People and lifts!

[PearsandAlmonds]

What is it about lifts that brings the worst out in people?

We have a woman who is currently interning for a short period of time in our department (in her thirties - not a teen).

While I don't directly work in the area she's in, her manager got in contact with me because we live in the same area and asked if I could bring her in for about a month, six weeks at the most, until she is moved on to the next department in her internship. She's been waiting at the end of my road every morning, and I have been picking her up with absolutely no issues for about a month. She is on time, always ready to go. Perfectly pleasant.

I am away for work for a few days, so I mentioned this to her in advance and also let her manager know in passing that alternate arrangements need to be made (as he thought the 6 weeks were fully covered)

She turned up this morning, knocked on my front door, and when my DH answered, said that she expected that 'someone' would drive her in because I was away.

He laughingly said, 'What, on the handlebars of my bicycle?' She got very affronted at that. (He was dressed in cycle gear, to be clear, and had a bike out in the hallway ready to go - as he was on the way to his job)

She then just stood there and asked what he was going to do about it (not aggressively but obviously expecting him to solve or do something) - he said 'I am sure you will work it out' and cycled off

Who does that?!?

She's obviously made some work arrangement and would only be doing it for financial gain so morally he should help and it should be fairly straight forward to claim back.
It does annoy me though when managers ask me to use my car. I need to learn to say no or have good excuses ready. The money isn't usually worth it.

OP already said she wasn’t getting paid for taking her in, it was just a favour.

And it’s nothing to do with her husband - OP hasn’t even said he works there 😵‍💫.

Uh, no. My DH does not work at the same place I do.

Also, there is no way we would or should pay, nor would we offer to do so.

The way you’ve twisted yourself to make that make sense is impressive! @PearsandAlmonds isn’t getting money for it and has already said that. The husband owes the CF intern absolutely nothing and has no moral obligation to get her to work. She took a role and she knew where it was. It’s her problem to get herself there.

I think she’s posted four times suggesting that somehow it is OP and her husbands obligation to get this woman to work 😆.

Quite a useful vocabulary developing. We had a student who came to be described as 'a psychological black hole' for similar reasons (she was not lacking intellect).

It's the Marilyn Monroe 'helpless female' stereotype, though I believe she was better than that in reality.

I have said on other threads (and wound a few people up) that the 27 to 35 year generation are a wet lettuce, self- absorbed, entitled lot in general. Obviously there are exceptions.

But they really are - think the world owes them a living.

She epitomises this.

Damsels in distress get on my wick. 😁

I disagree with the age range you’ve chosen but not the message. I think a lot stems from the expectation that schools will serve children their learning on a plate and spoon-feed it to them. If children aren’t doing what they’re meant to be doing, it’s somehow the teacher’s fault. Add that to permissive parents and it’s descending into chaos.

I think it’s a good thing that it’s no longer acceptable to treat children like shit but that’s gone too far in that children are not to be held accountable for anything. A lot of those children are now working adults who still can’t take accountability or responsibility for themselves.

Maybe @TalkToTheHand123 is the CF intern!

Just thinking the same !

What?! I am laidback and pretty passive BUT this is taking it to a sociopathic levels.

I think that a lot of young adults now just live in suspended animation in the maturity stakes, whereby they're clearly no longer children, but they can't afford to leave home until they're approaching 30, or even older.

Without the ability to establish their own home, this also means that people are marrying much later, and can't afford to have their own children until a lot later; and as a result, many of them firmly maintain the mindset of being dependent on 'proper' and/or older adults, as they've never transitioned to independence themselves.

Not that many generations ago, people would have been leaving home soon after they turned 18, married and in their own home with two or three kids - it would have seemed utterly laughable for them to not be able to stand on their own two feet.