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I finally said something in public at work

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AlPaccacino · 15/09/2026 22:20

We had a training day at work about making assumptions and the way that we as emergency service workers need to think about how and why we stereotype.
Part of it was looking at celebrities and saying whether we thought they were sad or bad (holding up cards) And lo and behold JKR came up. Of course there was the usual (twattish) bloke (TB). “Oh she’s so bad. She’s a transphobe” I immediately said she’s neither. She’s a bloody queen. And also pointed out that she’d never said anything that could be considered transphobic, but standing up for women.

A surprising amount of other people agreed with me and then gratifyingly, the trainer also said that before including her in the series of photo, he’d read through everything she has said and he agreed that all she has done is to protect women’s spaces.

I was so happy, scared, worried etc but I bloody did it. I’ve only ever spoken in the shadows, as it were, with people that I’d quietly sounded out before. À year ago, I would probably have been looking at the possibility of a discussion with management if not a disciplinary, and now this.
TB made some grumbling about what he’d heard and read and then settled down into a grump. He has form for being a twat generally in discussions but this time he got shut down by the room.

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CarpeVitam · 15/09/2026 22:23

Well done @AlPaccacino

It takes courage (even now) to speak out against the ideology so well done you!

CarpeVitam · 15/09/2026 22:23

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? 🤔

helderste · 15/09/2026 22:25

Well done, OP. That was brave of you 💪

FlippyKiYayFlippyFlipper · 15/09/2026 22:25

Well done. I agree, really brave.
also reassuring to hear how many agreed!

FlippyKiYayFlippyFlipper · 15/09/2026 22:26

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I think we’ve found TB! 👋

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 15/09/2026 22:26

Ravelry FB group are starting and finishing every post with FDT and FJKR. Apparently in the name of resisting fascism. So proud of themselves they are, saving the world with their proud resistance.

Lolamorte · 15/09/2026 22:29

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 15/09/2026 22:26

Ravelry FB group are starting and finishing every post with FDT and FJKR. Apparently in the name of resisting fascism. So proud of themselves they are, saving the world with their proud resistance.

I can guess the second but not the first?

GreyskySexRealistsky · 15/09/2026 22:29

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If I'd been there I'd have clapped and cheered. Loudly. Well done OP.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 15/09/2026 22:30

Lolamorte · 15/09/2026 22:29

I can guess the second but not the first?

F*k Donald Trump.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 15/09/2026 22:32

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 15/09/2026 22:30

F*k Donald Trump.

It’s like this reflex virtue signalling. Like a ritual they’re performing perfunctorily to be allowed to ask questions about knitting.

Lottapianos · 15/09/2026 22:32

Ah well done OP, that's bloody brilliant. Really impressed that the trainer backed you up!

alcovecupboards · 15/09/2026 22:35

GreyskySexRealistsky · 15/09/2026 22:29

If I'd been there I'd have clapped and cheered. Loudly. Well done OP.

Perfectly normal behaviour.

GreyskySexRealistsky · 15/09/2026 22:36

alcovecupboards · 15/09/2026 22:35

Perfectly normal behaviour.

Glad you agree.

AlPaccacino · 15/09/2026 22:37

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Don’t be a twat.

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AlPaccacino · 15/09/2026 22:43

Why would I make it up? I don’t know anyone here. No one here knows me. We don’t have ‘likes’ on here.

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PrizedPickledPopcorn · 15/09/2026 22:26

Ravelry FB group are starting and finishing every post with FDT and FJKR. Apparently in the name of resisting fascism. So proud of themselves they are, saving the world with their proud resistance.

That’s so hilariously desperate 😂

alcovecupboards · 15/09/2026 22:44

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2026 22:45

AlPaccacino · 15/09/2026 22:43

Why would I make it up? I don’t know anyone here. No one here knows me. We don’t have ‘likes’ on here.

Oh don’t worry, that poster definitely has GCDS (Gender Critical Derangement Syndrome)

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 15/09/2026 22:46

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You’re doing great work for the resistance tonight, you can sleep well having signalled your virtue enthusiastically all across MN. The world will be safer for it. Babies will sleep better.

JudyTeeny · 15/09/2026 22:48

Good for you! You are brave enough to have the courage of your convictions. I hope I'd have done the same.

alcovecupboards · 15/09/2026 22:52

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2026 22:45

Oh don’t worry, that poster definitely has GCDS (Gender Critical Derangement Syndrome)

Is that what it is when you believe in women's rights and biology but don't obsess over trans people? Lot of that around here.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2026 22:53

No it’s when you keep making embarrassingly silly and angry comments because the existence of women who speak up annoys you. Seething and not coping 🤷‍♀️

alcovecupboards · 15/09/2026 22:56

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2026 22:53

No it’s when you keep making embarrassingly silly and angry comments because the existence of women who speak up annoys you. Seething and not coping 🤷‍♀️

Oh I'm so sorry to hear of your affliction. I hope you get better.

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