts when you come back from leave. She can sort out her own transport and I'd be pissed off at the manager for suggesting it in the first place!

While your colleague does sound unreasonable this is Mumsnet so someone will be along to blame the cyclist soon.

Once upon a time….

OK - is she still there? at your door??

There are some internships that include transport from X place to city centre. Costs are covered because they're not getting paid. But it sounds unlikely there was an agreement like that here? When you told her you were going to be off, what did she say?

She sounds unhinged and deranged.

I would tell her manager via email, copying in her and your manager too, to say that you are not responsible for said employees travel to get to and from work.

Dont even mention other arrangements.

Literally say that and sack her off.

I blame the cyclist.

That is mad!!! I hope someone told her she’s entitled! And mad!

Sadly, this is what happens when people believe someone else will fix things for them.

who takes her home?
That’s nuts, but his did she know where you live?

I'd tell manager that this arrangement doesn't work for you anymore and they need to find this woman a different way of getting to work (if it is their responsibility)

Get yourself way out of this situation and leave them all to it

Wow - how rude . I would message the manager and this woman and say that you are not willing to continue give her lifts and she will have to make other arrangements .

Rent a tandem and pick her up on that next time.

I'd end the arrangement immediately. Say she's turned up to your home and been unpleasant to your husband and you no longer want to share your car with her. The cheeky cow!

Getting yourself to work is your responsibility not your employers or colleagues.

I am still away at the moment, so I've not had an update via work.

DH confirmed she was not there when he got home. The eldest said she was sitting out on the garden wall when he left about 20 or so minutes later.

To answer the 'how did she know where you live' question - the manager didn't want to give my full address out, so told her to be at the end of the road, not realising my house is quite near that end of the road. So over the last few weeks she will have clearly seen me leave my house, get in my car, pull out onto the road, drive a few feet and let her get in.

Oh, I forgot to say - I was only asked to take her in. I'm not sure what the arrangement is in relation to her getting home.

As it was one way, only for 6 weeks, and she has been there on time every morning - it's been fine

Wow, the entitlement!! Definitely let her know that this arrangement no longer works for you and that she will need to make alternative arrangements as of now.

I don't think so😂